To try to put in one article or even a five page spread, like so many major publishing companies do; What Men Want is impossible. In fact when I see women reading these or worse yet when my Girlfriend annoyingly goes over one of these articles line by line with me it makes me cringe inside. Women, let us be honest with you. After all, THAT is the key ingredient every sex wants....Honesty!
Back to the treasure map that is the Top Secret list of What Men Want. Men want the exact same thing Women do. Provided you are searching for a Man whom is a good match for you. By that I mean if your searching or already have a man who is perfectly matched to you then odds are you both want the same things out of each other. In that case you need only communicate it to your man. Men are simple in that they really just want you to be happy. Communicate to your guy what it is you like or want and he will be on board for sure.
All guys age differently and therefore want different things at different times in their lives. To find this secret information out simply take at least one night a month and make it a nice Date Night. Make the Date Night someplace quiet and romantic that way the two of you can talk openly about where you are and where you want to go as a couple. Whatever you do, do not come off pushy or forceful. This will push the mans openness right back inside, and might even create mental walls.
Of course, if your in a relationship that consist of forced conversations you might want to reconsider your relationship.
The basic information you can take from this is two simple rules to successfully know what your man wants and grow with those wants, so that someday you both have the same wants. Rule one is that word Honesty. If a guy can't trust you then he's not going to invest an ounce of himself emotionally, or I should say he's not going to invest an ounce in you. Rule two is communication. If your guy knows what you personally want then your damn right he's going to tell you what he wants in return. We guys want to please you and keep you happy, because if we're not then someone else is! However like anyone who invest we expect a return and we'll let you know exactly what it is. You must keep an open mind for this, it could be messy!
Anything found in fashion magazines and articles depicting like you said "What Men/Women want" are just ploys to keep readers superficially wanting the answers to happiness without working towards self-realization. What you have said is the epitome of common sense. Men and women are different, BUT they are also just human beings seeking honest connection unique to our own tastes. I like what you have to say.
unfortunately, not a lot of people have common sense these days
Thank you for your advice and support, very nice of you!
You forgot the one thing we DON'T want. Someone who complains about everyone or everything. Cause it's just a matter of time before they complain about us.
One rule, ask us what we want...
New rule, give it to us and quit asking...
Old rule, stop giving it to us if we don't want it...
Golden rule, we want what we cannot have, so we can't get it...
Over Ruled, Forget I even said anything
I think you are pretty close on what you have written here..
I treat all the people I date with respect and am always open, honest and try to be as thoughtful of their needs as I can. I can also be outspoken, extremely flirtatious and sexually aggressive which can intimidate some men which I don't understand? I am open about my sexuallity with everyone, I guess you would say I am bisexual..I prefer to date men but like to play with women also...Some men can't handle this either?? Which is very odd because I thought all men had this fantasy of having a girlfriend like that..
I personally think the key to your statement is.. "fantasy"
"...I prefer to date men but like to play with women also...Some men can't handle this either?? Which is very odd because I thought all men had this fantasy of having a girlfriend like that.."
I have been categorized into the "that girl" role, the "dark hidden what I want to do, but keep secret girl." It's a fun role to play, but those who see me that way, never seem to be lasting fulfilling connections.
Fantasy's are often better left as fantasy's.. you can't have a "relationship" with deep dark desire.. but lust.. yes, there is always lust.
You are right about it beign only a fantasy for some. I love my life right now and have no desire to get married anytime soon..So lust it is!! I can live with that....for the time being!!
fantasy is different from reality I guess. It's like lots of guys enjoy porn, but would they date one of those women in real life? And I mean, dating as in a relationship, and not just a one night stand/or using you for just sex...
But it's good to be open and honest about your sexuality, irrespective of what 'men' expect, and I'm glad to you're being that.
As for me, I'm totally into men...so it just makes things much simpler!
Hello, my dear !
It depends on mental age, I guess. Or maybe personality.
Everyday we come across full grown people (even right here in HP) to whom fantasy and reality are melted together.
It's not really a sin... it can be fun
good to see you're still alive...!
And yes, there's nothing wrong with mixing fantasy and reality. In my little world, anything goes, as long as everyone stays happy.. and gives each other space to 'be'. All serene like the sea on a warm summer's day... (with occasional wild tides now and then! )
agreed...Hey, I'm all for girls liking girls because, let's face it, for some reason a lot of guys like this! However, when it comes to a relationship, I think most guys need to know that you are only into them and nobody else...including gals.
Well, I love limpidity.
You make yourself very clear.
A man can too.
You have not met the right men Storm. Maybe opposite attracts.
What do I really want? Four simple things...
4. Sex while I am eating just before I fall go to sleep
What else is there?
(keep in mind there about 1000 things we DON'T want.. so if women just confine their activities to the 3 items above, everything should be aaaaaaaaaaaaalll right)
In honor of my future inauguration I make you my chief Facebook fan club administrator. Don't worry I'll give you a few tanks too.
Thanks Gang! I had fun reading all your replies! Gotta work some more but I'll be back on very soon! Check you later!
Don't work to hard.. it is Friday after all
It is indeed Friday! Driving to NY tomorrow for my Brothers 30th Birthday! Super psyched.....maybe I'll get some good stories from it. Read some of your stuff...really great, keep it up there Summer. Till next time. Happy Easter to all...!
ahh, thank you Bo! I hope you have a fun Easter weekend! I just got back from NY a couple months ago.. it was a good time.. did have one little bar brawl incident.. or was it two? *shrug* but we don't need to talk about that Anyhoo.. a few stories would be great. Take care!
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