What do you think people really say behind your back?

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   lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

   I think people on average
   
   wonder if I am serious or joking and tend to keep a bit distant until they know.
   
   
   anybody have your own theory's?

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      Springboardposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Whether we tell our tales fictionally or not is not the important factor. That we tell our tales true, from the heart, and give every word the utmost attention IS what's important. All great words are art, and like all great works of art, they will be interpreted over time. They need not be true or false. It is the mystery behind their origination that makes them unique or special. Everyone always asks a writer, "where do you get your ideas?" Sometimes those ideas come from a real, dark place in the writer's world. We put them into words so we can touch them, feel them, and so that we can confront them.
      
      Think of the impact of Orson Welles over the airwaves as he recited the words from "War of the Worlds." Think of how much the words, the way they were spoken, the way they were structured, made people BELIEVE they were real. It mattered little that it wasn't real. The listeners FELT something.
      
      We need not explain, as writers, what we write or why we write it. We need not outrightly admit to the truths or the fictions in the words we write. We need only capture the minds and the imaginations, and the EMOTIONS of our readers, and let the words take them where they may.
      
      Edgar Alan Poe was a master. In reality he was a very troubled man. His words are meant to be written as a way for the writer himself to deal with and confront his personal demons. We as readers simply get to take that journey with him. He makes it fictional. Somehow I think he was speaking about himself more often than creating situations for characters to suffer.
      
      I don't care whether the tale you tell is real or not, so long as I walk away with a deep and profound sense of whoever it is, the character telling the story has been able to effectively make me feel and understand the pain that is there.

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      emievilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Uhm, for some people, I don't need to think because I know what they say behind my back .
      
      "she's too nice to be true" <---- this one I accidentally heard from one of my clients when I was on the job training in California.
      
      "she's too meticulous" <----- from one of my people who does not know that I know she said this.
      
      Those that I 'think' other people are saying behind my back - I'll keep these to myself .

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         defenestratethisposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Shes kinda weird, different, a slob, too nice, too quiet

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      Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Bad things...
      he's arrogant...he thinks he knows it all....Conceeded...He thinks he is never wrong...
      
      good things...
      nice butt....

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      logic,commonsenseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I think you are serious about joking!

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      Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      after 10 years, I've been told twice what people think and say behind my back.....It's not good, and in the future I'ld rather not know.

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         Friendlywordposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         You shouldn't know or care what people say behind your back.  Little bit""es and fa""ots talk behind your back. Dont even waste a minute thinking about what they say.  Just deal with what Men and Women have to say to you.

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   Uninvited Writerposted 14 years ago

   I'm like that. People don't get my humour right away. They have to get used to me.

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   L. Andrew Marrposted 14 years ago

   Haha,
   
   I come from a wonderfully cynical and two-faced society. Most people see me and think I'm a deluded bigot. They all bitch. I go to an all boys school and there is an all girls school down the road. You can guess how things are like.
   
   Truth is that my contempt for humanity is growing fiercer and I am slowly realising that the world is made up mainly of fools and idiots.
   (Thank you Joris-Karl Huysmans).
   
   Luke.

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   ddsurfscaposted 14 years ago

   I think that people either really really like me,   or, they really really hate me, and I know that this is the truth.
   There does not seem to be any middle ground, or grey area, or any area of just tolerance for some reason.
   I think that maybe it is because I tend to be opinionated, and don't mind telling people exactly what I think, bluntly at times.

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   lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

   Also, and I have been told this more than once, okay twice.  That when they meet me they think I am a bitch.  Couldn't be further from the truth but something in my facial expression or body language sends this message.  STILL.  I hate this. 

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      Ghost32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Lyrics, if you're projecting that message, it may well be a survival technique.  Nothing wrong with that, either.  In many dangerous places--such as prisons, for example--it's much safer to project the "B" image than, say, a Bunny Wabbit image.  So I'd say, cherish the image and don't sweat the small stuff...or the small minds.
      
      In my case, name ANY reaction, or even any NON-reaction, and I've gotten it from people.  I've had so many times when a roomful of total strangers had their hackles go up when I walked in...that I wrote a song titled "Devil In Blue Jeans" which proposed the theory that all these edgy types remembered me from a past life when I WAS serving as the Devil Himself and, as the lyric states, "...You took down a lot of Souls".
      
      In other cases, folks have liked me instantly--got at least a few of my seven wives (but only 6 divorces!) that way.  And in still other cases, an entire group of people has known me for months and months before they suddenly realized I might have more to me than being just a mousy little fellow. (No, I'm not making that up--it has happened.)
      
      Bottom line:  Got to where I don't really worry about it any more.  What is, is, and I go from there. 

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   prettydarkhorseposted 14 years ago

   NAH, youre both nice, I have an absolute psychic power HEHE
   
   I dont know if WORDS are enough to know the real US, sometimes it is cultural too -- your perception of others are based on your own value system,  and on personal level there are people who are sometimes misunderstood US just because of physical characteristics or mannerisms,

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   dave272727posted 14 years ago

   I think people try too hard.  Attempts to impress and make a good impression is what is forefront in people's minds.  If you can just be yourself, then if they like you great, if they don't well there are several billion people on the planet.  You are bound to find some that do.

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      defenestratethisposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Took me awhile, but Ive finally come to realize that what other people say and think about me is none of my business, doesnt matter, and is out of my control. What matters is what I say to me about me, and how I feel about myself. What other people say and do is about them, not me.

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         earnestshubposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Spot on. "what others think about me is none of my business"

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            defenestratethisposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Thanks..yep, that little sentence has given me much, much greater peace of mind.

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   wyanjenposted 14 years ago

   One of my favorite lyrics: "I want you to notice / when I'm not around" (Radiohead)
   
   A few times I've been told that people think I'm stuck up.
   
   It's always after people got to know me, and realized how far from the truth it is, that they would tell me what people were saying.
   
   The problem used to be that I was so damn shy that I wouldn't talk to people.
   I fixed that problem
   
   Hi everybody
   
   As far as what people are saying behind my back now-a-days?
   I don't give a damn.
   Everybody gets some bad press now and then.

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   Hmrjmr1posted 14 years ago

   Old enough not to care one whit ....

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    dave272727posted 14 years ago

    Oops, didn't really read the question completely.  People think that I am a bit goofy, or that I don't seem to care.

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    PrettyPantherposted 14 years ago

    I have been told several times that I always appear to be supremely confident and unfazed.  This totally baffles me because I do not feel that way at all.

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       PrettyPantherposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I didn't really answer the proper question, did I?  This is what people have said to TO me.  lol
       
       I really have no idea what people say behind my back, and I've tried to come up with something and can't. 

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    Richieb799posted 14 years ago

    Its amazing how fake some people can be, they will pretend to like you because it is somebody they can have around... and they only like to talk to you when your are telling your problems, when you have good news, they get jealous and envious! and thats when you see who your friends are.

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    double_frickposted 14 years ago

    i don't think people think of me much at all.

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       sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Wrong.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

    Sneak is not as funny as he thinks he is and he's a bigot.

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       wyanjenposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       No, that is what we say directly TO you.

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          Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          DOOHH!

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             wyanjenposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             I tell people behind sneako's back that he is my most favorite bigot.
             
             shhhh... don't tell him I said that...

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                Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                My Lips are sealed....psst sneako...I got a secret, but you can't tell anyone I told you...ok?

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                   sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   This is gonna be great!

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             sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             All right you two I'm putting your names in my book!

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    donotfearposted 14 years ago

    Some folks say I'm crazy, others say I'm nosy. Still others have said I talk too much and then there are those who say I'm hyper-active. Last but not least are those who say, "Gosh she's a bundle of energy!" (I've been called a bitch, too).

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    mega1posted 14 years ago

    I think, when I think about it, (which I don't very often) that most people think I am tremendously self-involved - but I don't give ashit! 
    
    
    on the other hand
    
    People usually love me at first until they find out I am totally preoccupied with myself and don't really give ashit!

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    Richieb799posted 14 years ago

    some people say Im trouble some say Im mysterious, some girls say Im nice and kind
    
    I think people are probably threatened by your intelligence and wit Kim, I saw you got an interview with hubpages in my email box, well done

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    efeguyposted 14 years ago

    depends on who you are,i mean your character to people
    
    for me i know 80percent say nice things about me,you cant just get 100percent

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    wychicposted 14 years ago

    I've heard that I talk too much and I'm a know-it-all...then I realized I should just hang around with less...intellectually-challenged...people. I much prefer to hear the other things that were said behind my back, such as:
    
    "She has such gorgeous hair!" (the pic is way outdated, it's midway between butt and knees now)
    
    "She seems like such a quiet, sweet person."
    
    "She makes the best banana bread ever!!!"
    
    and, one of my favorites...
    
    "She has huge chi-chis, but her eyes are so blue that when you talk to her you actually have to look her in the eyes!"

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       mega1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       you should definitely be in the Tribe!  (see The Hub Tribe is Forming thread)  you'd love it!

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    Beth100posted 14 years ago

    First, I really can't be bothered with what other's think.  Guess they're right...a little bit arrogant.... lol
    
    Second, can YOU tell me?  I can't hear them, but you can.  Pleeez, tell me???? 
    
    Okay, seriously, they think I'm all fluff upstairs and can't be taken seriously because I'm of below average intelligence.  Quite the contrary. 
    
    I'm a bitch because I'm confident, don't back down and don't scare easily. I'm not a bitch, I stand my ground because I believe in myself and have the courage to defend myself when I need to.
    
    Now, pleeeeze Lyrics, tell me what you've heard??? 

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       mega1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       If you wanna know what I think of you - I wrote about you (just a little bit) in that hub on the Tribe for Hubbers that I just published!  heheh  heheh   its all good!

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    sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

    You're wack.

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    Alessia Amnesiaposted 14 years ago

    I think people are probably commenting on what a nice butt I have

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       mega1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       of course they do dear!  they don't say nothing about your wit or your sense of humor or your wacky scewed perspective on life - not one thing!

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          Alessia Amnesiaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Of course they don't. In real life, very few people know who I really am because I am extremely shy. Only here do I open myself up and let people view the real me. Probably a bad thing, but that's just who I am and I don't see it changing any time soon. Try talking about me behind my back to someone I know in real life. No one knows who Alessia Amnesia is so have fun with that

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    wish she would turn around

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       mega1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       

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    prettydarkhorseposted 14 years ago

    I am always good they say, giving, caring and all, thats what I am always hearing, maybe I dont really hear what they are saying, But they are all talking maybe about me saying why should I not take care of myself first????

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    IvyCrenshawposted 14 years ago

    From what I have been told, people think I am a kind, honest person, but naive.  Some love me, some hate. 
    
    One who hates me tried to convince several others to hate me also by telling lies about me.  She got laughed out, because those who knew me by reputation only, called her on it.

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    wsp2469posted 14 years ago

    I don't give two sh*ts and a flying f*ck what they say behind my back because we cannot control what people say about us behind our backs.
    Seriously, there are really important things to worry about, ya know?

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    Mishaposted 14 years ago

    I have no fucking idea.

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    Cagsilposted 14 years ago

    Don't care.

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       lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       good point.  But that doesn't answer the question.

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          Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Since, I don't care. I don't waste time thinking about what could be possibly said about me when I am not there.

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    yoshi97posted 14 years ago

    Dragons have a distinct advantage when people talk behind their backs. for one thing, they have excellent hearing ... for another, they have a long spindly tail that dispenses of the blokes and their unruly words.

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    cindyvineposted 14 years ago

    bhind my back?  Check out that sexy arse and the way it jiggles and wiggles when she walks.

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    Ivorwenposted 14 years ago

    What do I think they say?  "That woman is crazy!"
    
    I've yet to be proved right in it, but that is what I think they are saying.   
    
    @Cindy:  ROTFL!

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    Mike Lickteigposted 14 years ago

    I think people say, "Why doesn't he act his age?"

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       Mikel G Robertsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       "What's 'my age' again?" 

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    nice ass

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    habeeposted 14 years ago

    I know exactly what people say behind my back: "Damn, that is one smart, creative, funny, sexy, warm, caring, unselfish, fascinating, talented, courageous, generous, humble woman!"
    
    Well, at least that's how my dogs see it! lol!

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    A Texanposted 14 years ago

    What do they say behind my back?
    
    Damn that boy has got a nice ass!

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    blatvaposted 14 years ago

    I think most most people find me grotesque...

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    wychicposted 14 years ago

    People say nice things about my ass to my face and talk about my boobs behind my back...my goodness, this could get confusing.

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    wrenfrost56posted 14 years ago

    They probably say something along the lines of, she's not as smart as she thinks she is, she is a bit ditsy and a bit of a push over. But I don't mind because it's all true.

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    enough with the drama already from that girl.  geez.

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    Hokeyposted 14 years ago

    I think people say, "That Hokey sure would be lucky if he could get lyrics to smile at him."

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       lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       big loving smile my dear dear friend xo

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          Hokeyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          If your smiling I feel better. Chin up. We don't control people places or things. We control how we react to them. Happiness is a personal choice. Make that choice no matter what, and keep smiling.

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    rebekahELLEposted 14 years ago

    nice hair...
    
    actually, it doesn't matter.

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    logic,commonsenseposted 14 years ago

    Look at those big hands!

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       blondepoetposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       We all know what that signifies Logic.....golly gosh!!!

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          logic,commonsenseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Yeah it means I have big hands!

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             blondepoetposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Amongst other things

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                logic,commonsenseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                There's only one way to find out!

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                   blondepoetposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   That's right...on with the show I say wooo hoooooo!!!

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                      logic,commonsenseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                      What is the price of admission?

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                         blondepoetposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                         All tickets are free but are only valid a week

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                            logic,commonsenseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                            I guess I'd better get on the stick!

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    Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago

    Let me see....I think that ppl say that I am ugly, stupid, pathetic, a drama queen...oh and not behind my back but I had an ex tell me that my egg donor should have aborted me not put me up for adoption

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       Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Oh and of course forgot ppl most likely say thatmy writing sucks and that i'll never become an author and that I suck at being a teacher.

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          Ivorwenposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Are you having a bad evening?    Cause I really doubt that people say that about you.

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             Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             who? me?

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                Ivorwenposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                yeah, you!

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          Hokeyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Who cares what people say about you. It's how you feel about you.

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    Glenn S.posted 14 years ago

    Not much, and I don't really care.

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    Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago

    oh well no not having a bad day...Lyrics asked what I think ppl say behind my back and that is what I think.
    
    But the thing my ex said to my face was true...said the world would be a better place without me.

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       Hokeyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Build a man a fire, and he'll be warm for a day. Set a man on fire, and he'll be warm for the rest of his life. lol

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          Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          don't give me ideas

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             Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Yeah, please don't refresh her mind with old ideas long forgotten.

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                Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                cags you kill me

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          wyanjenposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          brutal.
          
          love it

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          Ivorwenposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          LOL Hokey.
          
          ex's can just be plain nasty.

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             Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             yea they can be...I only had one ex who was supportive but then he fell off the face of the earth..not literally but we stopped talking lol

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    logic,commonsenseposted 14 years ago

    He's a dick!

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       Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       yep big one at that. got all hurt because I wouldn't invite him to my wedding. HELLO parents never liked him and he is an ex...we weren't even really friends just chatted on and off before I got married. Stopped talking to him once I got engaged.

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    Hokeyposted 14 years ago

    Ahhh! That Hokey. Such a happy, funny, pleasant fellow. Unless I have teased them in the religious forums. Then they say, "I sure hope there really is a god so he fuc%$#g burns!!!! lol

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       Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       lmao
       
       hey haven't said something I say to all new comesr
       
       Welcome to hubpages

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          Hokeyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Awesome! Thank you sister! Namaste

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    Beth100posted 14 years ago

    Maybe a few good things...maybe a few bad things.  I really don't worry about this too much.

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       logic,commonsenseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I heard them say you could be a real bear! LOL!

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       Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Hey Beth, what's up?
       
       
       
       
       
       @logic,commonsense - what's up with you?

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          logic,commonsenseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Just hangin.
          whats goin on with you?

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             Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Not much. See above post.

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    Beth100posted 14 years ago

    Hey Cags!  Just checking on the action tonight.  How about you?
    
    
    
    Maybe that's why I don't let people stand behind me....

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       Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       What you just said about not letting ppl stand behind you reminds me of a shirt I bought for my dad. On the back it reads "While you were reading this I farted"

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          Beth100posted 14 years agoin reply to this

               

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             Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             hehehehe and funny thing is my dad wears it out in public. didn't think he would but he does. I am so proud of my dad

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       Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Nothing much, just roaming around. I did quite a bit of writing earlier and almost have my Valentine's Day hubs finished, and no I'm not publishing them early.
       
       Otherwise, just hanging around.

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          Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Dang it Cags! You knew I was gonna say something didn't you?

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             Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Did you see it featured?
             
             I received a message from Lyricsingray, that the hub itself was Featured in the HubPages - Spreading HubLove topics section. She ran across it yesterday.
             
             However, when you click on the read more link, it leads nowhere. But, she sent me a copy of her browser. It's not there now, but was.

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                Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                HAHA wow Casper got your hub featuered huh? good for casper and nope didn't see it featured oh that is too funny

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          Beth100posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Aw, I thought I could get a sneak peak!!!  No fun!!! 

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             Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             

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    Onusonusposted 14 years ago

    I hate it when I find out about people doing that. I would rather not to know, and go about my day thinking that everyone loves my personality. Cause they should.

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