When people say, "As long as you need help, I will help" do they really mean it?

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   Rodric29posted 11 years ago

   When people say, "As long as you need help, I will help" do they really mean it?
   
   I was told by a person that I could go to them for help as long as I needed it after I expressed a concern that I was being a burden. I did not want to be a burden. When that person said that I could get their help for as long as I needed I believed that person. Now that person is wondering why I still need help.
   
   Does it mean I will help you until I get tire of helping? That is what seems to be the cause.

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   jenniferlynn78posted 11 years ago

   Hello There!  Some people are sincere but others are not! Sometimes people say they will help as long as you need it but the underlying issue is, they mean only if you help yourself as well!  If one does not help themselves then another is not going to help! I know from experience as I help many people and will continue to do so but if they are not willing to help themselves, I will say to them, "No, I am done helping you until you help yourself and when you help yourself I will always help and meet you halfway!"   It's not about getting tired of helping but tired of getting taken advantage of!

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      Rodric29posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I love this answer. What if the person does not think you are doing enough to help yourself and they really don't know the entire situation?

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      Disappearingheadposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      If you respect the person who offers help, you owe them an account of the entire situation, then they will know whether or not you are adequately helping yourself. You shouldn't ask someone for help if you will not provide them with pertinent info.

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      jenniferlynn78posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      No need to spill your life situation to anyone, the person should be able to acknowledge whether you are helping yourself are not.  An example I was helping someone pay some expenses but I also seen that the person was trying hard to look for work.

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      Rodric29posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I can see both points. What if you were sought out to help and did not want the help but took it because the person seemed sincere?

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   DDEposted 11 years ago

   Some people say things that they don't mean and that can be cruel to anyone who believes it.  They are not the willing kind of people and you also have to show them you can do for you not just rely on their help

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   AUPADHYAYposted 11 years ago

   Sometimes it could be real one. But if it is not, the encouraging approach of these people means a lot. Because we think that these people are behind us to support and then we do our best. Irrespective of the fact, that we come out of the problem (whatever it may be) with our own efforts, the assurance of these people still meaning a lot. We should always thankful to those persons. This is my individual opinion which may be differ from others.

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   thomasczechposted 11 years ago

   I believe most people are sincere and mean what they say. They also hope that the individual should be able to stand on their own feet after they have received help. There are some that are not sincere, they say this and hope never to be asked.

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