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Best Answer kallini2010 says
kallini2010, You are so right it does pay to make sure you're on the same page. Having said that no one should commit to dating one person before knowing them well. That's like going to a buffet dinner and only stopping at the first station! :-)
Ha-ha-ha! My commitment is more convenient to me - I prefer exploring one thing at a time. And buffets? If one thing I should stay clear of, it is a BUFFET! I tend to overeat and gain weight. Who would date me after such overindulgence?
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A lot of people consider anyone not married as being (single). My guess is these same people would say an "exclusive relationship" is NOT a "commitment" unless the couple is married. If exclusive doesn't mean commitment then they're single.
keshab21: This is a great answer. Some people can never be alone(just needy and suck the life out of you),while others enjoy the freedom of being single Yeah!!!
Li Galo says
Even without thinking when I see a cute guy I look at the ring finger.
But I often don't really do much because I like being single. Not that i have an exciting life but rather one where I don't need to argue over in- laws .
Therefore your friends are considered "Single" because they are not married or in an "exclusive relationship". However even if they were in a (relationship) and had to fill out a job application they'd check the box listing themselves as "single".
If they are dating someone, I don't consider them as single. From my view, dating is a trial before marriage. The question is: can they make it? And yes, they would have to check the box as single.
Suppose they are dating multiple people without being committed to anyone or misleading anyone to believe they're "exclusive" They're not in a "relationship" and go out on dates with whomever & whenever. Wouldn't this person be considered single?
Yes. Being single, from my perspective, is the ability to freely sleep around. You have no ties to one person, or anyone for that matter. But that also means they are not valued by anyone either.
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That is a very positive and upbeat way to look at it. Would you also consider someone to be single who went out on dates or had sex now and then without being in a "relationship"? or Is single in your opinion (always) a state of being alone?
Single means being alone. If you are with others in any way shape or form then you aren't alone right? Therefore not single.
Surly you don’t mean going out on (one) date constitutes being a couple. If over the course of a year someone went out on 6 dates with six different people wouldn't you consider them to be single? One night stands? Wouldn't they be still (single)?
No I don't think you are a couple if you go on one date??
I just said my definition of being single is living alone not sleeping around etc..But I guess in the male version of single dating and sleeping around is single. No ring all fling...men ugh!
I don't think it's a gender mindset not to confuse sex with being a "couple" or in a relationship. Both the (man and the woman) having a "one night stand" would consider themselves to be single. Most singles (casually date) before exclusive. True?
to shay!!! LOL LOL
In my version of being single I date rarely and don't sleep around.
But when single you do as you please male or female. I'm just the PG version as opposed to the X-rated version. LOL :) But freedom is freedom. Enjoy!!!
I agree. So true!
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Saska Milovanovic says
Yes, A lot of people see being single as being (free) and having no need to make "compromises" while others see it as being (lonely). Our happiness is tied to (our perception) of our circumstances. Thanks for your answer!
Flossydella, You made a valid point. Medical forms, employment application, W-4 or other forms the options are usually Single, Married, or Divorced, Some progressive companies recognize Domestic Partners for insurance. Officially unmarried is Single
Lor's Stories says
Yes, many married folks don't get it. They think being single is somehow bad but it's lovely! I loved being in a serious relationship. I love being single. This is because I love me! If you love yourself, then you're secure with or without another.
Yes, Freedom is a wonderful thing!!
Sajmir Manuka says
Not true. We are not all meant to be in relationships nor is it abnormal not to be in one. Some can't concieve of a life without someone others are perfectly happy free and alone. Everyones definition is different.
I'm not sure I totally agree with you but I do agree that people want and crave other people in their lives. After all, we are social beings. If we find someone special to love while having people in our lives, so much the better!
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