Pragmatic or necessary? 'everybody lies, everybody...'
Considering myself a "new" to this culture, recently has been brought to my attention " do not believe all, everybody lies, everybody..."(The rest you know.) Can you help me here, please. In essence, can you trust someone who once lied (to you )?!
It would be hard to. If they lie once then they will again.
Lying is wrong period , but we also have to face what type of lies because , there is a lie
out of fear of hurting another , or a lie to save face, or a lie just to manipulate another out of selfishness.
Some people call holding back info lying.
He is asking if someone lied to you. Can you think of a reason you would want someone to lie to you? Even if you ask how do I look you want the truth ...don't you?
Jackie, what bothers me the most, not if " they will again"- they might or they won't, but how do I know that " this time" is not lie what " they" say even if it is a genuine truth. As you said "would be hard to.'
I don't think that everybody lies, at least not all of us are compulsory liers, but yes, if somebody misleads me, I won't be able to trust them again
I could not trust someone who was a compulsive liar. I do believe everyone can be untruthful at times. But in order for me to forgive, it would depend on what they lied about and why.
Having lived in Germany for four and a half years, France for four years and Italy for three years I can say that lies are not unique to the USA. I remember as a child that the lie would raise it's ugly head when I was in fear of punishment or maybe disappointing my parents or other adults. I don't remember doing it often, it seems the adults could read my face and know the truth despite what I was saying. Eventually I was an official adult because of my age and job that I held but more than likely I was still a child as much of me is today. I'm sure I've lied as an adult. I'm sure some were intentional and some were by omission.
The question can I trust someone that has lied to me, yes. The act of repentance or remorse helps to make the process faster. The faster I can forgive the faster I can move on with helping to get things back to "normal" in the relationship that included the lie. Hopefully the forgiveness happens as instantly as they repent. The trust more than likely will happen as quickly as I can let the trespass pass.
Rich,thanks for smile, "some intentional, some by omission," as if lying is OK if harmless. This " normal" idea after forgiving is strange to me, we do not forget easily a harm done being " misled" though relationship/ business/ acquaintances go on
Kiss andTales, a lie is lie regardless of type and motivation, causing irreparable harm.
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