Is it racist to not want to date anyone of a particular race?

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   Kat Libertyposted 8 years ago

   I personally think there are people who are attractive and unattractive to me from every single place on this planet. I do feel if you wish to generalise you could say that you have preferences, for example I generally speaking don't fancy blonde men, but that doesn't mean I haven't or won't meet individuals that are 'exceptions' to that. It's just a generalisation used to express your inclination towards a certain feature; blue eyes, blonde hair, big boobs, tall, whatever you know your are especially attracted towards. Also, discounting an entire race beyond a level of just generalising is pretty ignorant.

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   Milind Kulkarniposted 8 years ago

   How you treat people from other races is part of your social life where one has to be equal with everyone. This influences making friendships, cutting business deals and so on. Dating or marrying someone is entirely one's personal choice and is part of the personal life. There is no need to allow one's social life to encroach on his/ her personal life, just to prove that he/she is not racist. You will certainly have personal choices and it is not racism.
   
   That said, it also depends on how explicitly and loudly you say about your negative dating preferences so much that you might sound racist beyond a certain point. Also, one never knows if someone of a different skin color enters one's life and he/ she gets into love with her/ him.

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   DionesiaPposted 8 years ago

   So I would not say that it's racist but I do believe that you reduce your dating pool. But as some people stated, it all depends on the reason why and how you come about it. If you refuse to date black people simply because of a stereotype or generalization, then you would be close minded and biased. If you select people only based of this preference for white people then yes, you could be considered as racist since you would be choosing people only based of their skin color (Unconsciously or consciously thinking that whites are better than blacks in terms of romance for example).
   
   I think that in terms of skin color and dating, it is only a preference when you don't act according to it meaning that you voluntarily don't choose who you are attracted to based of their skin color. An example would be: Suppose you are walking down the street and there are two men/women who are trying to get your attention, one is black and the other is non-black. You can see that the black man/woman is a very good match for you, respectful, nice, sweet, everything you would look for in a mate but the white man/woman is the extreme contrary and both of them are very handsome/beautiful. It would be racist to dismiss both of them when one of them is the perfect match for you but it just so happen that he/she is black, or to chose the white person when they have nothing that you would be looking for in someone outside of their skin color.
   
   You need to be very frank by asking yourself questions such as these: Why am I not attracted to black people? Is it because I frequent black people that put them in a bad light? Because I unconsciously/consciously believe all the stereotypes that I hear about them? Because I find these stereotypes in some of them and I generalize? Or simply because I am not attracted to them, and believe me, there is always a reason to why one is not attracted to someone, it's just unconscious and sometimes we just don't want to admit it to ourselves and to others. You HAVE to be sincere with yourself so that you can find a solution to this problem or come to terms with yourself to become a better person.

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   rexyposted 8 years ago

   no of course not.... who one want to be with is individual choice.... having friend and respecting them no matter what race they are ... is wonderful an shouldn't be offensive...... and don't forget they are many mix race children in schools lately... and every one has to be treated equally and same....

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   Laura Karinaposted 8 years ago

   Date or do not date whoever you want. Regardless or race. Be you.

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   Dakkposted 8 years ago

   Nope. Altough personal preference CAN sometimes be influenced by racist notions, not feeling particulary attracted to people of a certain race has been demonstrated to have at least a partially natural basis. Everyone is free to choose who they'll date, and personal preference is something that must be respected. Nobody is obligated to be attracted to anyone or anything.

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   The Examiner-1posted 8 years ago

   Simply put: I beilieve that it would not as long as the white person had no feeling of superiority or self-righteousness, violence, or such, inside of them.

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   cinders rauhleeposted 8 years ago

   I don't think it is racist at all to not want to date people from a particular race. Just like many other things in life, who you date should be a choice and not an obligation.
   I think that dating someone from a race as a way of showing that you are not racist is very much racist. To me it seems like a 'pity-call' and we pity those that we are in a better place than.

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   Mark O Richardsonposted 5 years ago

   All I can say is that when there was this girl I liked, I was mad that she didn't want to date me just because I was white. She was white and she liked any race EXCEPT for white.

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