How do you grieve?

Jump to Last Post 1-10 of 10 discussions (10 posts)
  1. bankscottage profile image95
    bankscottageposted 5 years ago

    How do you grieve?

    When a loved one dies, is their anything special or unique that you do to grieve?

  2. JKenny profile image90
    JKennyposted 5 years ago

    I'm not sure whether I'd call it unique- I tend to just want to spend time alone, attempting to gather my thoughts. I lost my dog recently and that's precisely what I did. I've had good days and bad days, but hopefully time will prove to be the best healer.

  3. Attikos profile image78
    Attikosposted 5 years ago

    I  began with long walks, reflection, sorting out questions in my mind. You have to take care to avoid the temptation to isolate yourself, for maintaining contact with those who care is critical. You must also keep in mind that no one can do much to help you. You have to work through grief and loss on your own, in your own way and time.

    Once you love truly, you never stop whether or not the one you love is still with you. That means the loss leaves a pit inside. At first, you try to fill it in because you are falling into it every day. Eventually experience teaches you you cannot. That pit will always be there. The best you can do is to learn to walk around it so you do not fall in so often. Once you understand that, you have begun to heal.

    Give it the time it needs. It is different for everyone, so no one can tell you how long it will be for you. It may help to know that everyone sooner or later has to go through this. It is part of the human condition. Keep going, and one morning you will get up to realize that, at last, you have come to a better place.

  4. edhan profile image61
    edhanposted 5 years ago

    After understanding about life and death, I do not grieve as it will hold the dead back instead of moving on. It maybe sad to lose someone but grieve will hold the person back in the spirit world.

    We told our children not to grieve when we pass on.

  5. fpherj48 profile image76
    fpherj48posted 5 years ago

    Good question, banks......but rather difficult to answer.  Through the years, with all the loss I have experienced, I have probably been all over the chart.  In my younger days, when I was less apt to use emotional control.....I grieved deeply and visibly with my entire being feeling literally crushed.....and perhaps with no hope of ever healing.
    But, as we mature and must face more loss, at least for me, I have developed a pattern in terms of the grieving process.  My initial shock at learning of a loss, leads me usually to a serene withdrawal into sorrow.
    When I am aware that others will need support and comfort, I am able to appear as a rock, while I do grieve in private.  I don't think that what I do is unique, as there must be many others who have done the same...but I do make time to review my fond memories and muster up personal gratitude for having known and been a part of this loved one's life.....creating my own comfort zone, so to speak.......I do grieve for a very long time.  This has proven to be best for me, in reassuring myself I honored the person we have lost, in a deserving manner.

  6. profile image0
    JThomp42posted 5 years ago

    I try to be strong for those around me. So, I grieve while alone. My Brother passed recently. I could not be strong. I was in complete shock and could not control my emotions at all. Now I grieve him alone.

  7. lburmaster profile image82
    lburmasterposted 5 years ago

    Being depressed, not eating as much, going through every picture I have of them and other family photo's, etc. The most unique thing that I do is write a little biography of their life.

  8. onegoodwoman profile image74
    onegoodwomanposted 5 years ago

    Quietly, alone, unobserved........in the stillness of the early morning, or the quake of night........without intrusion or company.................for, they, simply distrub me in my grief.........................

    It is a personal and intimate thing, grief..............while we might come and " wail" together in our collective mourning.............I will, grieve..........alone, in solitude.

  9. profile image0
    danielabramposted 5 years ago

    I do not grieve. I try to move on with my life and continue with what I am working on.

  10. Diana Lee profile image83
    Diana Leeposted 5 years ago

    Something which has brought me comfort is to write a memorial poem in honor of my deceased loved one. It has also been comforting for others grieving with me. I've posted some of them in the form of a hub.

 
working

This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

Show Details
Necessary
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Features
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Marketing
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Statistics
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)