Leaving a Marriage: Ghosting your Spouse
My husband and I seemed to be doing really well finally; I was shocked when he left and never came back; moved three hours north and I heard from his friends that I needed to know it wasn't me. That he is shacking up with another women and been cheating on me for nine months; during which she didn't know he was married. So when he got caught married; and he dipped October 3, 2021. I didn't hear from him for six week's. Not an email. Text. Call. I drove up to the house I knew he had to be staying at because his stepson was having a hard time with him just ghosting his family. He wouldn't even talk to my son; then I went up to the door to talk to him and state he needed to file for divorce and I stated firmly and clearly that he was fine. He wanted someone else she could have him and when she showed that she was the best choice for him; I loved him that much I would give him my ring and her my last name. She wouldn't let him speak to me and she hid behind the door. Since than it became apparent quickly she is a sociopath; my husband is a narcississt. So he is ghosting me again.
I know that I have no reason to be feeling guilty that I finally am interested in a man. I am scared to death to get hurt; but I have been doing the right things in order to move forward and I am having a granddaughter in Novemeber. My last kid graduated headed to the Marines. I am getting my master's and applying for programs. But he refuses to answer any communication regarding well...anything. I sent him ten efiles that he just had to fill out and send back when I was still in Wisconsin. But he acted like he never saw one of them.
I left the state due to my own family is narcissists and sociopaths and I created boundaries. I am in Texas and plan on making my life here. He is with another women.
We are not however even legally separated. Probably not getting divorce from the looks of it any time soon. I haven't been with anyone since I got married. When is it morally and spiritually okay for me to put more effort into the man I am interested in?
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