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'Change' is the only constant thing. Then why people are not comfortable with 'C

  1. ChitrangadaSharan profile image56
    ChitrangadaSharanposted 4 years ago

    'Change' is the only constant thing. Then why people are not comfortable with 'Changes'?

  2. stanwshura profile image75
    stanwshuraposted 4 years ago

    Change requires adjustment, adaptation, flexibility and in general puts demands on our faculties and patience.

    1. ChitrangadaSharan profile image56
      ChitrangadaSharanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Well said---Change does tests us in many ways. Thanks for your reply!

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    JThomp42posted 4 years ago

    I think so many of us are creatures of habit. We like things to be in our comfort zone. Anything (change) outside of that comfort zone makes us uncomfortable. Although change is inevitable in life, it can still be very uncomfortable.

    1. ChitrangadaSharan profile image56
      ChitrangadaSharanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      You are so right, we do not want to step outside of our Comfort zone. But Change is inevitable and the wise thing to do is to embrace it.
      Many thanks for your answer!

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      JThomp42posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      You are quite welcome.

  4. Ann810 profile image81
    Ann810posted 4 years ago

    Some people are set in their ways and don't feel comfortable with change and can't adapt. And their are those that know "change" can be a good thing in many situations and they accept it knowing it's for their own growth.

    1. ChitrangadaSharan profile image56
      ChitrangadaSharanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with your views. Thanks for your response!

  5. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    Comfortable means being (stable), (confident), and (relaxed) in your ability to handle an established routine. With comfort comes a feeling of (security).
    Change on the other hand means (unpredictable), (unfamilar), requiring you to be (alert), being prepared to learn or (adapt) to uncertainties. We tend not to "trust" new things, people, or changes.
    Truth be told very few people embrace "changes" as a way of life. We can't wait for the probation period to end at new job, to be done with trying to impress people in new relationships, to (know) what we are doing or operate without the fear of looking "foolish" to others. "Human beings are creatures of habit."
    We instill "conformity" in our children at an early age and we are not comfortable with people who express large amounts of "individuality" in their thinking, appearance, or behavior.
    Having said that many of us admire those who welcome change and challenges. We look up to the business titans, sports heroes. and foreword thinkers who are always positive and upbeat about the future. We follow the leaders who remain calm, cool, and collected.

    1. ChitrangadaSharan profile image56
      ChitrangadaSharanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Very well said! You are right, we do look up to the people, who welcome change and challenges. Thanks for your response!

  6. suzzycue profile image93
    suzzycueposted 4 years ago

    Change is not always a welcome thing. But if we don't change we don't grow. If we don't grow we don't live. It is a wasted life not to grow and find joy in your life. I welcome change because it comes with challenges. Some people get over whelmed with challenges and change.

    1. ChitrangadaSharan profile image56
      ChitrangadaSharanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks suzzycue, for answering! To welcome change and challenges is the wise thing to do. It makes you grow in life. Very well said!

  7. connorj profile image77
    connorjposted 4 years ago

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    "Change is the only constant in life;" however, the author of this quote, Niels Bohr would probably agree that this does not suggest that change is necessarily good or positive. I think of another quote, I believe it is from C.S. Lewis, "The only way forward is to go backwards" This too is change...

    1. Emanate Presence profile image76
      Emanate Presenceposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Ah, I have repeated "Change is the only constant in life," and not known before who originated it. Thanks. Looked up Niels Bohr - 'a Danish physicist who made foundational contributions to understanding atomic structure and quantum mechanics...'

    2. ChitrangadaSharan profile image56
      ChitrangadaSharanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Interesting answer! Thanks for your opinion!

    3. connorj profile image77
      connorjposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you, Chitrangada; for us (mankind) I am inclined to believe C.S. Lewis' quote as our best choice (with regards to Mankind)...

  8. gags3480 profile image72
    gags3480posted 4 years ago

    Because many do not want to get out of their comfort zone. Positive changes are always welcomed & even an adverse change can be dealt with if seen in a positive manner.

    1. ChitrangadaSharan profile image56
      ChitrangadaSharanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Very rightly said! Change is a fact of life and should be viewed in a positive manner. Many thanks for your opinion!

  9. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 4 years ago

    Change often makes us feel as though we are not in control and this is hard on many people.  We want what is comfortable and familiar.

    1. ChitrangadaSharan profile image56
      ChitrangadaSharanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, we do like being comfortable and familiar. Thanks for answering!

  10. lone77star profile image83
    lone77starposted 4 years ago

    Attitude and attachment.

    You can be comfortable with change, but it takes being able to let go. It takes being unattached to things, states, attitudes, beliefs and more. It takes not judging things as "important."

    1. ChitrangadaSharan profile image56
      ChitrangadaSharanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      You are so right! '----being able to let go---', is very important. Many thanks for your point of view.

  11. LoisRyan13903 profile image80
    LoisRyan13903posted 4 years ago

    It's not that they are uncomfortable to change they are resistant to change.  If something is changing at my job the managers will explain about the change and why it is necessary.  But they will also give advantages of the change so we may be able to embrace the change easily.  The only change I don't like is when the doctor tells me that I have th change my diet.

    1. ChitrangadaSharan profile image56
      ChitrangadaSharanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for the interest in the question! Embracing changes at office can become easy, if the advantages are well explained. Thanks!

    2. LoisRyan13903 profile image80
      LoisRyan13903posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Of course the change all people will like is the change in their pockets.

  12. Emanate Presence profile image76
    Emanate Presenceposted 4 years ago

    ChitrangadaSharan,

    There are many honest answers here from various perspectives.

    dashingscorpio gave some illuminating understanding into the human state.

    It was interesting to learn from connorj that Niels Bohr, a physicist, originated the saying that 'change is the only constant.'

    If humans were attuned to nature, where change is the only constant, we would be blissfully comfortable with constant change.

    It is the unnatural conditioning of humans, in thoughts, beliefs and habits, that blocks us from being joyfully attuned to the rhythm and cycles of nature.

    But it does not have to be so. I went from living 18 years in the same apartment in Atlanta and living a normal life by society standards to embracing the flow of change. From 2000 to 2010 (the last I counted) I packed up and moved 35 times between both coasts of America, Hawaii and Europe. When we went to New Zealand, Kati and I had reduced all we owned to what we could carry in backpacks.

    On the Canary Islands, we abandoned two suitcases full of new items we'd bought for our new life as managers of a permaculture farm. The farm was not a healthy place to be, and we could no longer carry all the literal baggage. So we left the suitcases at a bus stop with a note that anyone could take them. Then my briefcase with laptop, passport and cards was stolen leaving us unable to leave Spain. Oh, what adventure bold change can bring! We learned more in a few weeks of experience than we would have in years of university studies.

    These 13 years of almost constant change have felt crazy in some ways, but the experience has been tremendously freeing.

    I let go of so much, including prized possessions and figuratively many kilos of emotional baggage and old ideas. For the first time in decades I felt alive, and this continues as I continue to embrace change as we move again this month, from Germany to California. I also feel ready to embrace the ultimate change which none can avoid.

    But I question that change is the only constant. There is another c-word, one that I have heard some physicists disregard or even hold in contempt. It is consciousness.

    My worldview constantly evolves, yet a constant in it is that consciousness itself does not change. It simply is, and like water seeking its own level, seeks to express itself in diverse ways through matter. Wherein humans have a choice to be co-creators with consciousness. To paraphrase a mis-quote of Gandhi, we can *be* the change.

    Thank you for asking.

    1. ChitrangadaSharan profile image56
      ChitrangadaSharanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I loved your answer and your description of 'consciousness'. And you are right, that consciousness itself does not change.
      Very interesting answer! Thanks for your opinion!

  13. Jeff Berndt profile image87
    Jeff Berndtposted 4 years ago

    The familiar is comfortable, sometimes even if it's not as pleasant as you'd like.

    The new and unfamiliar might be better, and it might be worse. We tend to be more protective of that which we already have (loss averse) than willing to risk it for something better, so we instinctively resist change.

    But luckily, we can learn to let go of our attachment to the familiar and embrace the new for what it is, rather than what we fear it might be. But it's hard to do that.

    1. ChitrangadaSharan profile image56
      ChitrangadaSharanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I agree, it is human nature to stick to what is familiar and comfortable. Many thanks for answering!

  14. jabelufiroz profile image71
    jabelufirozposted 4 years ago

    Leadership is about change, but what is a leader to do when faced with ubiquitous resistance? Resistance to change manifests itself in many ways, from foot-dragging and inertia to petty sabotage to outright rebellions. The best tool for leaders of change is to understand the predictable, universal sources of resistance in each situation and then strategize around them. Here are the ten I've found to be the most common.

    Loss of control.

    Change interferes with autonomy and can make people feel that they've lost control over their territory. It's not just political, as in who has the power. Our sense of self-determination is often the first things to go when faced with a potential change coming from someone else. Smart leaders leave room for those affected by change to make choices. They invite others into the planning, giving them ownership.

    Excess uncertainty.

    If change feels like walking off a cliff blindfolded, then people will reject it. People will often prefer to remain mired in misery than to head toward an unknown. As the saying goes, "Better the devil you know than the devil you don't know." To overcome inertia requires a sense of safety as well as an inspiring vision. Leaders should create certainty of process, with clear, simple steps and timetables.

    Surprise, surprise!

    Decisions imposed on people suddenly, with no time to get used to the idea or prepare for the consequences, are generally resisted. It's always easier to say No than to say Yes. Leaders should avoid the temptation to craft changes in secret and then announce them all at once. It's better to plant seeds — that is, to sprinkle hints of what might be coming and seek input.

    Everything seems different.

    Change is meant to bring something different, but how different? We are creatures of habit. Routines become automatic, but change jolts us into consciousness, sometimes in uncomfortable ways. Too many differences can be distracting or confusing. Leaders should try to minimize the number of unrelated differences introduced by a central change. Wherever possible keep things familiar. Remain focused on the important things; avoid change for the sake of change.

    http://blogs.hbr.org/kanter/2012/09/ten … chang.html

    1. ChitrangadaSharan profile image56
      ChitrangadaSharanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for an elaborate and interesting answer! I liked the link too. Thanks for taking interest in the question!

  15. DDE profile image25
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    Change one can never be prepared for it just happens I know when my lief changed it affected me  but looking back now on my life then and now I wouldn't change  it for any one  it is perfect for me. Adapting, and adjusting to new life does make a difference but something not everyone can be up for in their lives.

    1. ChitrangadaSharan profile image56
      ChitrangadaSharanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I quite agree with you.  Some changes are beyond our control and we have to adapt accordingly.
      Thanks for your answer!

 
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