How Do You Raise A Good Child?

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   Beyond-Politicsposted 11 years ago

   
   
   In MY line of work, I meet all manner of types of parents, some worthy of praise while others should have their parental rights questioned.  As a parent, what advice would you give to ensure (or at least create the likelihood) that you a good child?

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      myorganizedlifeposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You have to be the one in charge, and follow through with discipline - no empty threats. They shouldn't be afraid of you, but they should be afraid of the consequences that come with not doing what they are told. I never had to raise a hand to my son. Sending him to bed early, taking the television away, or grounding him to his room were the typical punishments. I remember threatening to make him stay home from a trip to Disneyland once. I don't even recall what he was doing wrong, but Disneyland was the line in the sand. The behavior didn't change. So, on the day we were to leave, my nephew showed up to babysit while my husband and I went to Disneyland alone. The look on his face when he realized he wasn't going was crushing. But I didn't back down. I cried all the way to California. But, he was reminded that weekend that Mom means business. That being said, your kids also need to know, without question, that you love them and that you would stand up to a charging bear for them. And remember that kids learn by watching their parents. If they are raised by parents who are respectful and responsible, and teach them valuable lessons throughout their lives, they will be just fine. And, you are not their friend. You are their parent, which is so much better anyway! My son is grown now and I couldn't be more proud of the young man he has become. I guess I did something right!

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      bBereanposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Live as the person you want them to be, lovingly holding them to that same standard.  There is no more effective way of teaching children than by presenting an example they respect and want to emulate.

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      Onusonusposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Take them to church on Sundays.

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         Zelkiiroposted 11 years agoin reply to this

         That's not how you raise a good child, that's how you raise a repressed neurotic homophobic busybody with a hair-trigger temper.

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   Dame Scribeposted 11 years ago

   I taught my children to stay safe when not at home, watch out for each other and used my voice to grab their attention before their curiosity hurt them. I was fortunate enough to remain home with them till they started school and then I went back too.

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   atechwizposted 11 years ago

   I don't think you can ever go wrong teaching your kids the Golden Rule.  More important then telling them, let them see it in you.  When you live the Golden Rule then it will not simply be lip service.

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   tabrezrocksposted 11 years ago

   I think if I treat them like I am their friend and share all the knowledge that they should know, and aware them from wrong things, teach them write lessons.

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   kcg2946posted 11 years ago

   I think that children need to be taught to be accountable for their actions. Discipline is not a bad thing, especially if it is tempered with a lot of love. Children need to control themselves--body and mind--to take care of themselves and others. I also agree with an earlier post: the Golden Rule is basic to all. Teach them to follow that and then think about what great people they will grow up to be!

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   promiseokonposted 11 years ago

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   Pinkchic18posted 11 years ago

   In my opinion, you can raise a 'good' child by being a 'good' parent. That means taking the time to teach them manners along with life lessons. Just spending time with your child and showing them love is the best parenting tactic I think anyone could ever use.

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   larry089posted 11 years ago

   To be honest with you raising a child in a good manner is quite hard.Specially if a parent also have a bad manner.Well one of my way is to spend with him a lot of time and care and teach her what is the right and what is the wrong in this world however sometimes they don't understand it and they are always asking a question just have a patient so that they know what is the real world is.

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   Poetman63posted 11 years ago

   How is the phrase "good child" defined? Well behaved? Polite? Kind? Does what he/she is told? Never gets in trouble?
   
   When I was given the gift of parenthood for my daughter (now 18) I could not have been happier. I had always wanted a child, ever since I was knee high. When she started to toddle around I came up with a 3-way criteria to determine if I should get in a snit about behavior: If it harmed no one else, did not harm herself and did no damage to the environment, then pretty much anything was okay.
   
   As she went along, I would see her do things like help a disabled man get to his table in IHOP or open the door for someone. Very much aware of her surroundings. Of course once the teen years hit, her Self once more became front and center..
   
   I'm rambling a bit, apologies. How to raise a good child-perhaps that would be better phrased How do I raise a child I am proud of? One where you can introduce to your friends with a touch of pride in your voice. Hello! This is my daughter (name). Model yourself what you want to see in your child. If you wouldn't like it, chances are others won't either.
   
   Cheers!

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    Purpose Embracedposted 11 years ago

    We all need a sense of belonging. So children need to grow in a home environment where they are affirmed and feel a part of the family. But related to this point is need to set the appropriate boundaries for our kids. In fact, it through these boundaries that our children learn  values. Of course, as parents we must be good role models for their children, that is, we should lead by example.

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