Is it true that two people can have amazing chemistry and love each other...

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    LoliHeyposted 3 years ago

    Is it true that two people can have amazing chemistry and love each other...

    but then get married only to find out they don't have sexual compatibility in the bedroom?  That is, if they waited until marriage to have sex.

  2. fpherj48 profile image77
    fpherj48posted 3 years ago

    Lolita....Should you decide to wait for answers from Human beings who waited until marriage to have sex, I hope you plan on living to at least 100.
    OR~~ of course you might just get an answer from someone who is between 90 to 100 currently, who actually believed they must wait & in fact DID wait ~and FURTHER, even "remember" if they had sex or not~ OR if they know what the hell compatible sex is! 
    Let's do something different for a change around here and GET REAL

    TODAY~~The definition of a "virgin," is an overweight, very ugly, home-schooled 12 year old recluse whose parents chain her to the front door from an electric choke chain, attached to an alarm. 
    I worked with young teens for half my can argue with me til your blue in the face and I will repeatedly inform you YOU'RE IN DENIAL.

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      LoliHeyposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Believe it or not, I do know Christians who waited until marriage to have sex.  They're out urban legends...

    2. fpherj48 profile image77
      fpherj48posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      aHEM..Scuse me Lolita..Believe it or not? NOT!! what U mean is, U know "people" who SAY they waited.I am not the least bit gullible.  Self-proclaimed "Christians" have MORE reason 2 lie about $ex!.Can we all say, Josh Duggar, Jimmy Swaggart?etal?

    3. gmwilliams profile image83
      gmwilliamsposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      True, only single fundamentalist religionists are virgins.The more progressive/liberal religionists aren't virgins.Even those who are currently 90-100 years of age had sex in their youth.Not too many people who are physical virgins nowadays!

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Just about anything is possible!
    I actually know of a woman who is experiencing this very thing and has been married for over 25 years.
    The sexual incompatibility according to her is (his) lack of libido and his inability to rarely take her to the moon.
    This is probably easier to accept when both people are virgins.
    However in their case they had both been married/divorced before and decided during their courtship not to have sex until after they got married. Even when he attempts to appease her it done without zeal. No one wants to feel like they getting a half-hearted favor.
    One of the many reasons in my opinion people often suggest delaying having sex or waiting until after marriage (aside from the religious dogma) is because if there is an "emotional investment"  it's much harder to walk away over a sexual incompatibility issue .
    You're far more likely to put in more effort to find as solution.
    Where as if you had sex the first, second, or third date and it wasn't enjoyable you'd probably kick them to the curb much sooner.
    I also know of another couple that abstained from having sex until after marriage only for the wife to discover her new husband was impotent. He was a minister and she stayed with him until he died.
    Odds are if either woman had known what the future held they would have probably chosen to marry these men.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I meant to say they would have chosen NOT to marry these men. In both instances it was a "second marriage" and very few people want to go through multiple divorces.

  4. gmwilliams profile image83
    gmwilliamsposted 3 years ago

    NO!  If there is chemistry.....there is going to be sex.......oftentimes hot sex before marriage commences.  If there is going to be no sex, why be in the relationship in the first place.

    That IS the REASON not to wait until marriage to have sex.  If one is in a deep relationship, h/she should have sex w/his/her partner to determine sexual compatibility-that is only common sense.  The idea of waiting until marriage to have sex is really an atavistically outmoded idea.   Always TRY before you BUY.


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