For 9 years I love man who, I think, do not love me. Am I nuts?

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  1. MaijaFreelancer profile image57
    MaijaFreelancerposted 8 years ago

    Several times I did a lot to stop it, but was not able to reach state when this person will become nothing for me. Year after year I love him even stronger. Well...we are best friends...and never had sex.

    1. yogeshsingh profile image75
      yogeshsinghposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Well feelings are natural for anybody and cannot be controlled. Atleast your lover is your best friend.
      Also, Being a boy, i can tell, i will love a girl more if i had sex with her.

    2. pisean282311 profile image59
      pisean282311posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      well i think its normal...dont worry you are not nuts...

    3. Beelzedad profile image58
      Beelzedadposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      You should have told him your feelings nine years ago.

  2. Falsor Wing profile image76
    Falsor Wingposted 8 years ago

    If love were based on logic you would be, but it is not.

    1. MaijaFreelancer profile image57
      MaijaFreelancerposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Sometimes I understand it, sometimes I thought that I`m crazy, but there are time when I think - I`m blessed.
      I really want to hear more what people think, because I feel lost...I do not understand myself. This is not normal, I think, for person at 36.

      1. Falsor Wing profile image76
        Falsor Wingposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Not sure about that. It is normal at 23.

        1. MaijaFreelancer profile image57
          MaijaFreelancerposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          ....but not good for person with a quite life experience...

          1. SpiritLeo profile image66
            SpiritLeoposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            I think to be in love is wonderful! No matter how old you are! Just enjoy that state!
            Of course, it is very important to be mutual!

  3. theIndecisiveGirl profile image60
    theIndecisiveGirlposted 8 years ago

    i am still pretty young but Ive learned that there is always a person that we yearn for and as head over heels for that person you are there is a reason why they don't feel the same way. Like children they are our safety blanket something that is warm and comfortable and puts us at ease but eventually we outgrow that blanket and can stand on our own without it and the blanket becomes a found memory. you arent nuts and maybe one day youll get over this guy or maybe he'll realize that the feelings are mutual. but until then just be happy with where you are in life if you are happy then great things will happen for you.

    1. MaijaFreelancer profile image57
      MaijaFreelancerposted 8 years agoin reply to this might be right.

      In my situation all things are like that: if I don`t fight my feelings I feel happy. But at the same moment when I think that I must change something, I start feel unhappy.

  4. Black Lilly profile image61
    Black Lillyposted 8 years ago

    I don't think it's normal. You sacrifice your own life, best years. You give them to someone who does not even intend to give something back, you don't have a relationship here.
    I guess it really hurts to let it al go, but... what would you think of your life when you're 60+?

  5. Disturbia profile image61
    Disturbiaposted 8 years ago

    Are you nuts?  YES!

  6. dotty1 profile image63
    dotty1posted 8 years ago

    o my ..... hard isnt it to walk away when your not getting what you want....but yes sweet u are mad as you deserve to be adored

  7. skyfire profile image69
    skyfireposted 8 years ago

    Get over it, there is no point in digging what you lost. You're not nuts, it's just that things didn't work out in this relationship and you didn't paid attention to it as well.


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