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is he a bestfriend or a gay friend.

  1. lyli profile image52
    lyliposted 8 years ago

    wow..amazing how men can be decisive too.like how can a guy friend of my husband. whom he recognize as his bestfriend could get jealous of me and said to my husband I might be the change their friendship.?or relationship.what is that?he calls and they end up taking for 1 hour or even 2 and a half hour over the phone..im suspecting this guy to be gay..lol he is a control freak over my husband.if he cant pick his call he gets mad and ask too many questions like where were you...check your phone havent you seen any of my miss calls>?lol gay isnt it?and gets jealous when my husband introduces a guy friend say for example a guy at work or school who was cool..this guy(whom i suspect to be gay )...give me a clue coz i dont want to jump into wrong conclusions..coz now im so frustrated with my husband.after having him caught in the act watching porn..on top of that he's got attitude problems..i never came here in the states to get married to a man who was such a hypocrite...pretend to be godly when inside damn he is a porn freak..i just want to break his neck..that right there took away my trust,love,and it just affected our relationship so much..that is not acceptable in my religion not applicable in my culture and more over never respected by my own personal will..help me figure this out.

    1. Patiopursuit profile image61
      Patiopursuitposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      wow you're put into an interesting situation. I have a lot of really close friends who are a guy, but even that I don't really talk to them all the time or get mad if they don't pick up ever. Unless i'm in a depressing stage where I really need someone there to talk to than I can understand that, but if this has been going on for a long period, than something must be going on. As far as your husband watching porn and stuff, well i'm not married but I don't know why a guy would do such a thing if they have a wife and i dunno, i'll let you know in a few years

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      china manposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Most western men married or single watch porn, I wouldn't get too excited about that. Many western men have close male friends who get jealous like women. Many western men (but not all) who marry 'overseas' brides do so because they lack some component that gets them a local girl, from shyness to out and out weirdo.  If you have recently got married and moved there then you should chill out and give it a chance maybe.  It will be new for him too.

      1. Sab Oh profile image52
        Sab Ohposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Why the repeated focus on "western men," western man?

        You have repeatedly (ad nauseum) mentioned your non-western girlfriend. How does that fit into your theory about someone lacking something?

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          china manposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          Really easy Sad o - the girl has moved to the US to marry what apparently is a western guy, and her chatting sounds Philipino to me - so to cover the bases I am differentiating between western guy and the other half of the world.

          No conspiracy theory - no mention of my girlfriend - no business of yours except to make a personal attack.

          1. Sab Oh profile image52
            Sab Ohposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            But, are you trying to say non-western men don't watch porn, don't get jealous, and don't "lack something"? Are you up to your old tricks again?

  2. calpol25 profile image68
    calpol25posted 8 years ago

    Hi there honey xx tough situation your in.

    Im gay myself but after reading this I think it is a possibility he (friend) could be gay but at the same time he could also be straight, and just jealous possessive.

    Has there been any thing else occur with this person that makes you think he is gay?

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    Ghost32posted 8 years ago

    The "control freak" personality can be housed in a lot of different people.  My third wife was a classic in this regard.  She was so jealous that, even though she thought the world of my parents, she became out-of-control enraged one Saturday when my Dad called to say he could help me that day with a project I'd discussed with him some time earlier.  I worked a 9 to 5 office job in those days.  She'd thought she'd have my attention for the full weekend, and to have me a whole 150 feet away working with my Dad for a full shift--OMG!   Tar and feathers!

  4. Betty Reid profile image61
    Betty Reidposted 8 years ago

    Lyli, it sounds like you may have come to the US to get married and didn't know your husband too well before that.  Honestly, I think that will cause ongoing problems for you.  As for the friend, I agree he may be gay or he may just be a needy pest.  Some people are so insecure that they get attached and possessive to anyone who pays attention to them.  Either way, I think the question is not "what's his problem", but "what to do about it".  Doesn't he get on your husband's nerves?

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    guru85posted 8 years ago

    it is realy good idea

  6. Joy56 profile image77
    Joy56posted 7 years ago

    how does your husband feel about his jealousy, some people do get over possesive with friends, i know cos i do at times.....  Is it a problem for you, if so, your husband should really take a stand for you.  That is my opinion anyway......  I don't think i would like it either....

  7. LeanMan profile image87
    LeanManposted 7 years ago

    Reading what you have to say above I wonder who the jealous one is.. How much of what you say is real and how much is over exaggeration?