Do you have platonic friends?

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   CyclingFitnessposted 13 years ago

   My best friends is female and to be honest I've never thought about her in another way. However I have many friends who assume we're an item when we're out and cannot understand the principle of having a close friend of the opposite sex
   
   What do hubbers think of this concept? Do you have platonic relationships and are you comfortable having close friends of the opposite sex?

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      ErinEliseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I think that friendships of the opposite sex are perfectly normal and I am completely comfortable with them.  I have several friendships that span over 20 or more years and will continue the same way.  I love my guy friends, and my female friends too of course.  But, it is completely possible to be best friends with the opposite sex without anything going on or being an item.  You're right CyclingFitness, there are many people out there who just cannot understand it.

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      Sasinibposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I think it is entirely possible. I also understand what you are talking about when it comes to people thinking of you two as an item. The annoying thing is that some people just will not believe you and will keep trying to make it into something more than what it really is.

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      Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Well all my female friends on hubpages are platonic friends.  There's this one girl that i talk to at a restaurant that i usually eat at.  She gets hit on all the time because of how obviously attractive she is.  However, we're just platonic friends; which suits us both fine as neither of us are looking for a relationship anyways.    all joking aside though, i wouldn't worry about it.  besides, where's it written that a guy and girl can't just be friends? there's nothing wrong with it, as im sure it's a lot more common than you think.  In fact, i know it is.

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      deblippposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I think if you can't have platonic relationships, you're really not much of a grownup.

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         Matt in Jaxposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Well put!

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   knolyourselfposted 13 years ago

   Most of my relationships have been platonic.
   They last forever.

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   Stacie Lposted 13 years ago

   yes and no. I usually have platonic friends until they have a few drinks and then they want to be more...lol

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   Monisajdaposted 13 years ago

   I have a good friend of opposite sex, we understand each other as we grew up together. I would never marry him but I like him a lot.

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   ahostagesituationposted 13 years ago

   I feel like I could not live without some of my guy friends--too much history.  I'm pretty sure that I'll always have a certain amount of platonic males in my life--with boundaries.  In a relationship--jealousy I can handle, maybe even respect.  Extreme possessiveness gets old quick though.

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   psycheskinnerposted 13 years ago

   People who think you can't have opposite gender friendships that have nothing to do with sex have either very narrow or very dirty minds.

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   Mckenposted 13 years ago

   i understand your situation man, and i think platonic friendships are extremely important, for there's always something that you'll feel more comfortable sharing with someone of the opposite sex. Leave the rumor mill and talking to the others, if there's nothing more between you two other than friends, then there's nothing concrete really. its their loss i guess!

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   sofsposted 13 years ago

   I believe friends are friends, the gender is secondary. Some of my best friends belong to the opposite gender and they are married and
   I still have excellent relationship with their spouses too.. and they with mine. Friends are like your soulmates they are so connected to you in spirit..the physical aspect does not come into play when you regard them as friends and friends alone.

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   Matt in Jaxposted 13 years ago

   Friends can definitely be of the opposite sex, though I also get unnatural reactions to my female friends from girlfriends at the time or wonderments from other guy friends.

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    Jonathan Jancoposted 13 years ago

    I don't have platonic friends. Only socratic friends. Getit?!
    
    But seriously, having friends of the opposite gender is only a big deal to those who have their heads up their a$$es for various reasons. I have tons of female friends. Some of whom I was involved with otherwise at some point or another and some not. None of my previous gfs ever got too outwardly jealous and never needed to be. I've gotten into a few situations as a result, but nothing grown ups cant handle.

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