why do Men lie?

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   rich2630posted 13 years ago

   I fail to understand why Men lie so much

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      Randy Godwinposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Merely trying, and failing miserably, to compete with the women's natural born ability to spin falsehoods! 

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         your cybersisterposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         I think that men and women are equally capable of lying.  I think that when most people lie it is to avoid dealing with something unpleasant.  Unfortunately, the lie almost always eventually surfaces and that which was being avoided was only delayed, then became more damaging by adding a lack of trust into the situation.  I know it's trite, but honesty is the best policy.

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            Randy Godwinposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            You are pretty honest for a girl! 

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      Disappearingheadposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Because they just want a quiet life and can't be bothered with inquisitions from their women.

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         SomewayOuttaHereposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         ...ha ha ha...me too - i just want peace man...i think it goes both ways re the inquisition...if i'm too quiet it's misunderstood as if i have sumthin' on my mind that i need to spill........chill i say....

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         your cybersisterposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         I would be curious as to the reason for the inquistions.  As you said, they can go both ways.  Was something done in the past that would make another suspicious or is the inquisitor just a paranoid individual?  If trust was broken, I would understand the questions and tolerate them as part of the healing process.  If the person is just paranoid I would be tempted to find my way out.

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            SomewayOuttaHereposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            ..reason...i don't know.. ..it's just the way i am - sometimes i'm lost in thought and some folks read into it and over analyze...and think it's about 'them' or something is wrong that i should talk about...whatever? I say!   ...it's about me and my thoughts..it's simple.....i'm just thinking - that's all...and don't feel i need to discuss everything that's on my mind...quiet is really nice sometimes ...

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               Disappearingheadposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               Yep that sounds like it.
               
               It's also easier to lie if you don't want every sentence, every expression, every nuance of body language pulled apart, analysed, with the result that she comes to some conclusion about something that just isn't there.
               
               Women think too much. Men are simple shallow creatures.

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      Greek Oneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      1.  So as to increase their access to vaginas
      2.  So to guard against nagging from their significant other
      3.  To avoid confrontation when the outcome would be negative

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   Pamela Sarzanaposted 13 years ago

   Men who lie cannot be trusted at ALL. If a man will lie about 1 thing, then he will lie about anything and everything to suit his case, or cause. No trust , no relationship.

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      your cybersisterposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      So few people seem to understand how lying erodes the foundation of any relationship.  I think if they did that people would just take their lumps for being honest up front and get it over with.  I don't know why someone would stay in any kind of a relationship with someone who lies OR someone who make them constantly feel they must lie.

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      4tuneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I'm with Pamela NO trust = No passion, No future - Just can't give my all if I gotta put up walls like that.

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   Pamela Sarzanaposted 13 years ago

   Because they are In love with themselves, and want to spend allot of time doing what "they" want to do.

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   earnestshubposted 13 years ago

   When did we start judging one's capacity to lie based on gender?
   
   I hoped we had moved on.

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      Kathryn LJposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Bless you, you've such a good heart.  Battle of the sexes, moved on? I think not.  One man's lie is another man's attempt to answer a loaded question.  So, does my bum look big in this?

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         earnestshubposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         touche!

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      Onusonusposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      dude, I think they are plotting a power shift.

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         earnestshubposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         It has already shifted where I am. The girls rule here.... I am outnumbered.

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            DIYweddingplannerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Just give it up, you know you guys can't win!  And if we say you're liars, then you're liars!

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               earnestshubposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               I can't even get lies past the 5 yer old twins, so I dare not even deny that I have sweets!
               
               I got done over about a week ago when I said I had no sweets then one of the twins went through my rubbish and came up with the packaging!
               Her twin then leaps on me yelling "Your busted granpa!"

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                  DIYweddingplannerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  Just shows men are not good liars when a couple of fiive year olds can bust you out!

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                     Akashikposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                     It's amazing, this question.  Men do lie, as do women, but we get the flack.  Is it because women lie better than men, they got better game, so we get caught more often?

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                        Randy Godwinposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                        Naw!  We men get used to women's lies and don't confront them because they will merely tell more lies.  So in a sense, we are preventing them from further falsehoods.  No need to thank us!

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                           DIYweddingplannerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                           But our lies are only little white ones..you guy tell WHOPPERS!

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                              Akashikposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                              Ah no, 'mon cherie', I beg to differ; you just look prettier while doing it.  I've known some women to drop some King Fish Big-Time Whoppers.  A little wink here, some shoulder there, that beautiful smile ..... what were we talking about?

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                              Mikeydoesposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                              I'd like a for instance!

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                              Jonathan Jancoposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                              Oh REALLY!!?? Little white ones, huh? You must be one of the good ones. Because I've met a FEW women who are honest to a fault and a TON of women who are borderline sociopaths they lie so damn much.
                              When men lie, they don't think much of getting caught. They just want to make whatever issue it is go away. Often they think their woman just wants to hear something reassuring. They also don't believe women want to hear the truth no matter what they hear from women. Every time we are brutally honest or even just candid, we get in trouble.
                              On the other hand, when women lie they get three of their female friends, both of their sisters, their mother and their grandmother involved and have them all lying on their behalf. Don't even try to deny it, I've seen this over and over both with women I've been in relationships with and with women I've been close friends with who were cheating on their boyfriends.
                              As for my own personal standards, if I have a girlfriend who is trying to psycho analyze me, I find myself starting to internalize. Same thing if I'm out at a social event or just somewhere in public and I see a woman (check that, more often than not, it is a group of women who are doing this because one of them finds me attractive or interesting) who is trying to observe me from across the room and pick apart every one of my apparent characteristics, I will usually become somewhat expressionless. We don't like feeling we are under a microscope, and if you don't pick apart every thing we say, we are more inclined to speak our minds.

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                        earnestshubposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                        Men get caught more often I think.
                        
                        Women of any age have that "female instinct" thing going...... I am justly terrified of it!
                        
                        
                        Fear of the unfathomable.

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                           DIYweddingplannerposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                           We're good that way!

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   Randy Godwinposted 13 years ago

   I've never told a lie in my life!

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      klarawieckposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      LIAR!

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         prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         pants on fire

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         Randy Godwinposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         What? You're lying about my being a liar! 

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   DoorMattnomoreposted 13 years ago

   People lie. In my life, Ive met far more dishonest women than men, but really.....I don't think its gender based. Its species wide.

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   Jonathan Jancoposted 13 years ago

   I'm a generally honest sort, but thats mainly bcos Im unafraid of being judged for the most part. I think alot of people ARE afraid of being judged and sized up by others, and so they get used to presenting themselves a certain way.

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   ahorsebackposted 13 years ago

   The origional question merely points out the immature minds. Between men and women , anyone with any maturity knows one is as good a liar as the other, depends on the situation , the minute we fall into the slide of "he said she said" and this sexist type of discourse we lose! Good luck in maturing.

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   prettydarkhorseposted 13 years ago

   people lie sometimes for various reasons mostly to cover their beautiful a**, to mislead, bec. of fear and so on and on bla bla bla...

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    theherbivorehippiposted 13 years ago

    I think women lie just as much as men.

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       logic,commonsenseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Your not lying about this are you?

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    LeanManposted 13 years ago

    Us men never lie... we never have any need to as we are all caring and honest towards our other halves.....

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    @neeshposted 13 years ago

    Sorry to say this but often you women make a situation in which a man has to lie.

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       klarawieckposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Oh! do... give an example, pleeeeeease!

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          Randy Godwinposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          Me, me!  "Gee God, Eve found that apple over by the river!  She never went close to the tree at all!  Ask the snake, he saw everything"!

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             klarawieckposted 13 years agoin reply to this

             I say forget about Eve, and bring Lillith on! She was much more interesting... and yes, I do like snakes and apples! YUM!

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          @neeshposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          oh!i can see ur replies every where so i think you are defending that woman are not liars.This shows that u r lieing.

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    Gail Anthonyposted 13 years ago

    'Cause women can't handle the truth.
    
    'Cause when the policewoman said anything you say can and will be held against you, I couldn't say breasts.
    
    'Cause the voices in my head tell me what to do.

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    cheaptrickposted 13 years ago

    Men lie to woman cause..."Honey,does this dress make my ass look fat?".
    Woman lie to men cause"Oh my God,it's SO Big".one hand washes the other.Tit for Tat...pun intended...

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    ahorsebackposted 13 years ago

    I can only say , when my wife says do I look huge in these capri's?, "No honey" , I realize that I must compromise my perfect character and virtues . Otherwise we are all in Dissappearinheads shoes. I feel for you man!

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    Disturbiaposted 13 years ago

    It's in their DNA.

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    Home Girlposted 13 years ago

    We lie from fear and political reasons. Best liars make the best politicians, whom we elect into our government and naively expect them to perform well. They do perform well but only in  more lies.

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       Inspiration88posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       LoL, nice one! It takes some excellent acting skills on the political scene, no wonder so many small and big - time actors became involved in politics later in their lives

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    mega1posted 13 years ago

    they lie because, for some men, size is EVERYTHING!

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       Randy Godwinposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Only if their mate is overweight! 

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          mega1posted 13 years agoin reply to this

          ha ha I was thinking more along the lines of stature! but there is that overweight thing, as well

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    Inspiration88posted 13 years ago

    Our contemporary culture is littered with stereotype-based presumptions, mindframes and idioms. And such common denominators are the easy justification for behavior, deprived of any deeper analysis. "Why do men lie?" Men don't lie any more than women. It is about individuals, about particular relationships and situations.

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    Disturbiaposted 13 years ago

    I still think it's in their DNA.

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       habeeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       And in their pants - the "root" of most lying! lol

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    klarawieckposted 13 years ago

    They've been lying since day one! Or do you still believe that story that Eve ate the apple? Baloney!!

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    ForYourInfoposted 13 years ago

    Men lie probably to judge themselves that how much can they live in fantasy!!!!!!!!!

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