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When is the most ideal age to get married if you are from 1.Europe 2.Africa 3.A

  1. Esad Uhmedi profile image60
    Esad Uhmediposted 21 months ago

    When is the most ideal age to get married if you are from
    4.America ?

  2. Tusitala Tom profile image61
    Tusitala Tomposted 21 months ago

    If we're considering that a certain sensibleness and maturity reaches us all at the same age - it doesn't, but this is hypothetical - I'd say around twenty-five.  This way you'll still be relatively young when your kids and even your grandchildren are grown up.  With luck, you might even get to nurse your great grandchildren.

    By twenty-five you'll have got most of your travelling adventures and casual romances 'off your chest,' and will be seriously involved in  working towards owning  a home, having a meaningful social life, and be established in a career.   

    I don't think there is any particular relevance between whether people are from Europe, Africa, Asia, or America.  The point is that one needs to be physically, mentally, and spiritually fit and still improving - and with  dreams of improving further - at an age when one marries.   And of course, we're talking of the optimal age here; this 'ideal' age your asking about.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      25? Wow! Most people I know at that age were either just finishing college or still trying to establish a career path. Very few were in a position to do any traveling & the majority barely had any real dating experience to know what they want.

    2. Tusitala Tom profile image61
      Tusitala Tomposted 20 months agoin reply to this

      Time's HAVE changed!  I was 23 my wife 21 when we married.   My six years in the Navy satisfied much travel and relationships both casual and serious.  By 24 I was established in my career.  Three kids by the time we were thirty.  25 - Great age!.

    3. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 20 months agoin reply to this

      Tom, Actually by today's standards you would be "the exception".
      Many kids today at 25 are living with their parents, working McJobs and saddled with several thousands of dollars in college loans debt.
      The military forces one to grow up. smile

  3. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 21 months ago

    Finding the right mate & being prepared are more important than age.
    Nevertheless maturity and wisdom does tend to come with life/dating experience. Completing one's education, establishing a career, and doing some serious introspective thinking to figure out not only who you are but what it is you want and need in a mate are very important.
    In my opinion the top two reasons why people get divorced are:
    1. They chose the "wrong mate" for themselves.
    This happens when one allows "impulsive connections" and "happenstance" to dictate their relationship choices. They really never had a "mate selection process".
    It's the equivalent of going shopping without a list!
    2. They got married for the "wrong reasons".
    Examples are they had an "age goal" to be married by, all of their friends were married, an ultimatum was given, an unplanned pregnancy, prospective spouse is rich/successful, one person is in the military and about to be deployed, parents are applying pressure, got tired of the status of being "single" and felt the need to have a relationship "go somewhere"...
    A marriage based around (circumstances) is likely to fail.
    The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least have a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.
    While I do believe one's cultural traditions and location can effect one's mindset it's important to remember: Life is a (personal) journey.
    You should not get married until (you feel ready) to be married.
    Some people don't find "the one" until later in life.
    It's also important to note there is nothing wrong with never getting married!

    1. Tusitala Tom profile image61
      Tusitala Tomposted 20 months agoin reply to this

      Oh, that we had such patience, discrimination and wisdom, eh?  We'd all be so happy.  But where would be the challenges of learning the values that unsatistfactory relationships provide?

  4. tamarawilhite profile image91
    tamarawilhiteposted 19 months ago

    In your 20s.
    When you marry below the age of 20, you have very high rates of divorce, physical abuse to due poor relationship skills and nearly guaranteed poverty because you haven't finished an education and job skills to earn a living.
    When you pass 30, a woman's fertility drops and her ability to find a decent partner drops due to increased competition (he can marry younger women, she's less attractive).

    1. Tusitala Tom profile image61
      Tusitala Tomposted 19 months agoin reply to this

      From that answer, Tamara, one can deduce an age of around 20 to 29 for women, at least.  And as women are generally more mature than men in earlier life, around  25 to 35 for men - your views?