I have my boyfriend of 5 yrs and 4 months to be exact. Im confused if i am just paranoid thinking if he was cheating on me again?. At the moment I dont have any evidences or proofs that he was cheating on me.
But before i caught him cheating me on the phone with his classmate in college. Sometimes we have to believe on our instinct the night before i went in their house we our texting each other but i have noticed of his delayed reply like 15-20 minutes interval before he will replied my text. I told him about it. And he just simply make an excuse and blame the network provider?
Very unreasonable we are both using the same network provider and living on the same suburb but on my phone i cant see any problems with the signal. Then the following morning right after my shift i decided to have a surprised visit on him, i checked his cellphone and i found out from the in box and sent messages that he was flirting to this girl his classmate in college.
I woke him up and confronted him about this he denied.He told me that it was only a joke?
The hell a joke? I gave him a warm slapped on his face and i broke up with him. He doesn't want me to broke up with him but still i did because im so mad and messed up.
I'm not a hypocrite to stay in a relationship where in i know that i am being taken granted.
After what had happened he tried everything to win me back. He kneeled in front of me crying and begging to forgive him. And he promised not to do that again. Then after a month i decided to forgive and give him another chance coz i love him so much.
But since then i always have a doubt on him that he will cheat on me again. Once a cheater always a cheater!!!!
I would say that now i don't trust him that much.
If i would caught him again i will never give him the 3rd chance.
If u have a gut feeling he is cheating chances are high that he is. Sorry to put it harsh but you need to trust what you are feeling.
Here is a quote I believe strongly in -
"An excuse is worse and more terrible than a lie, for an excuse is a lie guarded.”
- Pope John Paul I
Does text flirting with someone count into cheating? Maybe he thought it will not be taken so seriously by you so he went with it but now that he knows that you don't like it so hopefully he will not repeat it again. It is quite possible that he made a genuine mistake and now wishes to correct it. All of us make mistake, knowingly or un-knowingly and we all deserve a chance. Don't you think so?
But if you say that you still suspect him then what is the point forgiving him? Doing so you have complicated the matter yourself. So just relax, if you have given him a chance trust in him.
There's that old joke line, "Just because I'm paranoid it doesn't mean someone isn't after me."
It's not paranoid to have doubts about someone who has once proven not to be trustworthy. Whether your instincts/suspicions are correct or not may be a separate matter for now, but you're not paranoid for wondering.
You sound as though you are not secure in your trust of him.
you realize that while you were typing this forum post, the odds are that he was having phone sex with someone else
If, u dont trust you will always feel this way. you need to think about you and what you deserve, Im pretty sure its better then what your getting. without trust you have no future. atleast not a happy one
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