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   s_littleposted 14 years ago

   If youre not racist or prejudice then why would a person prefer to date a certain race?
   
   There are so many people out there who date women of a certain race. I dont get it! Everyone is an individual, no certain race looks exactly the same or have the same personalities. So what is it that makes a person decide to just start dating people of a certain race? How can anyone find there soul mate if they limit themselves in that way?

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   vipconsultposted 14 years ago

   Great question, I can't speak from experience since I don't have a problem dating other races, we are all people! I want to live in a world of equality in every aspect, but that is me.. to try and answer you question:
   
   Well, someone who says he is not a racists doesn't mean he will bash other races, but that doesn't mean he is a little afraid of the unknown. It's the same principles with homosexuals, some people will say they have nothing against them while they don't even want to be close to them, they are homophobes. Maybe it's the same with races for some people. Or maybe it's the upbringing, the church beliefs or many other things.
   
   Personally I think it's all BS.
   
   We're different colors
   And different creeds
   And different people
   Have different needs
   It's obvious you hate me
   Though I've done nothing wrong
   I've never even met you
   So what could I have done
   
   People are people
   So why should it be
   You and I shouldn't get along
   People are people
   So why should it be
   You should hate me

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   say it how it isposted 14 years ago

   wait your saying your racist if you dont prefer to be with a different
   raced person i dont get it.

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   s_littleposted 14 years ago

   I saw Chad Ochocinco on the Wendy Williams show and Wendy brought up how on his new tv show he personally picked all white and hispanic women and only three black women. Wendy said she was offended and felt like the black women were basically throw aways. He said he has nothing against black women but he just prefers other races. I didnt get why... so I thought Id ask.
   
   And to say it how it is... no not at all, my question is what reason would a person prefer to date only certain races if youre not prejudice or racists? Those were the only conclusions I could come up with so Im asking all of you what can you come up with...

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   tjhooperposted 14 years ago

   Just because you're not racist doesn't mean you should be open to date all races of people. A big part about relationships and marriage is how well you get along and match with your partner.
   
   People grow up in different lifestyles and race does have a huge impact on how someone is raised. Whether it be religions, mannerisms, philosophies, child raising, etc.
   
   I have many many friends of different races, but I'll be the first to admit what races of people I'm not attracted too. It has nothing to do with preference nor, prejudice. It has everything to do with compatibility.

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   iamqweenbeeposted 14 years ago

   That is so true! Well, I guess preference has a lot to do with it moreso than being racist. I PREFER cute guys but that doesn't make me discriminative towards the not so cute guys.

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   Lifeallstar1posted 14 years ago

   I think it's who you are attracted to, whether it be personality or looks. It all depends on who the person is. Some people in a certain race are not attracted to a certain hair color but it doesn't mean that they would never date them and it certainly doesn't mean they would not be friends with them. For example, if a guy only dates girls with blond hair, since that is what he is attracted to, it doesn't mean his best friend isn't a female brunette. Some white people are mainly attracted to spanish people, but it doesn't mean they are not friends or would never date someone of a different race or look. People change their preference as well. I really think it varies and personality plays a lot into it as well. My example with a guy who only dates blonds, doesn't mean he is attracted to all blonds or if he is extremely attracted to a blond he might end up not dating her, due to personality. She could be totally rude and then a turn off. However, I'm sure certain people are racist and/or will only date a certain race. I like to look at everyone as unique and personality goes a long way. Looks do too but there are beautiful people in every race and people find different thing beautiful about someone and another person could find that same beautiful person ugly. It's all about preference but I think that you are right that it shouldn't matter. Family might be a factor too for some people. It's an interesting question and will be interested to hear other views. Good question! But I agree with you 100%, who cares what race someone is, it shouldn't be about that.

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   Tusitala Tomposted 14 years ago

   I think this Racism thing is, in the very long term, a passing phenemenon.   Turn back the clock a two hundred years and mixed marriages were almost non-existent.  Go back a century and they were pretty rare.   World War Two and numerous War Brides changed things quite a bit.   They continue to change.   Rapid travel, temporary residences in other lands, the Internet, all of this is having its effect.   I doubt there will be much talk about Racial Predudice a few hundred  years from now, if there is any at all.    But by then, we being human, will have invented something else to give us a problem.

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   o0_jo_0oposted 14 years ago

   I don't really notice individual colour or race - and wouldn't know from looking at a person where there heritage lies.  I'm also hopeless identifying accents, so it bears no weight with me.
   My decision to date someone is based totally on attraction to their looks and personality, and this can obviously be wide and varied.
   I have been talking online to an african-american man for six years now, and we are the best of friends.  We would love to meet one day, when either of us are in a financial position to do so - as we both feel strongly that we are the others soul mate.
   Due to migration, the internet, and generational changes, along with education regarding diversity and equal rights - I daresay that in a couple of hundred years, the western world be largely one general colour/race.  It will be of little importance whether your ancestral heritage was China, Africa or Australia.

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    That Grrlposted 12 years ago

    Usually people pick people they have things in common with, like a common heritage, religion, etc. Race would be just one more thing to have in common. It doesn't have anything to do with racism. It's not any more selective than choosing someone who likes sports, doesn't smoke, etc.

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    ReneeDC1979posted 11 years ago

    I don't think racism has anything to do with it.  You like who you like.  That's like asking why do you prefer a taller man over a man shorter than you?  It's what you prefer.  Or why do you want to be with a Christian rather than a Jehova's witness?  Preference.  Or why would you prefer to date someone who loves sports, a home cooked meal, and wants to have children someday.  Preference.  Racism is discrimination towards someone of another race.  Here you go:
    
    1.The belief that all members of each race possess characteristics or abilities specific to that race, esp. so as to distinguish it as...
    2.Prejudice or discrimination directed against someone of a different race based on such a belief.

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    bobbleheadedsamposted 10 years ago

    Sometimes it's racist but usually it's a culture thing. I wouldn't date anyone from another country for that reason. Same with black people. Unless they're a rocker and/or nerd I wouldn't date them.

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    Aneegmaposted 10 years ago

    Good question. As a person that fits that description its not racism. Its just personal preference like some people like chocolate cake over cheese cake. For me I am not attracted to anyone within my race because when I look at them they are my brothers and I feel like I'm dating my brother. I guess because I grew up in a house of nine brothers so dating within my race just doesn't do it for me. So that doesn't make me a racist, that just makes me picky.

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    blessedpposted 5 years ago

    I don't think for some people it has nothing to do with being a racist or prejudice. It is about one's preference. Maybe they are only attracted to persons of a certain race.
    We all look for certain attributes in a person and if they do not possess those attributes they would not be considered.
    So each of us have our likes and standards  and maybe for some it can be prejudice or racist but certainly not for all.

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    Kathryn L Hillposted 5 years ago

    I think there is a natural instinct to marry within one's tribe.
    ... especially for men. Women will more often choose a mate outside their own race.
    It is human nature and not often or easily resisted.

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    Stina Caxeposted 5 years ago

    Cultural differences play a big role in relationships.  In my psychology training I learned that often times people feel more comfortable confiding in somebody with a background similar to theirs.  I think that might also extend into some personal relationships as well.  It doesn't necessarily mean somebody is racist if their personal dating preference is in their own race, perhaps they just feel more comfortable with or understood by somebody who is similar to them in background.

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