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why are us women always the ones to blame in relationships!

  1. dotty1 profile image76
    dotty1posted 7 years ago

    why do you think that some men will let you down, never put you first and then when you ask why or show even just a tiny expressionof not being happy . . .They flip blamin the whole thing on us. . Never own up to ever doing any thing wrong what so ever. . . I think that its a funny thing what is sooo difficult for men to be normal, i think i may give up and resign myself to being shelf life . . .

    1. Greek One profile image78
      Greek Oneposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      They resent having to be in a relationship when are they want is non-committal BJs..

      it's nature's way

    2. rebekahELLE profile image88
      rebekahELLEposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I don't think all men are like that.. it works both ways. often the woman (or man) expects to be let down because of past relationships, so it happens again and again.

      relationships in one sense are selfish until both people realize it's not about getting, it's two people who actually like the other person and can deal with the ups and downs.

    3. Harvey Stelman profile image60
      Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      dotty1, I have no idea why you are so sexist. Do you not think women do the same thing as men? I'll be married 33 years in a week, yes I remember. I remember the day we met, what she was wearing and how great her legswere (are). Why don't you find the right guy? H

  2. timorous profile image92
    timorousposted 7 years ago

    I suspect it's because they don't really want a 'close' relationship, as they don't want to feel tied down with someone they're not totally into.

    Apart from that, it's just plain inconsiderate.  They're only thinking of themselves..in other words their ego is getting in their way.  It's likely an attitude they picked up from the way their father treated his wife.  The cycle continues.

    I of course, am not like that at all.  Yes,I am a guy..and I always treat women with a great deal of respect.  It's the only way to make friends and keep them.

    Sorry guys, but if you really care about keeping that woman, you'll have to learn to think of yourself last.  Actually that goes for everyone you come in contact with.

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      Home Girlposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Women are looking for love in the same place where men are looking for... something else. That's the dilemma.

      1. dotty1 profile image76
        dotty1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        oh you are all so so right. . I just dont get it . . Ok so if we are blamed constantly. . Then perhaps he doesnt want you ? So why do they leave you to sweat for a week then just when you are . .Hey dont need this bleep. They show up declaring forgiveness . . Wot a croc my theory is has had a wee browse and nothing better chick wise at min so may as well stay put for now. . Argh . . Am off to buy fifty cats x

        1. dotty1 profile image76
          dotty1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          ps timorous . . You sound like a rare comodity :-)

          1. timorous profile image92
            timorousposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Perhaps...thanks for the observation.  Hope you find happiness sooner than later. smile

            1. sofs profile image85
              sofsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              whoopie!!  Nice to find a sensitive man!   You are from venus are you??
              That's a compliment!!! smile   wink

              1. timorous profile image92
                timorousposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                lol  hi sofs
                no...it's too hot on Venus.  I moved to earth a few eons ago.  I do miss the lovely girls on Venus though wink

                1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
                  Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  tim, Venus is colder, further from the sun. Maybe you should look into URANUS. H

                  1. timorous profile image92
                    timorousposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    @H.S.  I can see you're taking this too literally..just go with the premise.  Besides, Venus is closer to the sun than Earth is, it just doesn't have much of an atmosphere (sorry girls).  So..yes, it is colder where the sun don't shine...speaking of Uranus. lol

  3. Woman Of Courage profile image61
    Woman Of Courageposted 7 years ago

    From what I observe, some men are selfish, and only think about themselves.

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    ralwusposted 7 years ago

    some men learned from Mom. i learned to listen, then walk away. i can take all the blame, but sometimes i think it's just PMS

    1. Beth100 profile image84
      Beth100posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol  It's about time you men admitted that you have it too!  lol

      1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Beth, If that's your pic, I agree with you. Married guys can tell the truth, just for the fun of it. H

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    ralwusposted 7 years ago

    LOL I think it is called something else tho'. haha

  6. 4MINUTE profile image57
    4MINUTEposted 7 years ago

    depends on how a girl is not all of them are even for guys. but in most cases a guy and girl can have both faults or either one in the relationship. sometimes the other one doesn't want to admit they had made a mistake too that they are not telling to there partner. either way i say fix it or fix yourselves to have a good full commitment with your partner but then again no matter what their is always going to be downs in a relationship.

  7. salt profile image58
    saltposted 7 years ago

    we're not.
    when a woman is told she is crazy, she is usually spot on.
    When a woman is told she is premenstral or difficult, she has asserted herself in a manner that a male may find disconcerting...
    When a woman leaves, the man wonders what he did wrong!

    1. dotty1 profile image76
      dotty1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      ooo i so love your points . . . See i knew i wasnt crazy just plain old RIGHT! He he he

  8. Richieb799 profile image61
    Richieb799posted 7 years ago

    My question is what do women want in a man? is it popularity, a respectable job, extroverted personality? or would a mediocre populariy, shy guy earning just enough to get by do? There's plenty of nice guys who fit the latter personality out there wink You'll just have to find one and keep hold of him.

    1. dotty1 profile image76
      dotty1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      oh to find a nice, shy boy normal ha ha ha. . . Why is it when a man and woman argue , the man winds up the woman who then reacts and then he wawalks away sayin she is at fault, when it was completely him being out of order in the first place. It then becomes about her temper not the original point? . . Eeek these men who cant say sorry or admit their wrong doings ! Drive me mad. . Oh to meet a nice sensative soul !

    2. dotty1 profile image76
      dotty1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      oh and earnings dont mean anything to me, i would rather have a good old honest nice man with not a bean than a loaded self centred mar's dweller any day

      1. Harvey Stelman profile image60
        Harvey Stelmanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        dotty1, I qualify as old. I wonder if my wife would care. Damn, she knows me too well. She would say, go ahead. H

  9. Randy Godwin profile image92
    Randy Godwinposted 7 years ago

    Because you guys ate that damn apple first!

  10. wychic profile image80
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    Frankly, the behavior mentioned in the OP sounds manipulative and psychologically abusive...though I suppose it could also be a guy who's confused and doesn't know what it is he's not doing, they're not mind readers any more than us women are! That's about all I can add there...but then, I'm also happily married to the man who DIDN'T act like that and happily divorced from the one who did.

  11. timorous profile image92
    timorousposted 7 years ago

    You don't have to be a mind-reader.  You just need to be considerate, and try and put yourself in the other person's shoes first.  Never jump to conclusions, or think only what's in it for you.  Your integrity and honesty with yourself is the most important character trait.  If you don't have that, you need to step back from your ego, and learn to listen first.

    The good you do for others will be payed back in spades.  A little understanding goes a long way.

    This goes for men and women.

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    riah_rules12234posted 7 years ago

    i need a friend!

 
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