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   mohamedhmmposted 15 years ago

   How man could improve the bed relationship with his wife?

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      AEvansposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Become more initmate and not be over aggressive, be romantic

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      Darknlovely3436posted 15 years agoin reply to this

      ;  The way to improve the relationship
      is through, talking with her, tell her how you feel,and do it gentle, she is not a mind reader,
      start off with simple little suggestion, like letting her massage, certain area, of the body, "Now you figure out the rest of it: lol

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   WHoArtNowposted 15 years ago

   Interesting place to put this...
   
   Sex is great and all, but would it be classed as art?
   
   Anyway, if you want to know how to improve things in bed with your wife, your asking the wrong people, you should be asking your wife. That's the best place to start.

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      AEvansposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      aahhh.. you are so correct mmmmm.. is initmacy an art form?? Well you could say possibly? You have to be creative..Lol:)

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   mohamedhmmposted 15 years ago

   but what about if the man romantic but his wife didn't respond to his desire or even prepare herself for him- she never show her best in the bed-; what's the man do in this situstion?

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      AEvansposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Talk to her and find out what is really on her mind, be kind and understanding as there maybe somethings that she does not feel comfortable with, talk openly about each others feelings and desires without getting angry or upset.

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      WHoArtNowposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      There's your problem right there. A wife is not a sex slave. She shouldn't have to do all the work. If you want your wife or partner to be better in bed, first you need to respect them. Then you need to give them the choice. Oh and if you really want some good fun between the sheets, do your fair share of the work. Woman hate it when the work is left up to them.

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         AEvansposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         High five on that !!!!

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            WHoArtNowposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            High five back

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      LondonGirlposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Try talking AND listening to her, rather than expecting sex on tap? Just a suggestion.
      
      And I don't mean just about sex, either.

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   Dame Scribeposted 15 years ago

   I would also add ... men and womens libido drives will peak and fall ... different for everybody ... try a little flirting and playful teasing outside of the bedroom .. make her laugh and show her indirectly that shes more than just a bed partner

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   Leta Sposted 15 years ago

   ...And if nothing else works (lol, I just don't know what has gotten in to me), hookers are legal in Las Vegas.

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      WHoArtNowposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Possibly one of the best post I've ever seen on hubpages

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      Bob Martinposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      That is truly funny.

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   LondonGirlposted 15 years ago

   PS, "Brace yourself, love!" is not foreplay....

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      AEvansposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      You are a nut.

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   britneydavidsonposted 15 years ago

   well nice conversation....i will say talk with her nicely...be open and honest for her...women needs trust...and one they trust you they will shake you up doesnt matter even in bed...

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   sunstreeksposted 15 years ago

   This is not directed just as you, but at ALL guys who can't figure out why their wife doesn't have an interest in them for sex or intimacy. Talk is cheap. A man can talk himself blue in the face about how much he loves his wife and how beautiful she is, but is he "doing" anything to show his desire to be her husband forever. Jumping on her does not count. Walking around your bedroom grabbing your junk, blowing her a kiss and saying "hey baby this ones for you" does not count either.
   
   When men figure out if they get their head out of the "bedroom" and into the "kitchen" so to speak they will learn how to get better results.  Start cooking HER meals, start doing HER laundry and taking an interest in how to maintain the home the way SHE likes it. Start going places with her that SHE likes. Start watching the shows with her SHE wants to watch. Start suggesting dates at places SHE enjoys.
   
   Stop thinking with the me, me, me, mentality and wondering what you have to do to get her to satisfy your needs. Trying satisfying HER needs. Not her sexual needs, well those too, but more importantly her daily everyday needs and enjoyment.
   
   This does NOT mean doing the dishes once, making sure she knows you did the dishes, reminding her an hour later that you did the dishes, then walking around your bedroom grabbing your junk, blowing her a kiss and saying "hey baby this ones for you".
   
   Make an ACTIVE attempt to not just assist you wife with the chores but to make them yours as well. Your 8 hour shift at work, no matter how stressful or physically enduring means nothing to her 24 hours a day 7 days a week of being on duty as housekeeper, mother, errand runner, cook, lover, and whatever else her family requires of her. Make her feel like she's her own person, give her a few hours in the evening to do whatever she wants, a full day on the weekend to go do something she enjoys, and then when she comes home at night, rub her feet, give her a glass of her favorite wine and then unless she makes the first move, give her a kiss and call it a night.
   
   Give it a few weeks of her feeling like your a team, friends even, and she'll come around.

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   LondonGirlposted 15 years ago

   Wonderful message - and I agree with every word!

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    Leta Sposted 15 years ago

    Yeah, OK....  Concerning the above message.  But I cannot say I can relate (makes a lot of assumptions about M-F relationships and particularly about a woman's role).  This dynamic has got to be as different as there are different women.
    
    It would a little creep me out, ie, if a guy was that solicitous--and this just assumes the guy is a real pig. 
    
    A little mystery is always a good thing. 

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       LondonGirlposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I assumed it would go both ways - we'd both do the washing up, listen, talk, etc, not one way or the other.

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    countrywomenposted 15 years ago

    Sunstreeks post is so wonderful. It almost seems like too idealistic (almost as if I am watching a romantic movie). But I do agree whenever our life partner does small things when we appreciate that then they would be motivated to do those things again. I guess I tend to fluctuate between realistic and idealistic expectations from time to time.

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    Mishaposted 15 years ago

    LOL some ladies are still waiting for a Prince to come...
    
    Interesting, I rarely find myself in agreement with Lita

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    Leta Sposted 15 years ago

    Actually, we might only agree incidentally, Mr. Misha. 
    
    I mean, why are we just assuming it IS the man's problem here?  Or that all women want some (actually pathetic) 'idealistic' prince that will rub her feet and feed her like a baby or what have you?  Eww.  I mean, I really would find that annoying.  I wouldn't be interested in having a servant, lol--although I think some women are (one of my sisters, ie).  I think it must partially be a fantasy (though I can't relate), but also a desire to control, maybe, in some way.
    
    And, there are some women (and men) who just have lower sex drives--can take it or leave it for whatever reason (it isn't always because of the man's lack thereof).
    
    Mystery--I mean, sex/romance is supposed to be a little like that.  Of course sharing is a good thing--agree with LG--but over familiarity, doing everything together and text book how-to just might breed contempt in some, lol.
    
    I also cannot relate because the BF probably does more housework than I do, , but I've never found it to be one of his sexier traits, really!!

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    LondonGirlposted 15 years ago

    Piles of dirty clothes and scummy plates aren't sexy either, though (-:

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    Leta Sposted 15 years ago

    This is true!  He usually does the dishes; I have an affinity toward laundry.  We are like two homemakers passing in the night. 

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