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If someone says to you.....People deserve a second chance but not a third, how d

  1. pstraubie48 profile image86
    pstraubie48posted 5 years ago

    If someone says to you.....People deserve a second chance but not a third, how do you respond?

    Is it two strikes and you are out with you ? Or do you continue to give unlimited chances?


  2. Ericdierker profile image54
    Ericdierkerposted 5 years ago

    I tried this one before. It is one aspect of my faith that is just as clear as it can be. If I do not have 10 more bucs then so be it. But if I do, then I have no choice. However many time 70. Not relevant. If I judge and do not forgive I am all wrong.
    I suppose with these modern day notions of "don't be an enabler" others could differ. But this was not a metaphor or parable -- it was straight up - Forgive.

  3. lburmaster profile image83
    lburmasterposted 5 years ago

    Depends upon the crime if they even get a second chance. Normally they shouldn't have the chance of a third.

  4. sweetie1 profile image71
    sweetie1posted 5 years ago

    Well if it is for someone cheating another person in relationship, friendship or business then I don't think a person deserves even second chance. This is because that person has deliberately stabbed in your back. As the saying goes, once a cheater, always a cheater. So if you give him/her another chance  you are getting ready to be cheated again in future. I have seen a very good friend of mine giving chances to his girl friend but she stabbed him in back thrice.

  5. Marsei profile image89
    Marseiposted 5 years ago

    I have given endless chances to the people I love and never regretted it. 
    When the "chances" and broken promises begin to hurt us or the other person involved, it's time to stop it.  I always know when that time has come and have never had a problem saying enough is enough.  It might be two; it might be 20, but when I'm done, that's it.   There are people who don't have healthy limits or boundaries and let themselves be hurt over and over.   They get something psychologically from being a martyr and it turns into a dysfunctional mess.   Merriam Webster's definition of forgive is:  To stop feeling resentment.   It's
    not necessary to have the person in your life to do that.
    Way too wordy.  I didn't mean to write an epistle, just an important lesson I've learned in life.

  6. fitmom profile image83
    fitmomposted 5 years ago

    I don't think that it can be a set rule. I think it depends on who the person is (what their relationship is to you), what they did, and all the circumstances involved.

    Forgiving and continuing a relationship are two very different things. Forgiveness will ultimately make the person happy- not the offender. But, forgiving them does not mean that you should necessarily continue to have a relationship with them. If they are family, you may have to be around them at times, but don't necessarily have to be close to them (unless you want to).

  7. lone77star profile image83
    lone77starposted 5 years ago

    Ask yourself how many chances you would give a child learning to walk?

    Would you ever put a number or limitation on love?

    Remember what Jesus said about loving God. What you do unto the least of these, you do unto the Father in Heaven.

    Wisdom can guide you not to waste your time with someone who clearly isn't valuing your time or your message. But if they come to you with an open heart, would you refuse them?

    Always give them love! Unconditional! But there are so many who deserve your love. Let wisdom and love guide you.

    Forgiveness is giving up being victim and taking 100% responsibility, whether or not the other person wants to take any.

  8. suzettenaples profile image90
    suzettenaplesposted 5 years ago

    No, I don't subscribe to three strikes and you are out.   When dealing with human beings I give unlimited chances.  I am a retired teacher, so I know from experience that human beings take time to mature and grow.  Unlimited chances are what I give for  my fellow human beings.

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    VeronicaInspiresposted 5 years ago

    I disagree.

    We should always look to extend forgiveness towards people who have wronged us, as many times as they are willing to come repentful and sorry.   

    I'm a Christian and follower of the Bible which says a number of things about forgiveness:

    “I will forgive the for the wicked things they did, and I will not remember their sins anymore.” Hebrews 8:12
    “Get along with each other, and forgive each other. If someone does wrong to you, forgive that person because they Lord forgave you.” Colossians 3:13
    “Yes, if you forgive others for their sins, your Father in heaven will also forgive you for your sins. But if you don't forgive others, our Father in heaven will not forgive your sins.” Matthew 6:14-15

    “Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, when my fellow believer sins against me, how many times must I forgive him? Should I forgive him as many as seven times?” Jesus answered, “I will tell you, you must forgive him more than seven times. You must forgive him even if he     does wrong to you seventy-seven times.” Matthew 18:21-22