Am i committing sins if i wanna divorce my husband as we quarreled too much?Any

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    GUEST7899posted 9 years ago

    Am i committing sins if i wanna divorce my husband as we quarreled too much?Any chapter in Bible?

    I got depression/panic attack,n scared my son will ape his father in future.& realised i have no respect like a wife to husband anymore, same for him.I realised i don't have big heart to accommodate him,and scared i will get hurt again. I am haunted by my guilt of breaking a family. * i am newbie to Christianity hoping to find passage/answers in Bible

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    sambo16posted 9 years ago

    Creation of Eve-Genesis 2:20-25  God created us to be in relationship with one another. 
    In a perfect world, marriage was a covenant that couldn't be broken
         But then, Adam and Eve sinned and so the perfect world was no longer perfect.Genesis 3:16 explains this a little further.
         It's after this point that God introduces the divorce.  It's because polygamy and serial monogamy became an issue.  But neither rulership nor divorce were part of God's original plan.  Matthew 19:8 explains this.
         Even though it was allowed in the Old Testament Malachi 2:16 explains how God feels about divorce.  Put simply, He hates it.
         In the New Testament, Jesus himself talks about divorce.  Matthew 5:31-32 is Jesus putting an end to divorce.  Many men of the time of the Bible had viewed the women like possessions.  So, Jesus reinstates the original marriage law.  Matthew 19:4-6 is where He says this.
        Ephesians 5:25 by defining it as an earthly body of the relationship between Christ and the church.
         I hope this has helped.  There are some other Scriptures that talk about exceptions that were given to this rule.  Although, I still believe that even in these situations God hates divorce.
    Some other Scriptures: Matthew 5:32, 19:9; 1st Corinthians 7:15, 7:39; Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18
         This is a very big issue.  I would suggest that you and your family should seek Christian marriage counseling from your pastor, together.  If not all together than at least you and your husband.  And there is a reason why you are feeling guilt about breaking up your family.  It's not something God likes.  And if you are a Christian the Holy Spirit dwells within you.  The Holy Spirit will guide you to see what pleases God.

  3. Kebennett1 profile image60
    Kebennett1posted 9 years ago

    "I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel (Malachi 2:16).

    What God has joined together, let man not separate . . . I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery (Matthew 19:6, 9).

    Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery (Mark 10:11-12).

    If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him (1 Corinthians 7:12-13).

        If you obey my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have obeyed my Father's commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete (John 15:11).

    If you think God doesn't want you to be miserable, you're right. However, he wants you to seek relief his way, not by sinning. The solution is to turn to the Lord and his Word--to learn how to experience his joy whatever your situation (Philippians 4:4; James 1:2). http://www.dougbrittonbooks.com

    Divorce is allowed for sexual immorality. (Matthew 19:9).
    Divorce is allowed if an unbeliever leaves.  (1 Corinthians 7:12-15).

    I pray you will seek Christian counseling and will be able to work on your marriage. It may not be easy and it may not happen quickly but with God's help your marriage can be restored and you can find common ground and love again. God Bless You.

  4. yes2truth profile image59
    yes2truthposted 9 years ago

    "Any chapter in Bible?"

    Yes, 1 Corinthians 13. It's all about Godly love - 'agape' - from the Greek. The word 'charity' in the KJV actually means 'Godly love'.

    You also need to learn that it takes two to quarrel, so if one of you shuts up there won't be any more quarrelling, unless you or he is into arguing with yourself/himself, of course.

    "I realised i don't have big heart to accommodate"

    If you are truly Born Again then it's not about YOUR heart, it's all about the NEW HEART you have been given. Our hearts are hearts of stone - cold. He gives us a HEART OF FLESH - warm, kind, forbearing.

    It's not easy loving someone that may not love you, but unless he commits adultery you have no grounds for divorce. If he is violent then you must leave him, but you cannot divorce him.

    Welcome to the Christian Walk - The Way, and pray for strength and help with your trial.

  5. eovery profile image59
    eoveryposted 9 years ago

    May I just suggest counseling.  And after that decide what is best.  People will quote a lot of religious believe.  I would suggest to try to save your marriage by counseling if you can.  If either you or your husband is abusive, separate, get counseling and go from there.  It is not good to be in a bad relationship.  Fix it or break it.

  6. topgunjager profile image60
    topgunjagerposted 9 years ago

    No, people make mistakes, nobody's perfect, There are always better things that you can do, breaking up isn;t necessarily a bad thing, it just happens, sometimes you meet someone you love and it doesn;t work out. Don't lie to yourself by forcing yourself to follow something that will not make you happy, God wants you to be happy right?

  7. stricktlydating profile image83
    stricktlydatingposted 9 years ago

    It doesn't matter what religion you may be, sometimes relationships don't last.  It is just a factor in life.  It is always difficult to leave a relationship when there are children involved.  And only you will be able to find what's best for you. But you also said at the moment you are scared of being hurt and it seems so scared you've had a panic attack. This rings alarm bells.  If you are living in fear please ensure your children and yourself move to a safe and stable environment until you make more bigger decisions. Don't let your 'guilt' feelings or any religious belief stop you from seeking safety.

  8. Galadriel Arwen profile image74
    Galadriel Arwenposted 9 years ago

    The Book of Deuteronomy, Chapter 24, verse 1, speaks to this question:

    "When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out from his house,..."

    The cycle of abuse usually begins with quarreling. I agree counseling might help but adultry is not the only reason the Bible gives one to separate from another and start fresh!

 
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