Should girls in secondary/high school wear really short skirts?
Lol. Welcome to Hubpages, Purepakistani
Thank you lady.
I see a butt of my 3 year old daughter quite often. In fact a butt of my 5 year old son, too. Is it THAT bad?
Sure they should! This is soooooo sexy
How did this turn into a discussion of Urdu?
Looks like somebody trying too hard to appear ESL - broken English yet no spelling mistakes. Looks like yet another alter-ego - a native English speaker trying to convince us that they are not.
You are trying too hard, PurePakistani
I noticed the stilt as well sufi, if he or she is putting on the narrow minded religionist cape, it fits like a glove, err coat.
Spot on Sufi
Maybe, although there a couple of other folks who like to try the mind games in the forums. Could be any one of a few suspects
...and paint them to appease his god?
Wow, we've deviated from the short shirt topic! lol
Freedom of choice, but each person should understand that a message is being sent out based on attire.LOL I still don't see how this is materially different from what our Pakistani friend is suggesting.
You are missing the point. Our Pakistani friend believes most of the women body should be covered. Does not really matter what reasons he has, those reasons are relative to his local morals. You believe certain parts of the body should be covered, less then he believes, but still this is only quantitative difference not qualitative. And your reasons also are relative to your local morals.
Does it give you an idea on how really relative and not absolute both believes are?
Being "girly" and wearing a micro-mini skirt aren't necessarily the same thing. A lot of teens today equate being feminine with being "slutty looking" (or if not "slutty looking", then at least revealing lots of skin). There are lots of girly outfits that are feminine or cute or pretty but not trashy. I'd like to see today's teens learn the difference.
I don't think it kills any students to learn that there are some clothes for places like school or work and other clothes for parties or clubs. Last February I went for coffee at Burger King, and in came a chunky teen girl with no coat, spaghetti straps, and the worst case of cleavage I've seen in Massachusetts Februaries. She just looked like an idiot who didn't know how to dress appropriately or else someone for whom showing the cleavage was so important she'd ignore the Winter temperatures (and the fact that it was Burger King on a Sunday afternoon). She would have looked a lot girlier in a pretty, feminine, sweater and maybe pretty scarf and hat.
LOL They grow sooooooooooooo fast.
Enjoy it while it lasts, forget about battles LOL My Goddess, always the voice of reason
Why thank you, Mishenka ...
Takes one to know one
JennyYou might be worrying about the wrong thing. If you can keep your kid talking to you while they're a teen, you've won half the battle. It's hard because you know more of the answers than they do and you want them to succeed so badly, but if you force them to abide by your rules, you lose influence with them. That's why you should only try to force rules on the important things, go to school, don't stay out past a certain time, etc. Clothes is way down on the list. She'll make stupid mistakes, just like you did. Take pictures, they'll come in handy in the future.
The more you let them go their own way and advise them, the more trust you will build with them. Let's face it teens and adults don't have much trust towards one another. Parents want to give their kids the best chance possible with the fewest mistakes and teens are confused and trying to find themselves. You won't do yourself or your teen any good by getting into fights with things she can circumvent. Let her win a few of the not so important things and you'll find that when you're proven right, she'll be more apt to listen to you.
I saw far too many parents at the facility I used to work at try to force kids to do stuff. You can force, but it's pretty ineffective, you have to influence. That's a whole different ball game.It's hard even working with the kids I worked with. You get close to them, share their victories and defeats. But you always have to be the adult and sometimes that means stepping aside and letting them get a taste of what it really is like out there and being there for them when they come back looking for answers.
Keep your kid talking to you and you'll head off most of their problems, no matter what they wear. Plus you'll get plenty of awesome pictures to show her prospective husbands when she brings them home to meet you. Good times. 
Hey, you are always welcome.
You are a fan to converse with, even when we disagree
And yes, the more i live the more I see that most if not all cases of us shooting ourselves in the foot are caused by fear...> Should girls really be wearing extremely short skirts? Or should they opt for trousers?
"No" to both There is nothing that they (or anyone else) *should* wear, there are only things they want to wear, and hopefully no one is keeping them from doing so.May be reading the thread in its entirety will help you to re-assess your approach Kristie
- Leta Sposted 15 years ago
0 I never had a uniform or even a dress code in school. I thought it was awesome. It let us be who we wanted and how we wanted to show ourselves to the world. Short skirt? Sure, why not? It's up to parents to decide what is appropriate for their daughters to wear. But not be too strict and letting their daughters explore their style. I live in Florida, everyone is in bathing suits and board shorts at my school
It isn't Arizona. Living in Massachusetts (where it's only hot for about four weeks a year), I've seen how ridiculous things have gotten. I may notice them because my own daughter is just recently grown up and/or because I came of age at the height of the Women's Movement. I'm really proud of the way she dresses, because I started when she about four years old, trying to teach her good taste. She's tiny and has a perfect, slim, build (so everything looks good on her). She always dresses really fashionably but never at all trashy. I always told her, "Half the population has female body parts. Anyone can get people to look at them showing them off. The real measure of how attractive you are is whether people look when you're not revealing body parts."
I always told my daughter that showing "body parts" is what women do when they don't have a pretty face, pretty hair, pretty legs, or anything else going for them.
The other thing, though, is I think people need to know where to wear what. If you're playing tennis it's one kind of clothes. If you're going out to a club it's another. If you're working at the office - yet another. School - another. When you have cleavage showing up at the supermarket and WalMart and court and Burger King it just looks kind of ridiculous. For the most part, I think most of us don't notice most of the inappropriately dressed people any more because they're so common. We notice the people who are dressed nicely and attractively.- Leta Sposted 15 years ago0
It doesn't bother me so much. If they feel comfortable enough to go out in public, more power to 'em. They may not have money to buy new clothes when they change sizes. Or they never learned what fits their body type the best. Or they don't have someone to call them out on it.
As far as younger girls wearing less clothes...When prostitots are at the movies my boyfriend just says "My daughter will never be able to leave the house like that". I understand. My sister will go to leave the house and my dad will go "where's the rest of the outfit?" It's funny as hell.Well...you know I don't CARE, Cole. Let them wear whatever they want. But it does affect the way I view them. Which is, I guess, I mostly don't notice them at all...or I guess if I was in a position where I had to evaluate, it would be in a somewhat negative light.
I think lots of girls go through that thing when they're yanking up the skirts, rolling up the shorts, and tying up the shirts...at about 14 or so. Then they figure out the sex stuff and their own positive identity a bit more and get over it. I remember my trip to Florida at 14,
- Leta Sposted 15 years ago0
Well, we are talking a few years ago when I was 14,
. And yep, we used to roll those shorts up to our butt. (My one sister still does! Which is funny.) The thing was--parents would let you go out dressed one way--then you had to roll or tie things to make it revealing. And maybe it was a Midwestern thing, too...it is probably a little more moderate there all the way around (not a bad thing).
Here in Sedona of course, we have wealthy older ladies who like to show off their 'acquired' assets at events--I mean really show them off. OMG. I'm sorry...but it always makes for good people watching (and talking--and yep, event staff does comment).
You can, of course, wear almost anything if you have good taste and know how to work it well. I've always been a size 2-4, but I still tend to be a bit more modest (if a little 'sexy' in presentation, not actual show) than some--that's just how I feel comfortable.
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