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   Jane@CMposted 15 years ago

   I know I'm new here, but could use some good vibes, thoughts, prayers - whatever works for you
   
   My hubby was laid off this morning.
   
   I know we'll have to move, the market here for his type of job isn't good. 
   
   Now I need to write and write and write & pray that I'll start making a bit of income.

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      tantrumposted 15 years agoin reply to this

        I'm sorry 2 hear that. But I'm sure you'll be lucky on the long run. When things change, is beacause they need this change. And even if it looks dark at this special moment ,it will bring you satisfactions in the end

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      carminposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I know how your feel, the same thing happen to me two years ago
      when the company I was working for moved to Mexico.
      
      Keep an open mind and be alert, maybe you will find something in your area.
      
      Good luck to you and your husband.

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      emievilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      With problems come opportunities. Don't give up Jane. Maybe somebody up there is telling you and your hubby that there is another silver lining for you. As for your writing, there's no doubt you can do it . Good luck!

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      Lady_Eposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry to hear this Jane.
      I hope another door of opportunity opens very soon and even better than the one he had.
      
      Good Luck. xx

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      Maddie Ruudposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry to hear it.  My partner was laid off about a week ago, as well.  It's tough.

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      Crazdwriterposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Oh wow Jane I will definitely keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I really hope that your husband finds a new job where you guys live so you don't have to move. *HUGS*

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      imadorkposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I hear ya, I was laid off a couple of months ago.  My wife left me a week ago.  Life sucks.

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   kmackey32posted 15 years ago

   I understand. My husband has been laid off for about a year now. He has gotten emergency extensions for his unemployment but who knows how long that will last.

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   Louidam1posted 15 years ago

   I know the feeling, I was in the same boat when both me and my SO lost our jobs around the same time.  Just pray about it and God will find a way to get your husband back on his feet again with a new job.  You and your husband will be in my prayers.

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   livewithrichardposted 15 years ago

   Sorry to hear that Jane.  Happened to me too not so long ago but it was a blessing in disguise.  I launched my consulting firm full time and haven't been happier.  Even in this crappy economy, my business is growing every day. 
   
   Check out my hub on consulting, you may just find it's what you are looking for.

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   Pearldiverposted 15 years ago

   Hi Jane
   There is ALWAYS an upside to every situation like this, though at the time it is often unseen or not considered.
   If he is good at what he does, then perhaps you have an opportunity to promote his industry and talents to the world, while gaining writing credits as well.
   
   One door shuts.... and another always opens. Change in your life may be exactly what you need, so that you can get back to living on your plans as opposed to living with uncertainty.
   Good Luck... Believe and you will achieve.

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   Eaglekiwiposted 15 years ago

   Sorry to hear that Jane , its a shock even though you both probably had been holding your breathe for some weeks.
   
   Once the shock settles a little, be grateful at least for the good things you have.
   
   Hold onto to every positive ,as small as it might seem.
   
   Thinking of you and yes write, dig deep

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   deefosterposted 15 years ago

   im sorry to hear that.  Will keep you and your husband in my prayers.  Jane, the federal government is going to filling around 200k positions next several years.  I have beenwith the feds for 20 years and do workshops in my community from time to time on applying for federal positions.
   
   go to usajobs.opm.gov    there are quite a few jobs listed there. also you can email if you need help.  not sure how you get email in the hub.  But I will check this post back later.
   
   will try to assist in any way I can.

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   Ron Montgomeryposted 15 years ago

   Whenever I experience a kick to the groin of that magnitude, (I've had my share) it helps to think about all of the times that such a crappy deal lead to something wonderful.  My nasty divorce opened the opportunity to meet the woman I was truly meant to spend my life with.  Frustration with the job market led me to launch a successful business. etc. etc.  I'm sure you've experienced the same thing and will again.
   
   On a more practical level, you can watch job sites like Volition and Jobslinger.  You have to filter through the usual secret shopper nonsense, but there are occasionally simple jobs that pay a ridiculously high hourly rate.  I have a company that pays me 25.00 to do a simple placement at a grocery store where I shop regularly.  The job takes 10 minutes and I don't have to make a special  trip.  It's a diamond in the rough, but if you keep your eyes open you will be amazed at what silly little tasks are available for good extra money.

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      Davinagirl3posted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I believe this is very good advice.  That's why you're the king, Ron.

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   Aquaposted 15 years ago

   Hang in there Jane :-) I've been down this road before and even though it might feel like the end of the world right now, it really isn't. It might lead to bigger and better things, right? It did for me anyway so hopefully it will for you too. It helps to think of all the good things in life - kinda keeps things in perspective.

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    andromidaposted 15 years ago

    Sorry to hear that.I think this will make you even stronger.
    You will be glad to know that even I was laid off once.
    Can you imagine Andromida himself was laid off.

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    Davinagirl3posted 15 years ago

    My mother was laid off right after she got her triple bypass in 2001.  It was a terrible time for our family.  She was in her fifties and thought she was going to live in destitution for the rest of her life, but she persevered.  Every thing will work out for you and your family.  Please don't lose hope.  Just keep trudging along.  Most people suffer through hardships.  You are not alone in your plight.  You will be in my thoughts.  I know you will be fine.  Things will be different, but in the long run, things will be better than before.

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    Lisa HWposted 15 years ago

    Jane, sorry to hear that.  It's a worrisome time when that happens - that's for sure.  One thing you have in your favor is that these days so many more people understand about things like lay-offs.  Whether it's in finding new work, dealing with financial situations, or even dealing with friends and relatives; it can help if the "climate" is one in which people understand.  You're not alone, that's for sure.    As others have said (and I'm sure you've already thought), these things are often a chance for a new beginning.

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       dennisemattposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I wish you and hubby the abillity to not fight and pick at each other, but be a source of strength and understanding for each other. I would say LUCK but I dont belive in it. I belive, if you hang in there, and do the work, it will work out. Like Lisa said the "advantage" to these "tough times" is, many fiancial institutions are willing to work with you, when in the past they were not. My huby was hurt and out of work for 6 months, about 6 or 7 years ago, no-one no-where cared AT ALL. Now, its different. Contact all your creditors, and work something out sooner then later. you might be surprised. Most importantly, dont let this become a wedge in your relationship. That is worth so much more then money.

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    Nelle Hoxieposted 15 years ago

    Like everyone else I send good wishes and vibes. While the job market is miserable, I do know several people who have found good jobs recently. But they were all willing to be very flexible and relocate.
    
    Whatever good comes out of it, is still an awful experience to deal with.

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    Mighty Momposted 15 years ago

    Hi Jane,
    Being "new" here doesn't make you any less special or worthy of Hubber support. And as you are seeing (I hope!) we are a loving, caring community and are glad you're willing to share your experience with us!
    Many of us have been through the layoff devestation and understand how it feels. Ron's "kick in the groin" is apt. But I also agree that something better is waiting out there for you and your Hubby.
    Please write about your feelings -- a journal hub would be therapeutic for you and helpful to others going through.
    Bear in mind, too, that your perspective is useful to other SPOUSES who need to not only deal with the realities of the layoff but the emotional toll on the husband (not to sound sexist, but men deal with these ego blows differently than women. Knowing that hopefully will make you super sensitive to his needs during thhis trying time.) Good luck, many prayers and hugs. MM

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    Jane@CMposted 15 years ago

    Thank you all for your kinds words and encouragement. I don't feel quite so new anymore
    
    I know that a window is open.  My hubby is fortunately very marketable so I pray that it won't be long before he finds another job, but my guess is it won't be here - and I'm really okay with that.  I worry about my 13 year old adjusting, and moving away from my daughter.
    
    As mentioned above, we've had six weeks to prepare for this, I'm glad the waiting is over and we can really make plans to move forward.
    
    I am going to write about it.
    
    Again, thank you all!

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       mtsi1098posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       My thoughts and prayers go with you and your family...never give up hope

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    mugshotposted 15 years ago

    Hi Jane,
    
    Have you thought about joining a website like rentacoder where you can bid for writing and other jobs, you can make a good income from this site if you put the effort in.
    
    Just a thought to help you build more of an income.

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    pgrundyposted 15 years ago

    Jane, I'll be sending good thoughts your way. I hope something even better turns up and soon. Everybody here will be pulling for you.

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    Amanda Severnposted 15 years ago

    Good luck Jane. I hope things turn around very soon.

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    jimcassaposted 15 years ago

    Losing a job can be a big blow, it happened to me,then I started a blog to keep my sanity. There are money making programs around. You just have to find them.

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    Jane@CMposted 15 years ago

    Thanks again for the good thoughts and well wishes.
    
    Hubby went in to work this morning to clean out his office.  16.5 years with this company...I think he was sad.
    
    We found out that 400 engineers are being laid off at this location.

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    A2shleyposted 15 years ago

    I know this thread is a little cold but I just found out that my Dad was laid off from his job today and reading through all the kind words and support you all provided for Jane made me feel a little better for him.  I'm so sad for him.  And angry at his company.  On the one hand we always knew this was coming; he's survived three lay-offs and a salary decrease; and he's been looking for a while for something new. But on the other hand, he's my Dad.  In my eyes (and the eyes of most ) he is the best; the hardest worker, and a great leader.  I hate seeing him in this position and I worry about him both financially and emotionally.  My dad is so proud...southern Machismo at it's best. 
    
    At any rate, venting helps.  Thank you for reading this.  I know that this is a blessing in disguise for him because he deserves to be some place that he is appreciated...I just wish he had that place to go to tomorrow and not in the unknown future.

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       Crazdwriterposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I am really sorry for your father too A2ashley...I hope he finds a new job quickly and I will keep him aand your family in my thoughts and prayers *HUGS* to you too chica! and yes ranting is fine. Ify uo need to rant more...and this goes for you too Jane...email me and rant away. I am always here for people even those I don't know that well. I am always ready to listen and help in any way I can.

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       Jane@CMposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I hope all goes well for you dad. Venting does help, as does writing
       
       My hubby is working with an out placement company.  One of their first recommendations is to not be angry with the company.  And they are right, it really isn't their fault that the Army canceled their contract.

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    KCC Big Countryposted 15 years ago

    You're in my thoughts! So many nice comments, it almost seems there's nothing left to say that hasn't already been said.  I do agree that this is a blessing in disguise.  Things happen for a reason.  Keep watching for the good in this situation and let it reveal itself to you. Things will work out.

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    earnestshubposted 15 years ago

    My best wishes to you Jane, and to all the other wonderful hubbers who are suffering through this economic crisis.
    
    I have no way to help, other than to say that when things get tough, make sure you do not take it out on loved ones. This is a time when closing ranks with love has a magic of it's own.
    I do not know how it works, but it does. When you say to your loved ones "these times are tough, and I am so happy to have your love to get through it" instead of "it's your fault" you just know that good things will happen to you. You will be fine!

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       blue dogposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       you are one classy guy!!

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       Jane@CMposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks Ernest.  We really do believe it will be okay.  I think the reality is just starting to sink in, it took awhile.  We do have a loving and supportive family.

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    jiberishposted 15 years ago

    Jane I too want to say how sorry I am, it takes time to get adjusted, I wish I could give you some advice, but I've been in that boat since May.  Good Luck. I'll keep you in my prayers.

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    Gemsongposted 15 years ago

    Jane you have my sympathies. I lost my job back in July. Hubpages saved my life. Not money, that is yet to happen, but the community and the resources have kept me from feeling like a loser.

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    dutchman1951posted 15 years ago

    Jane, best wishes from another new person
    you have my thoughts and prayers for sucess.
    
    I know that is a hard to go through.
    Dont give up on yourself, keep trying.
    
    Wishing for you and your Husband the best.
    Jon in nashville

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