Do you believe that if people were intelligent & logical regarding relationships

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   gmwilliamsposted 7 years ago

   Do you believe that if people were intelligent & logical regarding relationships &/or marriage,there
   
   would be LITTLE or NO divorces?
   
   

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   bradmasterOCcalposted 7 years ago

   I don't think that intelligence or logic fit into the basis of marriage or relationships. It is emotional and feelings override smarts.
   
   It is a primitive response by the primitive part of the brain that floods the person with hormones and emotions. It is stimulus response, not logical deduction and action.
   
   In 1970, the no fault divorce laws release the entrapped buyer's remorse, and set them free on their field of dreams. Or let them escape from a mental prison where they were confined by the bounds of legality, the marriage contract.
   
   People make the same mistakes today that were made before 1970, but now we can see their mistakes in the form of divorce filings.

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      dashingscorpioposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Mainly "no fault divorce" allowed couples the ability not to have to smear one another's name. No need to "list a reason" such as cheating or abuse. They could simply say: "irreconcilable differences" and leave it at that.
      "There is no bad guy"

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      bradmasterOCcalposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      common grounds for granting a fault divorce are:
      
          Adultery
          Abandonment for a certain length of time
          Prison confinement
          A spouse is physically unable to have sexual intercourse
          Inflicting emotional or physical pain (cruelty)

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   chuckandus6posted 7 years ago

   I believe that people give up on marriage to quickly, there seems to be more couples who feel as though instead of looking at the problem and fixing it  when things gets a little 1bumpy,they move on to the next one.I think social media gives people this fake illusion that love is so easy to replace.When in fact it is quite hard to find the right one.The ones that divorce,over little imperfections,usually are never happy with anyone

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      dashingscorpioposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Some experts also say many couples got married too quickly!
      They fall head over hills with someone, become engaged only later to find out after they reveal their "authentic selves" they're not compatible! Sometimes cheating/abuse is a cause too!

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   dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

   
   
   Not really. The more intelligent and logical one is the (more likely) they are also to have "boundaries" and "deal breakers".
   Every couple on their wedding day believes they are going to find a way to make their marriage last until death do them part.
   However it's not uncommon for people to "change" over time.
   We're either "growing together" or "growing apart".
   It's almost a cliché to hear someone say:
   "He/she is not the same person I fell in love with."
   Very few newlyweds are planning for cheating, verbal/physical abuse, alcohol/drug addiction, going from a passionate sex life to being in a sexless marriage, or one of them chooses their career over family responsibilities...etc When we change our circumstances change.
   Human beings make mistakes in EVERY area of life including "mate selection". That's not likely to change regardless of intellect.
   Even smart highly educated people marry and file for divorce.

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   gmwilliamsposted 7 years ago

   
   
   Most people date, enter into relationships, & even marry mindlessly.  They enter in such things w/their emotions instead of logically assessing the situations at hand.  Many people enter relationships emotionally, much to their regret later on.  They are of the school that love conquers all, no matter what less desirable attributes their partner may have & if their goals aren't in sync.
   
   Intelligent people wants to know their perspective partner educational, emotional, mental, intellectual, psychological, & socioeconomic qualifications.  People w/similar educational, emotional, mental, intellectual, psychological, & socioeconomic qualifications tend to have more copacetic relationships than those of dissimilar, even opposite educational, emotional, mental, intellectual, psychological, & socioeconomic qualifications.  The premise opposites attract seldom work out in relationships.
   
   Intelligent people date &/or mate smart, wanting the best for themselves. They want dates & mates who are just as smart, educated, & successful as they are.  They aren't about to date &/or mate down because they realize that doing such would be hazardous to their relationships.  People who date &/mate smart are less likely to divorce than those who mindlessly & emotionally enter into a relationship, giving considering whether the attributes of the perspective date or mate will be a relationship asset or liability.

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