fiancee sexually texting step sister and denying it

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   unhappy11posted 13 years ago

   my fiancee has been sexually texting my step sister. i found the messages and they were setting up to have sexual activities while i was off at work the weekend she was suppose to be coming up for a visit. when i confronted him about it he said he was just going along with her to see how far she would go when she is suppose to be my best friend and step sister. when i confronted her about it she said that she did not do anything and that she was feeling lonely and he comforted her. we all sat down and talked and they were not going to text any more and i gave them both a second chance and not a week later he straddled over her and with a boner gave her a sexual back massage. then days later they started texting each other again. he is telling her he wished he had met her first and complimenting her every chance he gets and she wont text him anything that can get her involved in the texting but when we are around her she is practically falling on top of him with all the flirting. i dont know what to do. how can i trust either of them again? should i even care about trusting either of them again?

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      Mrs. J. B.posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Now is the time to walk away. Why make yourselk miserable?

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      lady_love158posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      And he's still your fiance??? Lol

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      speedbirdposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Let him know how you feel about the issue, set the record straight by warning him, if he continues, drop him like a hot potato.  For you step-sister let her know that she is messing with you and she should be better off looking for her own catch.
      

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   Cagsilposted 13 years ago

   I guess that will be for you to figure out. One's trust isn't something to be trifled with.

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   Woman Of Courageposted 13 years ago

   unhappy, Your fiance is playing games with you, and I don't think he can be trusted. First of all, he is disrespecting you. You deserve to be married to someone who is ready for commitment in a marriage.

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      meglynposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      well said.

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   Pearldiverposted 13 years ago

   Thanks for passing through our cyber world and contributing such an irrelevant input into our lives on a day that we all get to watch our fiances and step sisters waiting to be dug out from under broken buildings!
   
   Please call back again and update us on a regular basis - in regard to other trivia... so inspiring!

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      Extinct Soulposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      oh yeah!! I can't believe I've deleted my advice after I read your comment...damn!
      
      You've just given her a very fine kick while she was gasping for her breath on the cold floor...

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         Pearldiverposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Don't assume it was a female entity.. it is just another spammer on our site.
         
         Many who post like this one are immature teenage boys who tend to fantasize over 'boners' and vigorously stroke their keyboards with all the expertise of a Master-baker!
         
         I'm surprised most hubbers can't see through the virtual facade

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            megs78posted 13 years agoin reply to this

            i tend to agree with this...

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            nell79posted 13 years agoin reply to this

            I really had no idea that people would do that. I've read quite of few of these, thought to myself, "wow! are these people really looking for advice to these obvious questions in a forum full of strangers?" I then wonder if they've set up their accounts soley to get advice to these questions, since most the accounts are brand new, as you said, with no hubs under their belts.
            
            I don't know what is worse: thinking they really have problems like this that they can't see their ways out of and are desperate for help from anyone; or they're making it all up because they have no lives and like to play with others' generosity and emotions. Grim thought....

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               Pearldiverposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               Yes.. Indeed it is!
               Many.. Many Sick Puppies out there and Sadly, we have a few in here also.
               I use to feel the same as you at fist, then I noticed the patterns and game clues, which tend to give them away.
               Good Luck...

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   IzzyMposted 13 years ago

   I always assumed that people who join up to pose a personal question are existing hubbers using a false name so as not to be recognised.
   But your explanation makes sense.

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      Pearldiverposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Sure... no doubt a few of them do that... Especially in the Religious forums or when they choose to play the equally immature role of a troll.
      
      The concern that I have is that they have the ability to enter into the forums without any hubs, bio, avatar or track record and as such are given the ability to negatively influence serious members!
      
      Over the last year these entities really have contributed to the breakdown of the social excellence that we used to have in the forums as a whole... remember when we all enjoyed that aspect of HP?

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   Randy Godwinposted 13 years ago

   What do you expect if you're dating Misha? 

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      Pearldiverposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      

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   kerrygposted 13 years ago

   I rarely agree with lady_love about anything, but I had exactly the same reaction she did - why on earth are you still engaged to this creep? Dump him and take a year or two off from dating to learn some self-respect.

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   Greek Oneposted 13 years ago

   I'm not a relationship consultant (although I have been confused for one in the past)... but I think most experts would agree that it really depends on how substantial his 'boner' was at the time of the incident in question.

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   Daniel Carterposted 13 years ago

   I think it's safe to say he is untrustworthy, since you did what you could already to clear it up. But rather that throw drama in his face, you could calmly tell him you release him from any obligation to you so that he can have sex with your step sister, and then walk away, freed from the drama. And not give him a second thought, a reason to explain, whine, moan or manipulate you any further.
   
   Why would you want someone who doesn't want you?

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