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   Fluffymetalposted 14 years ago

   I have been given the opportunity to move from Texas to Portland.  My partner and friend will be getting a large back pay and agrees to pay a years rent if I pay utilities.  We will both be on disability.  I am a 33 year old female. He is a gorgeous young man. I'm currently in San Antonio doing nothing with my life, but living with my alcoholic father.... I mean come on!

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      trish1048posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      What happens after a year?  What will you and he do once you move there?  Do either of you have friends or family where you're going?  Is this just an escape in the hopes of 'once I move everything will be alright'?  Just remember, no matter where you go, there you are.  There is no magic bullet that will make life better.
      
      I say follow your gut.  The heart doesn't always know what's best for you.  Whatever you decide, I wish you the best.

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   simeonvisserposted 14 years ago

   Follow your heart. You know all those little details that are not part of the bigger picture that you described. If you want to move on in life and no longer live with your alcoholic father, go for it. The best decisions are often the hardest to make but you must make them. If the situation looks good, do it. You can always change your situation if you no longer like it.

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   rmcrayneposted 14 years ago

   Portland Oregon?  Portland Maine?  It would make a huge difference in those utilities.  My sister moved from Portland Maine to San Antonio to live with me. She was in a relationship of several years that soured.  My father, brother and I footed the bill for her move.  Like most things in life, sounds like a gamble.  How lucky do you feel?

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   Pearldiverposted 14 years ago

   Your biggest problem will be whether or not Wordscribe lets you publish from her neck of the Oregon woods! And if that's the only problem, then I think you will find a friend there in Laura!
   Your man is telling you that it's time to get a different life.. clearly he has a vested interest... and foresight
   
   When do you leave?

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   Mighty Momposted 14 years ago

   Sounds like a wonderful opportunity to me!
   I would move to Portland in a HEARTBEAT!
   Especially with a gorgeous man.
   You could always move back if your dad needs you. Then again, without you there to help him,maybe, just maybe he will get sober (I know, MM's answer to anything and everything that ails anyone )
   Good luck and don't forget to hub about your big move!

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   wyanjenposted 14 years ago

   Cliché advice, but:
   
   You wont regret the things you do - only the things  you didnt do
   
   If it doesnt work out, you can always go back

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   travelespressoposted 14 years ago

   Do what feels right for you FM.  Life's regrets are often about missed opportunities.  Good luck with the decision making the big ones are very difficult to make.

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   Randy Godwinposted 14 years ago

   They have the very best cement there!

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   Fluffymetalposted 14 years ago

   Thanks for the insight... it is very helpful.

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