Do you believe in love at first sight.

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   Castlepalomaposted 6 years ago

   Do you believe in love at first sight?
   
   I met a woman 2 days ago. Who said to me, she is in love with me. The odd thing about that is I am crazy about her, maybe in love too.
   
   I have had lust at first sight before. Just not humming, floating, and glazed in a daze of amazing possiblies.
   
   Is this what love feels like? ?????

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      dashingscorpioposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      It's a romantic notion but it's not (really) possible.
      For one thing the other person is a "complete stranger".
      In order to truly love someone you have to get to (know them) first.
      What generally happens is "infatuation at first sight". In that moment we're "projecting" on them how we (imagine) them to be.
      
      If over time our (expectations) of them matches reality we proclaim we loved them at "first sight". However it could have just as easily gone the other way. You start off with infatuation and once you get to know the person they turn out to be a self-centered narcissistic entitled turn off!
      
      It's somewhat ironic how people use to scratch their heads when they heard about people falling in love via Pen Pal letters, emails, or online.
      And yet many of those same people believe in "love at first sight".
      At least in the former situation there was a line of communication or exchange of ideas before they became emotionally invested.
      
      
      

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         Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

         The first meeting was like a perfect date. I know true love takes time, yet what a hell of a magical start.
         
         Nobody is perfect, accept she maybe perfect for me.

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   Deborah Minterposted 6 years ago

   If you both feel the same way, it may be love at first sight.

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   Castlepalomaposted 6 years ago

   That is what I was thinking, everything feels perfect. She showered me with compliments about my whole life.
   
   She is a PHD teaching professor, a big public speaker, life coach, and a professional Gardener. Yet she said that I lived everything that she teaches. She really knocks my shock off everytime we exchange.  She is not afraid of honestly like most woman when it comes to love, or Sex or Politics, Religion or anything.  She is Jewish that thinks like a man and French, so sexy I have to hold myself with cold shower from wanting to salivary all over her.
   
   Maybe I said too much.

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   Castlepalomaposted 6 years ago

   Is not love the greatest force in the Universe?
   Or do most perfer to go back to Trump.

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   Kathryn L Hillposted 6 years ago

   Just remember, money issues usually bring about the demise of most relationships.
   So maybe Trump IS still the better deal.
   

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      Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      The greatest demise for America is the over focus on money. Bragging Greedy  puppet like Trump only knows how to take more money from you, wail giving you less. Even Mexican are happier than American.
      
      An ultimate love balance like the woman I just met. Co-in-cide with my spiritual, realationships, physical, intelluctal, and since she has more money than I. Who needs a world Champion liar like Trump to delusion us about his stinking money.

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   Nathanvilleposted 6 years ago

   It happens.  My grandmother met her husband in July and married in the December of the same year for no other reason than love; and were happily married for the rest of their life together.
   
   I proposed to my wife two days after we met, when she was only 17.  We got engaged six months later (on her 18th birthday) and married a couple of years after that (once we'd bought a house together); and we've been happily married ever since (almost 40 years).

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      Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Love to hear about success es in life stories.
      
      I choose to love my work first. Now I believe I can have my ultimate  romantic life and my work too..

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      wildernessposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I met my wife the last week of November and was married Feb. 4.  42 years ago today.

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         Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

         That is a success story,  you got one on me.
         
         I'm meeting his woman tonight in a fine bar.
         Any tips?

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            Kathryn L Hillposted 6 years agoin reply to this

            Yeah, if its "his woman" don't bother.
            
            If its this woman, don't bother. She may not share her money.
            (Since you said, "... since she has more money than I. Who needs a world Champion liar like Trump to delusion us about his stinking money.")
            
            BTW Without money you can't take responsibility for your "LOVE."
            
            However, if you have plenty of money and want to share it with her, than go ahead! And buy her the all the adult beverages she wants. If she wants too many, kiss her goodby … for ever.

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               Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

               Is this the experience you have had with alcoholic dates?
               
               What blows my mind about her is her aim to be balanced everything in moderation.
               
               Have not dated  or had a girlfriend yet where I did not pay most of the share of money.

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   Castlepalomaposted 6 years ago

   Kathy
   
   No one can take the hand of your God.
   
   Thanks for the Attempt.

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   Castlepalomaposted 6 years ago

   Oh oh ,no,  I am moving from the bar to her home. I got my blood test, I should ask her for her blood test.    Any tips fokes?

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      Kathryn L Hillposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Don't have sex / Blood test not needed. Test compatibility sans U No What for more than a year. If you want to marry her because you still love her SO MUCH, then get a blood test ... definitely.
      
      PS Let her cook dinner. Bring the wine. Leave at ten o'clock sharp sans U No What.
       
      PSS Expecting her to get a blood test could kill the relationship before it even has a chance.
      
      (So much for love at fist sight.)

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         Aime Fposted 6 years agoin reply to this

         More than a year? Crikey.

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            Kathryn L Hillposted 6 years agoin reply to this

            … otherwise you might never find true love.  It will be based on U No What.

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               Aime Fposted 6 years agoin reply to this

               Acknowledging that it’s a factor doesn’t mean it becomes the one and only factor.

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                  Kathryn L Hillposted 6 years agoin reply to this

                  sex can be very destructive. This poor guy is already worried about GERMS. and what if he gets her pregnant?

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                     Aime Fposted 6 years agoin reply to this

                     It seems to me that you’re under the impression he’s a 16-year-old about to lose his virginity.

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                        Kathryn L Hillposted 6 years agoin reply to this

                        he was asking people for their input. Well, this is mine. Maybe it will help ... in any case he can guide his own will, but at least SOMEONE spoke up and warned/reminded him. (Although, he was the one that brought up the blood test) And yeah, he's my age. Well, our age is not that old, wise or aware when it comes to romance. We are a very idealistic bunch and to this day throw caution to the wind for the sake of LOVE which we are on a constant search for.
                        Right CP?

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                        Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

                        Lol.

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   Live to Learnposted 6 years ago

   I believe in love at first sight. But, I'll be honest. I don't know if it will do you much good. In the long run. You don't strike me as a long run kind of guy.

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      Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      If I was not a long-term guy, I would not achieved loving my work for most waking hours of my of my life. Been worldclass in Arts, sports and travel.
      
      Too much travel has been my downside for holding on to long-term romantic relationship, yet still it has been better than the average person. Still must restructure my lifestyle to improve greater for the most important thing in the world -Romantic LOVE.

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    Aime Fposted 6 years ago

    Nope.
    
    I had instant, off-the-charts chemistry with my ex and thought that I loved him almost immediately but after a few months of getting to know him on multiple levels I realized it wasn’t him that I loved but the way that I felt when I was with him. Chemistry can be a wild thing.
    
    So I definitely believe that you can feel a deeper attraction to someone within minutes but I don’t believe it’s love. Sometimes it leads to love and perhaps in hindsight you assumed it was that from the beginning, but I don’t think so.

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    Kathryn L Hillposted 6 years ago

    … by the way, No.

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    Kathryn L Hillposted 6 years ago

    If you have sex with someone, the love center in the brain is activated. Its science. It was designed by God/Nature to guarantee children have BOTH parents to help raise them. So if you have U No What with someone it could lead to some sort of love, (false love) but the two people may not even be compatible. Then, instead of soul mates you are cell mates. It never ends well.

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       Aime Fposted 6 years agoin reply to this

       Not if it’s bad sex.

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          Kathryn L Hillposted 6 years agoin reply to this

          … well, if its bad sex the romance is over. And maybe they could have saved each other's lives!

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             Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

             Sex has been good to excellent, with accepting to one person laying there like they are dead. 
             
             Sex is the bonding part, not lovebase like many guys think.

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       Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

       I heard the church lady talk about soul mates to cell mates. Nobody I have personally known.

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    Kathryn L Hillposted 6 years ago

    On an urgent note:
      "… most women with gonorrhea often have no idea they are infected. This is one reason why regular STD screening is so important. If people wait for symptoms to appear, the infections can be hanging around for a long period of time before detection. That is a longer window in which they can cause long-term fertility damage or spread to others.  Asymptomatic gonorrhea infection can also occur in men as well … "
    https://www.verywell.com/what-is-gonorr … ap-3132666

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       Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

       Can you show photos of these STD.
       
       So it can turn me off sex and start a church wedding for my one and only.

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