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   dawnMposted 14 years ago

   what are five great tips to a happy marriage

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      woolman60posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Respect each other’s views, thoughts and feelings
      Honesty, always be honest and never be hurtful with your words
      Forgiveness, is very important because no one is perfect
      Unconditional Love, no matter what
      Communication, leads to a respectful, honest, forgiving and unconditional love for eternity.
      
      These are the top five but it takes more, it is the little things that count the most, after 22 years I love her more than the day we married.

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      rebekahELLEposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      remain who you are and respect each other as an individual
      
      share common interests and have your own separate interests
      
      go out and do things together, especially after children arrive
      
      keep realistic expectations
      
      listen to each other

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   Cagsilposted 14 years ago

   Five tips?
   
   (a) trust in one another
   (b) communication must remain open at all times about anything
   (c) honesty is the best policy
   (d) compassion
   (e) love
   
   That's about it.

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      Precious Williamsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Cagsill I'm curious. Are you married?

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         Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         No! And, it is not relevant. It asked for tips for a happy marriage.
         
         If you or anyone else cares to claim I am wrong, then I would honestly say that the word "relationship" is what is being missed in the conversation of marriage.
         
         The foundation of the relationship is what makes the marriage a happy one. What I listed were the KEYS to making the relationship strongest.
         
         And, as you can see, TAMCOR agrees and has been married for 22 years.

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            Precious Williamsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            I didn't claim that you were wrong.  I was just curious.  That is one of the problems of this sort of communication you cannot tell in which tone I was asking the question.

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      TamCorposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      That's exactly what I would've said!
      
      And we've been married, very happily, for almost 22 years now...
      
      
      Tammy

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         Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I'm happy for you Tammy.

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            TamCorposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Aw, thank you, Cagsil...
            
            
            Tammy

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               Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               You're quite welcome Tammy.
               
               My grandmother and her live-in boyfriend, never married, but where together for close to 30 years. When she came down with dementia and was hospitalized, he had no one, not even family.
               
               He died 11 months later, and she died 10 months after he did.

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                  TamCorposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  
                  
                  That's so sad.
                  
                  Honestly, you hear of that happening so often, don't you?  And, having what I have had for all of these years with my husband, I can imagine the terrible feeling of loss they must go through. 
                  
                  Although we have three kids, and grandkids now, and I love them to death, it would still be unbearable to go on without my Tom...
                  
                  Sorry, didn't mean to be morbid here, but what you said hit home, Cagsil...
                  
                  
                  Tammy

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                     Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                     It was sad to live through it and watch it happen before my eyes. However, it still simply proves "marriage" isn't a requirement for a long loving relationship.
                     
                     Thank you Tammy.

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                        TamCorposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                        
                        
                        You're absolutely right, Cagsil...a piece of paper doesn't matter a bit, when you love someone...
                        
                        It's funny--I didn't even think about them not being married when you were talking about them--I was all wrapped up in the emotional part of it...
                        
                        
                        Tammy

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                           Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                           Right, you recognized their love, through my words. Funny how that works, huh?

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      europewalkerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Cagsil your are so right. My husband and I will be celebrating our 25th in December and it doesn't even seem like we have been together that long.

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         Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Thank you Europe. I am also glad to hear your marriage has lasted. That's really cool.

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   Precious Williamsposted 14 years ago

   (1)Separate bedrooms
   (2)Separate bank accounts
   (3)Different hobbies
   (4)Holidays alone
   (5)Christmas/Easter etc spent together - never with either family.

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      dawnMposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I loved your reply

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         Precious Williamsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Thank you.  It might scare some people but I was being absolutely serious.

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            wychicposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Definitely true to a degree...you have to have at least SOME things that are just yours! My husband and I share a lot of interests, but he keeps golf for himself and I keep my crafts for me . We don't have separate bedrooms (need nightly snuggles!) but each have our own areas that are just ours...when we buy a place, these areas will be his garage and my greenhouse, we don't even have to hear each other if we don't want to! And I also agree with the above bits...the piece of paper doesn't really matter, the relationship and the commitment are what does. While I am very happy to be my husband's wife, if it weren't for matters like health insurance, etc., there really wouldn't be any compelling reason to be legally married.

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   dawnMposted 14 years ago

   precious you are too funny, yours sounds more realistic in this day and age.

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   Mishaposted 14 years ago

   Just one: don't even think about trying to change him

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      dawnMposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      yes change is not happening, if you want to change a man forget it think how hard it is to change yourself let alone someone else

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         wychicposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Personally, I think anyone that tries to change someone doesn't really love that person, just their idea of what the person could be. I always wonder what gives people this sense of entitlement to attempt to mold others to their own preferences.

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   donotfearposted 14 years ago

   Know what your partner's love language is.  Communicate and be friends. Show courtesy to each other and be polite.

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   PackSecureposted 14 years ago

   Love
   Fidelity
   Honesty
   Trust
   Friendship

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   h.a.borcichposted 14 years ago

   Every marriage is unique. Ours works great and this is how we keep it that way...
   1. Know your partners top 3 needs and honor them.
   2. Know what is most hurtful to your partner and honor it always.
   3. Keep your individual identity alive and well.
   4. Communicate well. Listen and share often.
   5. Have fun together every chance you get

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