What is cheating ?

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   hinckles komaposted 15 years ago

   How many times would you forgive someone who cheated?

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      sneakorocksolidposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      You mean on love? none. I thought you meant in general the only way I can beat my son at anything is to cheat. I have to other wise I have to listen to his lame smack!

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      andromidaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      maybe once or twice.

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         hinckles komaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Why?

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      Chopsticksposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I would forgive my partner if it was a one night stand...after a year or 2 if it was an more than once..NEVER!

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   lrohnerposted 15 years ago

   None. Zip. Zilch. Zero.

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   Cranooposted 15 years ago

   None because I don't want to spend the rest of my life with someone I can't trust.
   
   Don't cheat you could really hurt someone and what goes around comes around.

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   Mishaposted 15 years ago

   Изменять. И вообще обманывать.

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      andromidaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      this is called cheating.

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   Redneckmanposted 15 years ago

   I think my old lady is cheating on me.

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   sneakorocksolidposted 15 years ago

   The other way to win?

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   europewalkerposted 15 years ago

   None,trust would be broken and I'd never forget it.

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   jiberishposted 15 years ago

   none

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   Dale Mazurekposted 15 years ago

   I think you need to let circumstances dictate that.  I have been married over 21 years and that would be difficult to throw away.
   
   Now, Im not advocating cheating but at the end of the day there would be a lot of questions.
   
   I think in my case, if it has been an ongoing thing then ya things would probably be done.  If it were a one time thing then maybe we would have to look at counselling or something.
   
   Now if you asked my wife this she would be with you guys.  She would say its over and thats all there is to it.  So ya people have differing opinions.

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      hinckles komaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      men are more forgiving, i wonder why is that in real life.

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    Sarra Garrettposted 15 years ago

    Absolutely None, they never stop cheating

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    Colebabieposted 15 years ago

    I think it depends.

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       hinckles komaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       on what?

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          Colebabieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          On the relationship, on what type of cheating we're talking about.

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             hinckles komaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             physical relations.

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                Colebabieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                Ok, kissing, oral sex, intercourse...
                All of those are physical.

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                   Mishaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                   And shaking hands, too

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                      Colebabieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                      No that's cool
                      Cheating to me is doing anything you wouldn't do in front of me. My boyfriend knows I could care less about flirting or looking at other girls. But whether or not I would forgive someone and take them back depends on the situation. I would like to say "No way! Get outta here!" but I'm not in the situation, I don't know what I would do.

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                         Mishaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                         If you really give it a thought, you will see that all what you listed are no more serious than a hand shaking, and could be easily ignored - they do not endanger your property (your man). He still stays yours.
                         
                         The real perceived danger comes with emotional attachment

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                            Colebabieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                            Not to me If he cheats, and it is "just sex" no emotions involved, it means that he went looking for something he felt he couldn't get from me. That means there are emotions. Always.

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                               Mishaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                               Nah, not always. Could be just a hygienic procedure, you know, to avoid hairy palms
                               
                               And i did not say emotions, I said emotional attachment. That makes a difference.

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    Colebabieposted 15 years ago

    Because in some cases, if they divorce.. there goes half their stuff!

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       james hoyerposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       That is a question that has a lot of gray in it. Very seldom have I seen a divorce that really served a real purpose, the children are usualy the losers.

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    Sybil Marieposted 15 years ago

    I may Forgive them.., but that doesn't mean I would stick around to have them do it again.

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    Colebabieposted 15 years ago

    Was it just once, or was it a relationship? Does he love her? Who is she? What kind of physical cheating are we talking about? Are we married? Do we have children?

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    ralwusposted 15 years ago

    A thing worth having is a thing worth cheating for.

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    Colebabieposted 15 years ago

    Nope, not just emotional attachment but emotions in general are dangerous as well.

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       Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Sex is not an emotional experience?

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          Colebabieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          That's what I'm saying If someone cheats emotions are always involved. And when emotions are involved, it gets dangerous.

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    Mishaposted 15 years ago

    If your man is yours, he will return. Otherwise, he never been yours to start with.

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       Colebabieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Return? Why should he leave at all?

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          Mishaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Umm, weren't we talking about cheating?

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             Colebabieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             Yes. You said if he is mine he will return. But why should he leave to begin with?

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                Mishaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                I was talking about returning to you from another woman, after spending some time with her. Or to me from another man, does not really differ.
                
                We are quite curious animals, you know.

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                   Colebabieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                   I understand. So I'll ask the question again, "Why leave in the first place?" Is it just out of curiosity?

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                      Mishaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                      Depends on what exactly you mean by "leave".

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                         Colebabieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                         "Spending some time with her" Whether that be breaking it off with me and being with her. Or seeing us both simultaneously.

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    Eaglekiwiposted 15 years ago

    I think cheating begins in the mind first ,then when the opportunity presents itself, it becomes a reality.
    
    Or the opposite effect , I dont accept there is a reason to cheat , so I wont be likely too, cuz I already decided.(in my mind)

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    Drifter0658posted 15 years ago

    If it was Poker...the cheater would get shot

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       Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       makes sense

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          Chopsticksposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Hehehehe

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    Mishaposted 15 years ago

    If it is seeing you both (or thre, four, etc.) - likely just a curiosity or indecisiveness. If it is breaking up with you - this is more serious, and likely there are other reasons for this.

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       Colebabieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Either way. If he comes back to me, that means it must have gone wrong with her and I'm his second choice. No thank you.

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          Mishaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Nah, it means that he checked and confirmed that you are the FIRST choice. You will easily see this if you add one or two more girls to our scenario. He goes to any of them, and comes back to YOU.

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             Colebabieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             He shouldn't have to check "Oh I looked around and couldn't find anyone better, so yeah.. you are the one"

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                Eaglekiwiposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                Yea like he compared the sex why didnt he just buy a doll

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                Mishaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                Oh, well, here is where we differ. I believe vs I know.

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                   Colebabieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                   I think that open relationships can definitely work. I just choose not to be in one.

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                      Mishaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                      I sure see you don't. May be later, cause I do think you are one of the few women around who can actually manage it. And you deserve peace of mind it brings in.

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                         Colebabieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                         Possibly. But I'm happy right now

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    habeeposted 15 years ago

    Once. I think everyone deserves a second chance. A third chance? Nah...

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    cosetteposted 15 years ago

    i tend to have a somewhat 'Bohemian' view about issues like this so at the risk of getting run out of town on a rail, i will just say that there are worse things a partner or spouse can do to you other than cheating.
    
    trust me on this.

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       Mishaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Did you escape from a Bluebeard?

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    Mishaposted 15 years ago

    Absolutely no intention to ruin your happiness. Enjoy it!

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    cosetteposted 15 years ago

    something like that.

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    Mishaposted 15 years ago

    Poor thing.
    
    At least you seem to be OK now, which is goooood!

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    cosetteposted 15 years ago

    that i am.
    
    better than ok

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    Paradise7posted 15 years ago

    I'd forgive, because holding onto something like that is more hurtful than letting go.
    
    But I wouldn't stay with the guy.  Staying with someone who values you so little is even more hurtful.

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