Should I Stay or Just Ride it Out?

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   Hotplateposted 13 years ago

   Here's the thing.  The woman I've been with for several years has an explosive temper, but is a great person at heart.  A about a year after we were together, I woke up to her sister giving me oral.  Since then, I've been seeing her on the side.  A while after that her Mother was staying with us while in town, and we hooked up after a long night of drinking while my girlfriend was working.  About a year later her Mom moved to our town and we've been sneaking off when we can. 
   
   Six months ago I had enough of my girlfriend's temper and wanted to break things off with her, but both her Mom and sister (neither one knows about me being with the other)have offered me money to stay with her so I will stick around.  What should I do?

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      kmackey32posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Well, honestly I see why she has a temper... Its morally wrong for you to be doing what you are doing...

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      Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      
      
      
      Nothing like keeping in the family.
      
      However, I would like to point out that your title "Should I Stay or Just Ride It Out"? - is nonsense.
      
      If you stay, then you are riding it out- per se. The options are to stay or leave.
      
      If you plan on taking money to keep your relationships silent, then I have no appreciation for you as a person. Not that I have much now, considering you're presently sleeping with 3 women, 2 of which are not your wife, but are related to her.
      
      The more I think about this, the more I would have to say on the matter- But, since there isn't any integrity in the actions of either her family or yourself, then I'm going to leave it.
      
      Good luck with whatever you do.

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      paradigmsearchposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I’m not buying any of this!!!

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         Pamela N Redposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Neither am I, paradigmsearch. I think we should have worn our galoshes.

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      AEvansposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Sounds like something for Jerry Springer! But seriously you are destroying an entire family. Do you not have any self-respect? When you are in a relationship you should be committed to only one, not three. Break it off with the girlfriend and be honest with the other two. Walk away from all three take a break for a year and find yourself. Learn from your error and find someone nice and stay committed to only one.

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   Hotplateposted 13 years ago

   She's had a temper longer than I've known her.  I mean I almost deserve a little on the side just for dealing with her without hitting her.

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   Hotplateposted 13 years ago

   Well here is the thing, my girlfriend is a stripper and is a super jealious person when it comes to me.  I was told that she got this way after her Mom started sleeping with one of her old boyfriends.  This came after my girlfriend Mom caught her sleeping with her boyfriend.  So now her Mom thinks that it's fine for her to sleep with all of her boyfriends. And her sister wanted to sleep with me ever since we met.  I'm in a mess over here.

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      Druid Dudeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Ooooh, Take the money and run!

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      prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      are you even for real?? is this for real, this mayhem??

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      paradigmsearchposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      OK, here is what you do:
      
      A.    Take the money.
      
      B.    Boink your brains out.
      
      C.    Don’t tell a soul.
      
      D.    (This one is the most important) Make sure none of the 3 have a gun (or a lawyer); because they will find out.

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   paradigmsearchposted 13 years ago

   You do have another option…
   
   Get out of Dodge!
   
   

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   Hotplateposted 13 years ago

   What I really need to do is find job so I can move out and leave this whole thing behind me, because I know that at some point in one of our drunken nights something is going to slip.  That is the last thing I want to happen because all three of them are no stranger to going to jail.

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      paradigmsearchposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      In that case, forget what I said about Dodge.
      
      Get out of the state!

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         paradigmsearchposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         And then write an ebook about the whole thing and make a quick million.

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   camloposted 13 years ago

   Anyone who has stayed with this woman obviously enjoys the drama. I'd have been gone long ago.

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      canadawest99posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      So you have been with the mother and her two daughters? - sir you are quite an inspiration to mankind.

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         camloposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         I think you've misunderstood - I'd have been GONE long before any of that happened.

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   Motown2Chitownposted 13 years ago

   Are you Charlie Sheen and this is a new play for attention?

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   paradigmsearchposted 13 years ago

   Now that is an excellent thought!

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   Hotplateposted 13 years ago

   I can't say that I'm proud of all of this, but on the other hand, I don't think I would have wanted it to be any different though.  The novelty of it is gone now and it's time for me to move on.  I just need to figure out how to free myself from this twisted web of lies and deception now.
   
   I have a pretty good feeling that all three will come after me before going after each other.

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      camloposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      ... and? What's the worst thing they can do to you?

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      paradigmsearchposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Dead man walking…
      
      Run! Dude! Run!

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    Hotplateposted 13 years ago

    Well they all may be little petite women, but they all have on hell of a mean streak in them.  They all have been arrested for assult and battery  more than once. 
    
    I just hope that none of them ever find out that I've been with all three of them without showering in between.

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       nell79posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I should be getting on my moral high horse about now but I find myself laughing outloud (no small thing considering I've got two kids sleeping right now) and shaking my head. Testing out your soap opera writing skills? Or trying out for a trashy talk show? Or maybe you want to write for one of those True Story magazines? Are they still around?
       
       Anyway....if this were really happening, and you're really hoping to get some advice here on not getting caught, well, first step is to make sure none has access to your computer and that you clear out your internet history. Hahahahahaha

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    nell79posted 13 years ago

    Wow....just wow. There's no way this is for real No one could really be that stupid, right? Where's Jerry Springer when you need him?

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       camloposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Yeah - nobody in their right mind gets mixed up with women like these.

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          nell79posted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Not to mention THREE of them

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             camloposted 13 years agoin reply to this

             ... all at once.

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    Hotplateposted 13 years ago

    All I have to say is that to be old and wise, first you have to be young and stupid.  So using that, I'm well on my way to being a genius...

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       prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       how come the three "crave" for you, you said you're a genius

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    Hotplateposted 13 years ago

    It's more of a 'I can get and hold on to anyone that you can' kinda of thing with them.  I'm in the land of plastic surgery and no morals so they all look like 21 year old models.

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    Stevennix2001posted 13 years ago

    Now, where do I begin to comment on everything you've just said?  Hmm.I guess for starters, lets talk about your relationship with your girlfriend, then go from there.  First of all, you never should've cheated on her to begin with.  Granted, from what you've described, you had no control waking up to her sister giving you a bj.  However, I'm willing to bet you didn't do much to stop it when you woke up, right?  That was your first mistake.  Your other following mistakes is that you went along with it.  Casually lying to yourself that it was okay to sleep with your girlfriends siblings and mother; believing it was harmless as long as nobody would ever find out, and you just thought of how hot it was rather than looking at things logically.  That was your biggest mistake, as now you're in quite a pickle.
    
    Now, you're wondering if you should take the money to stay with a girl that you don't love?  Look, I don't care how much money they're offering you, but you shouldn't stay with anyone for money, as it's not right.  What if your girlfriend finds out?  How would you explain to her that you were paid to stay with her?  Or better yet, how would you feel if you were in her shoes?  Would you still want to be with a person that was being paid to be with you?  I certainly wouldn't. 
    
    What I think you need to do is first of all stop thinking with your little head for a minute and start using your big one to think, from now on.  The problem with guys like you is that you seem to think too much with that little head of yours way more often than your big one; which lands you into these types of situations to begin with.  That's the first thing you need to do. 
    
    The second thing you need to do is ask yourself honestly...what do you want?  Seriously, it sounds like you're not even exactly sure what you want, as I get that you're not happy with you're girlfriend because she's moody.  However, on the other hand, it sounds like you're only dating her and staying in that house is because you like the idea of sleeping with these attractive women; even though you know it's wrong.  Again, stop thinking with your little head.  Weigh the pros and cons of what you want, then make a decision from there.
    
    Get a job like you said that you plan to, then move out immediately before it's too late.  The longer this goes on, they're going to find out eventually.  That's a given because I'm assuming based on how you described your situation, you all live together, yes?  If so, then it's going to be hard to keep something like that a secret for long.  Hell, I'm surprised you kept it a secret from them as long as you have, as you must be one helluva of a actor then.  Maybe you should become one. Just kidding...well not really.
    
    Another thing, your girlfriend, her sisters and mother don't know about your hubpages account right?  The reason I ask is because you are aware that ANYONE can easily go online and search for your screen name on hubpages, and check out your hubtivity; which includes forum posts.  Therefore, if they do know about your account, then it's not too hard to imagine they'll find out about everything you just said.  Please, don't be so daft as to believe that the people posting in this forum are the only ones reading your posts. 
    
    In all seriousness though, I do think your girlfriend, her sisters, and mother deserve to know the truth.  If you're too scared to confront them personally, then I'd just leave them a "dear john" letter explaining everything after you move out. Seriously, from what I could gather, it sounds like you're only putting up with this situation because you think these women are hot.  However, looks aren't everything in a relationship and if you think it is, then you're really going to miss out on a lot of things in life.   
    
    Anyways, I hope this helps, and apologize if I said anything offensive, as that's not my intention.  However, I was a 100 percent sincere in my advice to you....

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    Hotplateposted 13 years ago

    Stevennix2001
    Thanks for all of your advice.  Let me start by saying that my girlfriend's sister and Mom both have their own houses, so that's the only reason I've been able to pull this whole thing off.
    
    I do know that this whole thing got way out of control, and I do know that I need to get out.  I'm in the process of getting a job a couple of hundred miles away, that none of them know about.  If I get it, I'm just gonna pack up and leave a note like you said.  I'm not really worried about destoying the family, because they've made it a habit of sleeping with everyone else's boyfriends. 
    
    It was fun for a little while, but now it's just a huge stressful mess.  I've got my life experience from it, and now it's time for me to get the hell out.
    
    Thanks again

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    Hotplateposted 13 years ago

    Well, it all came to a head lastnight.  I knew it was bound to come out at some point, but the way it did was probably the worst way possible. 
    
    Now my girlfriend is a stripper, so she works nights.  Now at some point after I went to bed, her Mom (who has a key to the house, and was drunk out of her mind) came in, stripped down, climbed into bed with me and tried to get things going.  So while I was trying to get her dressed before she passed out, my girlfriend came home and found her naked in bed with me. 
    
    She blew up to say the least.  I tried to tell her that I was just sleeping and she came in and that nothing happened.  That lead to her Mom tell her that she was just trying to get what she was paying for.  That lead to both of them screaming and throwing shit at me and each other.
    
    During this whole thing, my girlfriend called her sister to come over to help her out.  Well when her sister came over and found out that their Mom was in bed with me, she blew up because their Mom was paying me to be with her too.  With that, My girlfriend was exploded on all three of us.  At that point, I just grabbed my clothes and car keys and left.

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       Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Well, it was bound to happen sooner or later. 

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    BabaBooeyposted 13 years ago

    Run and Don't Look Back!

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    BabaBooeyposted 13 years ago

    the more I read this the more I wish I was you until lastnight.  that had to be some ride.  who was the best?

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    paradigmsearchposted 13 years ago

    The ebook version of this thread will be out next month.

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    Disappearingheadposted 13 years ago

    Is this a classic case of what Americans call Trailer Trash. The story that is being spun here sounds like it was lifted from some car crash TV reality show.

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    dutchman1951posted 13 years ago

    look at the bright side, at least none of them thought to wake up Grandpa and borrow his Hunting Gun!
    
    Anyway, sounds like your out the door with your keys in hand. May I suggest while you finished getting dressed, you just keep on driving, and...
    
    change your sign in name to "meat-man!   lmao...too funny 

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    mega1posted 13 years ago

    argggh! matey! have another slug o' rum and ride it out!  don't forget to write . . . we'll be awaitin' yur devastatin' conclusion!

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    Inspired to writeposted 13 years ago

    Hotplate
    
    You really need to MAKE UP YOUR MIND as to what a relationship with a PERSON means. You need to know WHAT YOU TRULY DESIRE from another. You messing about the way you do, being indecisive & unfaithful, (which your partner has the amazing ability she can pick up on your energy of relationship negativity) you will always attract what you put out & you always will until you sort out your inner feelings & hearts desire.
    
    But don't despair sometimes it takes us guys quite a few relationships before we come to the conclusion of what we don't like of others (our partner) thus we must become that good person to our partner ourselves.
    
    Commitment takes a long & careful thought provoking analysis & means that you have to make sacrifices coupled with trust & consideration towards your intended.
    
    Regards Dale

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