What do you believe are the top five reasons for divorce?

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   billybucposted 12 years ago

   What do you believe are the top five reasons for divorce?
   
   I will be writing a Hub on this subject in the next week or so and would love your input.

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   msorenssonposted 12 years ago

   1. Lack of communication or miscommunication.
   2. Marrying for the wrong reason to begin with
   3. Unwillingness of one partner to grow with the other
   4. Wrong priority on one or both parties (they should be each other's first priority)
   5. Unwillingness of one of the parties to accept the other as he or she is..
   The apparent factors, sex, money, children, pressure from peers, pressures from jobs, their relationship to the world at large are all governed by the first. Communication.

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   annartposted 12 years ago

   1. Not talking to & laughing with each other.
   2. Losing respect for each other.
   3. Adultery.
   4. Allowing the world to interfere.
   5. Making wedding vows too easily in the first place
       (it's too easy to divorce now; maybe people would think more carefully about     
       marriage if it wasn't so easy to get out of).
   
   Not necessarily in that order, apart from number 1.

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   AlexK2009posted 12 years ago

   Add to the list  work pressures that can result in people being physically together but mentally apart or lacking time to really talk.

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   jennjenn519posted 12 years ago

   1. Addiction to drugs or alcohol.
   2. Miscommunication
   3. The person you married isn't the same person you fell in love with.
   4. Being disrespectful of each other
   5. Ignoring each other's wants and needs

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   flashmakeitposted 12 years ago

   Not considering the others persons needs, lack of communication and trust, money problems, cheating, or fighting.

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   Marlena Oechsnerposted 12 years ago

   Not talking, listening, laughing, sharing, giving the other person your undivided attention, emotionally straying while physically staying. Your head and your heart need to be in your marriage (or any relationship for that matter).

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   juiwei2000posted 12 years ago

   number 1, She cheated on you
   
   number 2. She is irrational and fight with you turning coming home to a warzone
   
   number 3. She want to boot my dog out of the house
   
   number 4. I can't stand her family
   
   number 5. She don't get along with your parents
   
   number 6. A member of her family is a gang member (If I can I'll find a way to throw that gangster in prison, in case of further harassment.)
   
   number 7. Our personality are not compatiable and are only staying together for the children
   
   number 8. She have some prejudice towards Asia
   
   number 9. She insist for children to be baptise and have god parents according to Christian tradition
   
   number 10. She has been married before
   
   number 11. She want to control my money
   
   number 12. Her family have prejudice towards Asia
   
   number 13. She cursey in front of the Queen (I believe every one are equals)
   
   number 14. We no longer have romantic feeling for each other

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   1. Selecting the wrong mate
   2. Getting married for the wrong reasons (pregnancy, friends did it, ultimatum)
   3. Not knowing one's self well enough before merging life with another person
   4. Becoming enaged during the infatuation phase (Not knowing the "real person")
   5. No longer have the same goals for the marriage or agree on what is important.

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    onegoodwomanposted 12 years ago

    Immaturity
    
    Lack of committment
    
    Finances
    
    Refusal to grow up
    
    
    The availability of divorce
    
    
    
    Readers.........please understand,  I do not support spousal abuse, non support of the family or emotional cruelty..............I simply think that our current society makes it too easy to marry, and then to 'change' our mind(s).    There is a great absence of committment.

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    PainReliefGuyposted 12 years ago

    1. Boredom.
    2. Unrealistic expectations.
    3. Laziness.
    4. People Change.
    5. Lack of trust/fear of being disappointment.

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    DCKelleyposted 12 years ago

    money
    communication problems
    personal vises...alcohol, drugs, etc
    personal insecurities
    resentment

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    philnudingposted 12 years ago

    Communication, communication, communication, communication, communication
    
    I can not stress enough for any couple how important it is to talk. You talked before you got married, because you talked you decided to get married. If you stop talking that decision will start to become flawed because you let it. I could list more specific reasons like stress and money issues but its all because of lack of communication. If you don't talk about the problems then they never get fixed. Better yet, if you don't talk about the minor little thing that just kind of bugs you because you fear the reaction it eventually becomes one of those big problems. No one ever said we all had to agree all the time and the same goes for marriage. If I had to put an actual second reason in I would say it is because things became too specific. Changing the scope of things and forgetting about others creates a very hard environment for communication to thrive. Marriage is something two people enter into together, forgetting that idea of togetherness makes for a lot of problems.

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    xethonxqposted 12 years ago

    1. Money issues
    2. Infidelity
    3. Abuse
    4. Communication issues
    5. Sexual identity issues

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    Levertis Steeleposted 12 years ago

    Infidelity
    Money
    Abuse
    Lack of attention
    Problems With Ex with children

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    Silwenposted 12 years ago

    There are many reasons why divorce happen to people. In US about 50% marriages end up in divorce. When two people come together to create family, many compromises must be done to keep the marriage strong. If this do not happen, the marriage breaks. There are some reasons that can be stated as the top 5 reasons for divorce. read more

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    smzclarkposted 12 years ago

    Lack of communication
    
    Loss of trust
    
    Stress
    
    Violence
    
    Adultery

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    PI Kiddposted 12 years ago

    Marrying for the wrong reason (Many stems off this statement)
    
    No accountability
    
    selfishness
    
    trying to find happiness from the wrong places
    
    it's too easy to do

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    kayyluhposted 12 years ago

    1. Money
    2. Bad communication
    3. Lack of trust
    4. Long distance (partners who must travel and spend no time together)
    5. Married to fast or for wrong reasons
    
    These are what I think cause most divorces in America and on a hub I was reading it say a hundred thousand people get divorced because of facebook! Thats crazy. Everyone should really think about marriage before rushing into such a big commitment.

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    ljrc1961posted 12 years ago

    Speaking from my own experience I have to answer with the following:
    1. Loss of love
    My ex told me he did not love me any more and would never touch me again but felt I needed to stay in the relationship for the kids.
    2. Loss of self esteem in myself
    I felt like I was worthless and knew I couldn't live like that.
    3. Loss of support and assistance.
    I began to take care of everything...the house, yard, laundry, kids and even him when he lost his job.
    4. Loss of communication.
    We never spoke, looked at each other or did anything together.
    5. Loss of intimacy.
    Not being touched with a pat, rub, kiss or hug became unbearable to me.
    
    Even though I shared my own personal reasons, if these existed in any marriage, then I believe it is time to get out.

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    Bretsukiposted 12 years ago

    I would agree with many of the solutions put forward in these answers. Number one though would be communication.
    
    And by communication I do not mean just talking and listening to each other.
    
    If a couple are out together, how they behave, does he or she want to point out things of interest and the other show no signs of interest. Does one partner spend time with friends, at parties leave the other person to struggle while they play around the room like a butterfly.
    
    All human interaction is communication. Verbal, aural and non verbal it all tells a story and if both partners are not telling a similar story for long enough, I believe divorce is inevitable.

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    tigerbaby777posted 12 years ago

    Choosing a person by the way they look,therefore, mistaking lust for love, once that newness is gone so is the marriage that wasn't based on anything solid.
    
    Loss of courtship
    
    Engagements of less than a year
    
    Not learning enough about a person to know if you even like them and their habbits good and bad before making that leap.
    
    Selfishness
    
    Lack of education in relationship building.
    
    Men and Women's roles have changed drastically in the last hundred years.  Women don't have to stay in a marriage they find violent or abusive any longer.  Men are no longer held accountable to support their offspring.
    
    geez there is soooo many to choose from!

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    VeronicaInspiresposted 11 years ago

    Lack of Communication
    Money
    Blended Families
    In-Laws
    Sex

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