Im so angry and I don't know how to deal with this please help

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   lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

   I can't take much more right now.
   
   I just got a comment on my hub about the loss of my daughter called-my daughter has no mother-
   
   the most painful thing in my life and you can imagine how hard to write about it then just now i get this;
   
   DB1980  says:
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   Hello “lyricsingray”, I actually stumbled upon your hub while searching for the lyrics to a david gray song. But after reading your “journey” and the comments that followed, I felt compelled to offer my own comments. You need a reality check and to think long and hard about divulging such inflammatory content directed at your child . While your story is tragic and I commend you for trying to overcome a lifetime of drug addiction caused by mental illness, the fact that you posted this on the internet for your 12 year old daughter to find (long before she is mentally or emotionally ready to read such things) is completely irresponsible. I myself am a mother and human and have done things in my past I am not proud of. However, at no time do I think it is appropriate to share the torrid tales of my past with my child. Nor do I ever want to hear such things about my own parents, even though I am an adult, it just goes against the parent-child relationship in my opinion. If my mother was a drug-addict, I would prefer not to know, EVER. Why you felt so compelled to expose yourself, especially if that was in your past and you became a new woman leaving that life behind. Your daughter never needs to know the details of your drug addiction that you have laid out for all to see in this hub! There is simply no need! But here it is, your story is on the web and your precious daughter may read it tomorrow while she is still a child and baby, long before she is able to comprehend or understand it. And she may end up hating you or worse, wanting to emulate you for embarrassing her by airing all of your dirty laundry on the internet for ANYONE and EVERYONE, including her friends, to read. I am astonished.
   
   While you have clearly come a far distance in your battle with your inner demons, the fact that you have posted this hub on the internet with no controls over who can see it whatsoever, shows me that you still have a lot to learn about what it means to be a good mother. I am 30 years old and had a hard time viewing your attached pictures and videos. First and foremost, you try to protect your children, especially from your own mistakes. But instead, you have done the opposite. And by the way, you have made your daughter’s identity, as well as your ex husband’s, obvious to anyone with half a brain. I mean in one sentence you say you can’t give her last name for legal reasons and then you provide all. This allows anyone and everyone to know who you are talking about, including your daughter’s peers. It makes me so angry to read your words which say how much you love your daughter. This hub does nothing but hurt her. I understand the need to heal yourself by telling your story but at what cost? Did it ever occur to you that one of your daughter’s peers may one day come across this hub? I can only imagine the shock, and horrifying embarrassment your daughter would feel if that happened.
   
   It is sad you lost your daughter due to drug addiction. I have much sympathy for you as I do agree that drug addiction is a disease like any other. But, few other diseases hurt those around you as much as drug and alcohol addiction. Why would you post those links with detailed pictures of your sickness and illegal drug use. Wow! Your cleansing completely disregards everything that should be sacred to a young girl. You may ultimately end up doing the opposite of what your intent was, YOU WILL DESTROY HER! It is my understanding that you can never retract any content once posted. What a shame!
   
   Dianne
   
   
   I don't know how to deal with this. i commented back and fanned her as she has none nor hubs but I want to threaten her and I am not in the best state of mind to make a decision right now.  Even if I am overreacting because I am emotional right now please tell me what you would do.  I don't trust my own judgement right now.
   
   Thank you
   
   
   sorry about the subject matter.  She really hurt me.

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   Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago

   Don't threaten her lyrics. just defan her, delete her comment, or you can say something like thanks for your coment but it is my decision and I am sticking by what I wrote.
   
   but you did the right thing by writing such a strong hub. Ignore her! she doesn't know what she is talking about and remember you have a lot more important ppl who agree with what you did.

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   lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

   I have to go lye down. Maybe I should learn to let go. Sory about the post.

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      Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      you need to vent
      she clearly doesnt know what shes talking about
      it sucks big hairy veiny gonads, but if you havent dealt with shit, you just dont know how it is....
      some people have a long long way to fall off thier high high horses.....
      delete her stupidass self righteous BULLSHIT and know that your going to be ok. go take a hot bath, now is not the time to doubt yourself. play some soothing music, have a good cry, get some sleep hun.

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   Flightkeeperposted 14 years ago

   I think you should write a fan comment saying that you don't appreciate her being such a condescending, judgmental bitch and that it is your choice what you want to write about.
   
   As for exposing your child, unless it's #1 on google under the daughter mother search, I think it would be hard for your daughter to find your hub.

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      Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      OOOO I like that one, Flightkeeper hehe. I did post a comment too lyrics. One stating that Dianne is WRONG! I hope she goes back and reads it. what a loser! And it states perfectly that you said not to be judegemental in the first paragraph. Does she now know how to read and comprehend?

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         Flightkeeperposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Really, the nerve of some people!

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      lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      thanks.

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   Pr0metheusposted 14 years ago

   Sounds like a bitter person.  On top of that she's a 30 year old mother.  She doesn't have the experience or intelligence to know what good parenting is (unless she had the kid when she was 18... actually that would just mean she had even less intelligence).  Ignore her.  If you let her get under your skin then she wins.

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      Pr0metheusposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      P.S. Put a better picture up, you look so sad!  I know you've been through a lot but...  Put a picture of you when you were happy up, just to give yourself a reason to smile.

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      myownworldposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I'm a young mother too but I have enough sense to know that one of the best things you can pass on to your children is honesty.... and it starts with oneself. I think Lyr your daughter will be so so proud of you one day......and look up to you...and be able to share things like a friend with you.
      Shame on anyone for making you think otherwise...really...!

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   dave272727posted 14 years ago

   Lyrics,
   I wouldn't worry too much about it.  I do not agree at all with what that (rhymes with witch) said.  I think Crazd is right.  Delete her comment.  Send her an email via hubpages and tell her that opinions are like asses.  Everyone has one, and hers stinks.

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      Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      hehehe I like that dave. 'opinions are like asses. everyone has one and hers stinks'

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   frogdroppingposted 14 years ago

   Lyric - seriously ... that's one opinion. And as for the rest of what I think, it's not for public viewing. I will contact you.
   
   Now get up, get vertical. This is not the worst thing that's happened, no matter how hurtful it feels. Look it in the eye for what it is

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   Shadesbreathposted 14 years ago

   I wouldn't sweat it.  I can see why you'd be angry, given the personal nature of the comment, but she reads to me like someone who just doesn't have much respect for human nature.  She writes your daughter off as being too stupid and shallow to grasp the complexities of life, both as too intellectually shallow to follow the truth now, and destined, apparently for all time, to be incapable of dealing with adversity or reality later.
   
   She appears to be one of those people who think it's best to hide children from reality, even at ages where they are capable of handling it (in many societies today, and in most in the past several millenniumadulthood commenced in the early teens, adulthood being a mindset fostered by social forces, albeit impacted by hormones too). 
   
   If I were you, I would not take that comment too seriously.  I'm sure the woman means well, but she has a very narrow expectation of human capacity.  I almost feel more sorry for her than you, given that with a world view like that, she will be finding threat and offense often in her life despite the absence of it.
   
   (Don't delete the comment though.  That only gives power to its weakness.)

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   rebekahELLEposted 14 years ago

   kimberly, wait until you calm down to make any decision.
   
   it's her opinion about how SHE feels. it is your writing that you have shared about how YOU feel. I'm sure that was hard to read and it would upset me also if someone questioned my integrity like that. but remember why you wrote it. there will always be those who question our judgments and make us feel like we did the wrong thing, but it's your life and your decision. I think actually it was rather rude of her to confront you like that having never met you or talked with you. I wouldn't have fanned her.
   
   stay calm.

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    Pearldiverposted 14 years ago

    Clearly this person only joined HP to lodge a comment on your hub.... Although I find it interesting in how she refers to Hubs, as if she has more than just noobie status. (Probably another account)... What is this party's writing name and IP KIm?

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    donotfearposted 14 years ago

    lyric, my friend...
    You have a right to your anger!!!  This DB1980 wants to play a 'shame & blame' game without really knowing you. I don't like that kinda passive-aggressive stuff. I see what she's trying to say but in the same sense, she's shaming you, and it's tasteless. It's her opinion only, that's all it is. I don't know what she's talking about in your hub 'how she could figure out who your daughter is' I saw nothing in your material that could lead me to find your child. As for her comment, it's a comment, that's all it is.  It's hurt your feelings, is in your thoughts, now it's up to you, as the intelligent woman I know you are to put in action a 'positive response'.  You my dear, are wonderful, expressive, talented....your ability to convey yourself is outstanding. Wait, listen, pray, meditate.  You will get the perfect 'positive response' that will come from your sensitive heart.

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    h.a.borcichposted 14 years ago

    Lyrics,
      It is sad that such a comment was made.
      Personally, I think you are courageous. A weaker person would hide the bitter truth under a rug. Anything painful thing left in the dark only gains power and grows shame. By facing the root of the problems and changing, growing, you are healing. You are helping others heal. Your hub is beautiful and heart wretching and honest. Brave.
      When we do what we feel is right, there will always be someone to b!tch about it. Do what is right anyways. Be true to who you are. Holly

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    Poppa Bluesposted 14 years ago

    I think you need to look inside yourself and analyze what it is about her comments that so enraged you. We aall know that what we post is open to all and subject to comments of all kinds. Indeed we welcome comments to our hubs! Consider her intent, was it to hurt you? That`s not to say you shouldn`t be angry, but it`s something to consider before you react.

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    Daniel Carterposted 14 years ago

    Apparently she prefers her head in the sand of denial than to deal with the reality of her life, and then continues to make judgments regarding other's lives.
    
    Joan Rivers swears like a sailor. She is foul-mouthed to the extreme. But she says things that are truthful, hurtful, and real with a wicked sense of humor. Regardless of what anyone may think of her, she is a REAL human being, has lost everything more than once, and kept going to rebuild more than once. Her husband committed suicide. Her companion of nine years lost his leg in WW2 and she is WICKED about the truth of it.
    
    She has pioneered many a good thing for many, many people, but especially women. I met her briefly last night. I didn't know what to think of her until that moment.
    
    Your voice is clear, Lyrics. Find your peace and don't attack this person who has built walls and shields to protect herself from the world. She can't handle a real life, apparently.
    
    You can. You do. You not only survived, you are flourishing and writing your truth. There is no harm done by someone who can't live in reality. Their threats are voiceless and white noise. Just some disturbance in the background.
    
    Reclaim your power, be proud of what you've written and keep doing it.
    
    You know who your friends are. We all admire you and will continue to do so.
    
    
    
    Rock on, girl. Life is short. You have lots to say.

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       myownworldposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       there.....no one could have summed it up better! Beautiful....!
       ( warm @ Daniel)

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    Justine76posted 14 years ago

    p.s. follow the frog...

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    ASHWINSPGAposted 14 years ago

    Some parents hide their past from their children. but as they grow older and happen to chance upon their parents past they get hurt and resentment and bitterness towards their parents grow a hundred fold. Why hide in the first place. You had a bad life, you went through shit. Despite all that you fought hard, struggled and you emerged victorious.Lesser people would have given up along the way.Your daughter should be proud of you Miss Gray. You did nothing wrong cheer up

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    Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago

    I hope you are calming down now, Lyrics. Ignore the person who can't read and like Daniel said likes to have her head stuck in the sand. You have more important ppl. US!

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    The Ropeposted 14 years ago

    Lyrics, left you a note on the hub where she will be sure to see it.  Negative comments on hubs where someone really puts their heart out there are always sad but not worth dwelling on. Support headed your way...

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    L. Andrew Marrposted 14 years ago

    I want to give lyrics a hug...
    
    It seems like she needs one

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       myownworldposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       yes, let's all squeeeeeeeeeeze her....she'll love it, I know!

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          L. Andrew Marrposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          CYBER HUGS ALL ROUND!!!

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    Cagsilposted 14 years ago

    That post is completely uncalled for and shows the ignorance of some people. I wouldn't even give her the time of day and as upsetting as it is, just delete the comment and move forward for yourself.
    
    Your daughter is the subject of the hub, but the emphasis is on your struggles with your addiction and other things. The person "Diane" are just simply moronic to the value of life. They would hide something such as this from their own child, so as to NEVER tell them. That simply tells me that she doesn't have a clue of what it truly means to be a family.
    
    Please don't waste your energy on it. I know it's tough to get over, but with plenty of friends here and support of all of us, we can help you move past this particularly sad individual.
    
    Keep your chin up lady and do not retaliate, because there is nothing to gain from it, even the temporary satisfaction that you would get from it, would still leave a reminder in your head, that it was said. Delete the comment and push forward.

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    Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago

    *ONE BIGARSE HUGE CYBER HUG FOR LYRICS AND ALL OF HER SUPPORTIVE FRIENDS FROM THE ALMIGHTY CARZDWRITER* hehehe okay not almight but hey had to throw that one in hehehehe

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       Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    Thanks my friends, just need to have a good cry and get some sleep its been 3 days.
    You are such wonderful people
    my god who would have known website is where i would meet the very people who are getting me through my fathers suicide and very painful memories that were attacked.
    Thank you for the hugs
    mostly thank you for you
    I swear

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       Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       You're so very welcome.

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       lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I can't find the words, you people are unbelievable and so kind I'm speechless and mostly grateful beyond words once again.

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          Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Lyrics! this will still be here now shoo get yourself sleep! Don't make me climb through this computer! ooo that would be cool and creepy at the same time!

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             lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             OK really need to
             goodnight helpful hubbers

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                myownworldposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                OH C'MON you can't sleep now.....here we're all getting dressed up....

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             ASHWINSPGAposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             You were suppose to be sleeping.  Just don't let cradzwriter know.

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                Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                Oh trust me I knew

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    mega1posted 14 years ago

    I think that it is way weird how many people come onto HubPages and vent their own pasts at people and tell people what to do under the guise of "advice" and are just generally condescending, bitchy and stupid.  I would delete the comment, because if your daughter (and she probably won't because you have a different name on HP that she doesn't know) ever sees your hub, she won't have to see some judgmental bitch's comment - I wish there were some way we could let this person see all of our comments in support of you and maybe she would get the big message - not right to judge each other on HP, especially in a public way - if she wanted to say this why didn't she send you an email?
    
    AND - just want to share with you: when I went thro my divorce and my youngest was in second grade the teacher actually said to me "Your son is doing so well!  he seems so normal!  I keep looking for something that will show his reaction to your divorcing his dad, but he just seems fine!"  So I told her to STOP looking for something wrong!  GAAAAAHHHHHH!!  People are nuts!  I would personally email that nutcase, on your behalf, but only if you want me to!

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    Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago

    I do hope you get sleep it's so not fun having days without sleep. Sweet draems, lyrics, you deserve them!

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    readytoescapeposted 14 years ago

    Wow, what a subject to contemplate.
    
    I must admit I have not read your hub (yet), but I am assuming from your posting the comments echo the content. This certainly does raise a paradox.  In many ways the commenter is correct in the what-ifs category, and in just as many, the personal assertions appear decidedly presumptuous and wrong.
    
    The question that presents itself, is the angst you feel because some of the comments concerning the content and its affect may be accurate, or are you angry and upset to be accused?
    
    And thereby comes the paradox as to whether there is a problem to correct, by editing the hub and obscuring identities, and in doing so is this an admission of the comment’s validity and assertions? Or do you attack from a position of what seems to be perceived weakness, (guilt), tossing the what-ifs into the realm of reality? 
    
    I personally think the comment is an unadulterated attack, from her, shall we say limited point of view.
    
    Poppa Blues post also seems to highlight mine.
    
    “I think you need to look inside yourself and analyze what it is about her comments that so enraged you.”
    
    Unfortunately it’s a tough question that only you can answer, though as demonstrated above, we all support you.
    
    Delete the comment, it serves no purpose to those that read the hub and would only encourage other intolerant and aggressive commenting.

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    Daniel Carterposted 14 years ago

    Yes, get some rest. Sending squeezes.

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    skyfireposted 14 years ago

    Kim
    
    1. Delete the comment
    2. Forget about it,we have lot of things to be done than playing with trolls (In fact we face lot of such trolls everyday)
    3. Don't feed the troll if you have no time(if you've time then you can enjoy tinkering with it)
    4. Never take such negative comments seriously.
    5. Let's change the topic

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    myownworldposted 14 years ago

    It's funny and strange how we're all just 'cyber' friends, and yet, some of the 'bonds' you make here can be stronger than the ones you have in real life...Lyr I just wish I had a way of reaching you in person and conveying to you how very much we all love you...take you out for a drink (our gang!) and cheer you up somehow! Know that we're all here for you.... xx

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       readytoescapeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I'll buy the first round

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          myownworldposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          how on earth will we EVER fit under one roof....

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          Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          didnt crazed allready drink your supply?

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             Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             lmao Justine! that wasn't me...it was someone who looked like me. I do have a twin somewhere out in the world...I think

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                Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                me too....an evil sexy twin who drinks all the rum....

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                   Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   you got one of those too? I knew I wasn't the only one

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             readytoescapeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             No she and her little bunny rabbit cohorts swiped it,
             
             
             But she resupplied.

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                Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                of course I would resupply your stash. I'm not that cold hearted!

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                   readytoescapeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   unfortunately none of that is left,

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                      Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                      well that is your fault not mine

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                         readytoescapeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                         Of course its my fault, partly, the other part is George Bush's fault. He has become my new bartender, this way, like the democrats, I can blame him for everything and drink away unscathed by accusation or truth. It simply isn't my fault.
                         
                         I'll have another by the way.

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       Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I like that our gang! Am I one of the gang?

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          myownworldposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          he he...OF COURSE.....!!!!!!!!!!! now get your best dress on...I'll be there to pick you up in say...um...12 hours? ?

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             Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Dress? nobody told this tomboy she had to wear a dress! no please don't make me wear a dress please oh please oh please! I hate wearing dresses...seriously ask anyone

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    Pearldiverposted 14 years ago

    I think you should DE fan the Troll Kim... Leave the comment up, as it has been countered by many others.  This party joined 2 days ago and has interestingly, only read your hub!  So ignore it.... don't reward it.
    
    Many ways to take trolls outa play Kim

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    skyfireposted 14 years ago

    We need to start Gang war, let's corner that Troll

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       Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       shes already a victim of her own shallow pathetic convictions. Sadly, she will learn the truth of being such a 'perfect' mother. The best thing to do, is realize shes small, and scared, and dont ever doubt yourself because of people like that.

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          skyfireposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Point.

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          Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Why is it I always agree to you? Weird! LOL
          
          Kimberly, don't let this woman get under your skin, she obviously has serious psychological problems and tries to get a relief at your expense. I would not fan her, I would just ignore her.

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    donotfearposted 14 years ago

    I wanna add something else here. This woman shamed Kim for revealing so much of her life publicly. I'll tell Kim directly - my kids know EVERYTHING about my past drug use, irrational behavior, crazy life style. And they are both accepting of it. I shared a lot with them, perhaps too much, yet it allowed them to see the inner change that came from God. They saw a comparison. They are not damaged from it. They are ages 31 & 27.  The problems they had were in NO WAY the direct result of finding out about my past. They accepted it for what it was.
    
    Kimberly is real. Keep it up, girl!

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       Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       kids know more then you realize anyway. its better to be an honest human, then an unaproachable false god

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    LaViejaposted 14 years ago

    You've had the strength to overcome many things that other people cannot even imagine, let alone deal with. I think she was just completely focused on your daughter and her perspective and simply cannot put herself in your shoes or see things from all sides. She is just one person, don't waste time thinking about it. You have a lot of support here, just leave it be. Your supporters here will continue to support you, your life will carry on as usual, so she had a strong opinion, voiced it and maybe she shouldn't have, but she did. Don't waste time thinking about it - she's not worth it.
    Thinking of you...

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    A Texanposted 14 years ago

    My advice
    
    Tell her to fuck off!

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       Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Hear hear!

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    lorlie6posted 14 years ago

    Your daughter will be far better to know the reality of your situation than an all-around vagueness that often accompanies non-custodial parents. She has the right to know, and you as a mother have the courage to reveal yourself.  As she grows, I know she will appreciate your honesty.
    Why oh why did you 'fan' her?

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    theirishobserver.posted 14 years ago

    Lyrics, what this busy body has said is no reflection of you,this person is someone who has much to hide, someone who would encourage people to hide their true self, your past is what got you to where you are today, you are a strong person, dont react to her, dont threaten her, this person has their own cross to bare, only yesterday in Ireland a woman who claimed to be a champion of victims turns out to be one of the worst abusers in the country, these people who shout loud have much to hide, they have darkness in their heart, walk away from this and lets get back to some serious threading and hubbing.....let the devil take care of his own and we will take care of you...now come on...give me an interesting thread...

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    uliveulearnposted 14 years ago

    You can't hide from your past, nor should you.  You should be proud of yourself.  For what you have overcome and for the strength you have gained to deal with the struggles that are to come.  Don't let anybody else's narrow minded views cause you to second guess the extraordinary person you are.  Everyone has struggles.  Your daughter will have struggles and you will be an honest guide for her and an example that life can be hard but things can and will be better.
    
    I have had to deal with secrets coming out in my family after they have passed on.  It is hard not having the opportunity to talk to the person directly and it leaves an emptiness.  It is so much better for your daughter to hear about your path in life good and bad directly from you and she will benefit from your honest and open communication. 
    
    You have lots of friends here with great support and advice.  Stand tall and proud for yourself and for your daughter.  There are always critics.  Remain strong.  Don't let the assholes break you down.  And, I agree, change the pic, be happy.
    
    Here is a quote from your interview with blondepoet:
    
    "It is who I am. I have accepted that. Yes, I also had expected a few negative comments here from the start. I was sure on the Hub I wrote as my time drug dealing. It's understandable when people may not understand the disease of addiction. Check this out. Not once in all my many hubs detailing pure honest details and experiences of my addiction, have I received one negative comment Only supportive and encouraging words. The amount of interest has also been inspiring."
    
    So although you expected more, this is your first negative comment.  Let it go and continue to be inspired by dear.  You have done so well.

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    tantrumposted 14 years ago

    Kim. FORGET IT  !
    It's obvious that this person wants to hurt you. Don't please her. She's less than nothing. Don't delete the comment just now, or she'll be back pestering you. Leave it there for a couple weeks and then delete it and forget about it.
    When you post personal topics ,you should be prepared for this kind of things.
    In real life there are a lot of evil people. Just imagine on the net !
    
    Try to see if you can work out who she is by the IP
    
    HUGS HUGS HUGS  !!

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    myownworldposted 14 years ago

    (((ok...here I've been driving for hours to get to Lyr...Crazed is complaining about the dress.....Justine and the rest are trying to meet us all....we're waiting for drinks...and Lyr has gone off to bed!!! Everyone is welcome to join in by the way...!)))

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       Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Of course I'm b!tch!n' about the dress. I only wear dresses for weddings, funerals, and when I was in HS dances. maybe a special occassion with the hubby but other than that I don't do dresses!

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          myownworldposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          ok..ok...now is NOT the time to fuss...but you have around 10 HOURS to make up your mind anyway.....meanwhile Lyr's fast asleep...so....see u in this life!

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             Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Why can't I just wear jeans, boots and a shirt? why it gotta be a dress? we going clubing or something?

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                myownworldposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                ok..ok...WHATEVER you like ....just be awake when i get there!!

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                   Crazdwriterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                   Woohoo! I can wear some new clothes that I just bought...new jeans, new top...yay thank you MOW I'll be awake I promise

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    Sara Tonynposted 14 years ago

    Ignore that hurtful post, Lyrics. The woman is tremendously angry at herself for something and she took it out on you in a disgusting manner.
    
    Forget about that brainless twit and try and get some rest.
    
    If you want, I'll cyber-kick her arse for you... (I ain't got no couth so what the heck.)

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    mega1posted 14 years ago

    we will all be so happy when we have our funny,witty, girl lyrics back in the mood for laughs!  sleep well - wish I could make you some of my guaranteed herbal sleep tee - with valerian, raspberry leaf, licorice and echinacea - which helps you heal while you sleep!  love you lyrics.

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    ThoughtfulSpotposted 14 years ago

    Hope your finding some solace in sleep Lyrics.
    
    The weak hide.  The strong accept, own and grow.  You are obviously one of the latter.

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    Ms Chievousposted 14 years ago

    Lyrics,
    It is always a risk when you put your emotions or personal stories out on the internet!  You have been through a lot lately and have some excess emotions/energy built up from these events and it is making you more easily angered! Do not repsond to this lady. Just try to reframe how you think about her. It seems to be a narrow minded approach to make her feel better about her self.  I am also going to guess you struck somekind of cord with her for to write all that to you.  Maybe she has had some bad experiences too.
    
    A suggestion for you at such a vulnerable time may be for you to not have comment boxes for your more personal hubs. (Too bad Hubpages doesn't have  way to turn them on and off)
    get some rest..

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    sabrebIadeposted 14 years ago

    Lyric, you are a wonderful person, I know that from reading your Hubs.
    Plus, I have a good feel about people usually.
    Delete the comment if you want to, but let it go either way.
    
    "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
    -Eleanor Roosevelt
    
    I know it hurts, but I also think that you know you are a good person.
    If you don't know that you should.

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       ThoughtfulSpotposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       What a great quote.  I know I've read it before, but I always forget.  I think I must jot it down now.

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    Springboardposted 14 years ago

    When we write things, especially thought provoking or controversial things, there will always be someone with an opposing thought. You always have to stay on the side of intelligence. I think responding in a negative way only serves the person who made the original negative comment and detracts from not only your argument, but from the credibility of your story to begin with.
    
    Better to just leave the comment in tact, and respond "I appreciate your feelings and I thank you for leaving your thoughts, even if I may disagree in whole or in part with what you've said. Life is like our thoughts and opinions. There is vast diversity in how we all view the world, and thank Heaven's for it."

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    Money Glitchposted 14 years ago

    Lyrics, Obviously this woman is someone who has issues of her own and she is attempting to empower herself by making you look and feel bad.  People attack you where and when you are vulnerable to fill a hole that is within themselves. My sister refers to such instances as this as; the "nothing" in them is attempting to attack the "something" in you!
    
    I realize such hurtfully words hurts to the core of your being!
    So here's my suggestion,
    1)Delete her comments so that you don't have to look at them and be reminded of the hurt she tried to instill on you. 
    2)And then write a comment to DB  whatever the bi***'s name was and simply state, "I WIN!"
    3)Then look at all the comments that you've gotten from those of us who support and love you for who you are!

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    waynetposted 14 years ago

    As we can post what we want to here we can control the comments to the best of our ability, I would leave the commment there as it provides a sign post to her own idiotic opinion.
    
    You always get these I'm afraid, when you write hubpage like this that are open and honest and provide an honest account of a point in ones life, just ignore the witch and get back to being the fun of hubpages....whoooohooo and......boobies and y-fronts that are still interfering with me bum crack!!

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    jayjay40posted 14 years ago

    I feel so sorry for the hurt this one person has given you, but please remember it is only one person in this crazy world.  I hope you can rise above it and put it behind you. You don't deserve it and this person hasn't the right to inflict their venom on others. God bless

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    Lissieposted 14 years ago

    Sorry if this is repetative - I haven't read all the comments - but I did read your hub.
    
    First off - stuff you put on the Internet is foreever - although you use a pseudodynm there is enough persoanl info on your profile to identify you to someone who knew you in real life - say your daughter - or worse her peers.
    
    Do you really want your daughter's teenage peers to be able to laugh at  their "friends" mother? Because they will - and they will bully mercilessly. 
    
    Re the comment on this thread - I too believed for a very long time my mother was perfect - well into my 20's - and I'm glad I did - kids need safely and certainity and they only people who can gnerally give that is their parents.
    
    Frankly I would seriously think about unpublishing the hub - I understand that it was probably good for you to write it but that doesn't mean that its a good thing for it to be published online. If comments upset you - then remove the comment box - the commentator above is wrong - ite easy to remove a comment box - go to the edit view - click  the red cross in the corner of it

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       waynetposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       While that may be true in some respects, kids bully anyway regardless, if it's not about your family it's about your looks or even the shoes or the clothes you choose to wear, you can't win at school believe me.
       
       Can't believe I've posted a few f words on the hub in question, I must learn just to write some more hubpages lol!, now in the future when I do business, they'll say right ready to sign on the dotted line...oh wait a minute what's this f off witch or I'll dribble arse stew on yer face!
       
       I understand where you're coming from Lissie, but I've learnt my kids to stand up to bullies!!

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       Daniel Carterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       For what it's worth, Lissie, my parents were major screw ups and in total denial of all of it. It would make a great book. But I'm not in the mood. There was no safety, no boundaries or modeling a good life or a happy family.
       
       What FINALLY happened just before one of my parents died is that the denial finally caved in, they became honest, and felt a need to try to undo some of the damage.
       
       For those of us who never had that "safety" it all sounds like an episode of "Father Knows Best" and believe me, my father DIDN'T. I don't like to air laundry about my family, but there is so much dysfunction in the world that this type of writing can actually bring hope to those who are in such circumstances.
       
       Being made fun of? Poor dear. Everyone goes through all that anyway. It's about dealing with it, and about creating your own safe place, learning the terrible lessons life hands to you by not continually repeating the same crap over and over. And if you can avoid being bitter about it, that's called a good life.
       
       I have a good life. Finally. Because it was me, not my parents who created a safe place for me. It was me who forgave them. It was me who held them in their grief for what they inadvertently perpetrated on to me. I had to grow up and see life for what it is.
       
       The kind of writing that Lyrics does is cathartic to many, many people. It's a blessing. I know, because I'm like her in many ways. I go about my life a little differently, but I relate to her experiences very much.
       
       I think your insights are well thought out, and I think you are a very intelligent person, but I do disagree with what you've said, with all due respect.

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       Hauntyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       It's very very smart to think of it like that. Even though we know that the stuff we put on hubpages is very unlikely to be forever. Especially if it's not commercial.

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          lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          so?

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             Hauntyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             Does this so mean so what should I do or so what do you mean?

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                lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                it means i am aware enough that the internet works in such a way that it stores data, like for an example a hub.  my point being i will not shame myself to worry if its there 100000000 years as i have nothing to be ashamed of.

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    Mishaposted 14 years ago

    Nah Lissie, while we agree on a lot of SEO stuff, I completely disagree with you here. I strongly believe being honest to our kids pays off. Well, not only to kids of course.

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    WriteAngledposted 14 years ago

    I disagree too, Lissie. My parents left a lot unsaid about their lives and I deeply regret not knowing what was left hidden from me. Kimberly has written a beautiful testimonial. If her daughter ever finds it, it will provide her with much healing.

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       twuxedoposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       So Lissie, you want her to sweep it under the Carpet, Her kids friends aren't into reading Hubpages, for goodness sake. I'm really too young to be on here lol

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