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Should girls in secondary/high school wear really short skirts?

  1. Miss M profile image61
    Miss Mposted 8 years ago

    Should girls really be wearing extremely short skirts? Or should they opt for trousers? Are girls being too gilry to the limit?

    1. soni2006 profile image46
      soni2006posted 8 years ago in reply to this

      No that's not a problem at all. As in India, it is mostly summer and hot for around 8 months and wearing trousers would be very uncomfortable for them. Why do you think that girls are being too girly if they are wearing short skirts. I think everyone should wear anything in which he/she feels comfortable. For school girls, the more comfort of wearing can also mean good marks in the classes.

    2. Miss M profile image61
      Miss Mposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I was saying about hihg schools in the west! sorry, but thanks for commenting!

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        aquaseaCreativeposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Why would that make a difference?

        Schoolgirls in Australia wear often their skirts half way up their backsides.. there's a trick of rolling from the waist once you get far enough out of view

        1. earnestshub profile image89
          earnestshubposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          My granddaughters wear short skirts in Australia and they both look terrific in them. I think for some girls short skirts are not always attractive, but the truth is at this age they are trying to learn about their sexuality, so no big deal, they soon learn.

    3. Lady_E profile image83
      Lady_Eposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      They shouldn't have to opt for trousers, however the skirts should be a reasonable short length. No micro-mini skirts.

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        PurePakistaniposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Yes good woman. No show skin.

        1. Lady_E profile image83
          Lady_Eposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          Lol.  Welcome to Hubpages, Purepakistani  smile

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            PurePakistaniposted 8 years ago in reply to this

            Thank you lady. lol

            1. earnestshub profile image89
              earnestshubposted 8 years ago in reply to this

              The women in most countries show their skin, so you are saying all these women are bad?

              1. profile image53
                PurePakistaniposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                Read Qur'an. Follow rule.

                1. earnestshub profile image89
                  earnestshubposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                  I have read the Quoran as I said it is a load of rubbish. Most of the world do not follow the dress code you suppose on everyone, not even others who read the Quoran and believe it.So you know more than everyone else, you are right, the rest of the world is wrong... where have I heard this before?

                2. Shil1978 profile image87
                  Shil1978posted 8 years ago in reply to this

                  Sounds dictatorial to me!!! What are the consequences of not following the "rule?"

                3. BristolBoy profile image78
                  BristolBoyposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                  I should read a book and follow it based on some robot who can't even string together a proper sentence?

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                    PurePakistaniposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                    You learn Urdu Arabic?

                  2. Misha profile image74
                    Mishaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                    Can you "string together" a proper sentence in Urdu? Poor argument smile

                4. LondonGirl profile image90
                  LondonGirlposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                  The Koran says nothing about burkhas or hijabs. Nothing.

    4. Jewels profile image80
      Jewelsposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Really it's a mating ritual.

    5. brohhma profile image47
      brohhmaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Yes......only short skirts.

    6. Davinagirl3 profile image61
      Davinagirl3posted 8 years ago in reply to this

      If a girl is underage, you should not be able to see her butt.  Mini shirts are okay, to a degree.  I have seen "skirts" that are just jeans with the legs cut off.  Underage girls need a reality check, sometimes.

      1. Misha profile image74
        Mishaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        I see a butt of my 3 year old daughter quite often. In fact a butt of my 5 year old son, too. Is it THAT bad? yikes

        1. Davinagirl3 profile image61
          Davinagirl3posted 8 years ago in reply to this

          I have an eight month old daughter, and I see her butt way too often.  I would like to see it less... and more tidy.  When she is 15, I better not see it peeking out from under her skirt, or she'll be wearing a "Snuggie" to school.

          1. SweetiePie profile image84
            SweetiePieposted 8 years ago in reply to this

            I hope by the time your daughter is fifteen you will give her more freedom about the way she dresses, or else you will have some big battles on your hands.

            1. Davinagirl3 profile image61
              Davinagirl3posted 8 years ago in reply to this

              I am ready for the battles.  She can wear what she wants... within reason.

              1. Misha profile image74
                Mishaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                Do you realize that battles alienate your kids and lead to them not sharing their life events with parents and seeking other people to be their advisers? And with their relatively limited life experience they often pick the kind of people you would rather don't see around them?

            2. Misha profile image74
              Mishaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

              One of the rare cases when I agree absolutely smile

              1. SweetiePie profile image84
                SweetiePieposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                Teen girls will just hide the clothes their mothers do not want them to wear in a locker anyway, or they did that when I was in high school.

                1. Misha profile image74
                  Mishaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                  I bet they are still doing it smile

              2. Davinagirl3 profile image61
                Davinagirl3posted 8 years ago in reply to this

                I guess mothers are a lot less reasonable than fathers.  I agree with you, but I know I am going to be a strict mom.  I hope that with time, I will relax.  But I am looking at my first child... a little baby.  I can't imagine her being an unreasonable teenager dealing with an unreasonable mom.

          2. viryabo profile image87
            viryaboposted 8 years ago in reply to this

            LOOOOLLLLL!!!

    7. Inspirepub profile image81
      Inspirepubposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Er, shouldn't the question be more like "is there any way that judgemental adults can impose their wills on the clothing choices that girls make?"

      In which case the answer is obvious.

      Whether they "should" or not, if it is the fashion, they will.

      Jenny

      1. Davinagirl3 profile image61
        Davinagirl3posted 8 years ago in reply to this

        It is the "fashion" that I am worried about.  I hope that my daughter will not adopt the "fashion" of someone who is exploiting themselves, or being exploited.  I know I will not like what she's wearing, regardless.  My mom freaked when I got a brow piercing and dyed my hair purple.  I was over eighteen, though, and living on my own.

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      Geoff Hewittposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I see your point; the answer is simple: get the boys into short skirts and the girls in slacks - problems solved!

  2. Uninvited Writer profile image81
    Uninvited Writerposted 8 years ago

    Yes, I used to work across the alley from a Catholic girls school and you'd see them in the alley rolling up their skirts.

  3. Misha profile image74
    Mishaposted 8 years ago

    Sure they should! This is soooooo sexy smile

    1. fierycj profile image80
      fierycjposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      So, you into little girls or what?

      1. Misha profile image74
        Mishaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Yeah, I am thinking of moving to Saudi, you know. According to Paraglider their legal age is 10, and then you can have as many of them as you can support wink

  4. LondonGirl profile image90
    LondonGirlposted 8 years ago

    Pretty much all schools in the UK have school uniform, and rules about it include skirts not being too short (-:

    1. apeksha profile image62
      apekshaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      agreed , cause now a days boys always looks  girls with bad views and short gals wearing micro mini skirts will affect bad impression on others.

  5. cindyvine profile image87
    cindyvineposted 8 years ago

    Well, when I was teaching in New Zealand, the problem wasn't so much the short skirts of the girls, but the boys' trousers being halfway down their bum when their boxers and bum crack out for all to see.

  6. viryabo profile image87
    viryaboposted 8 years ago

    If its really really short. A capital NO!
    too young to start experimenting on their sexuallity. It will be an 'ill wind that blows no good'. IMO

    1. earnestshub profile image89
      earnestshubposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I did not think they were learning too fast, kids are very smart these days.

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    PurePakistaniposted 8 years ago

    Woman full dress cover. No invite rape.

    1. viryabo profile image87
      viryaboposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Now thats a bit too drastic! A man can rape any girl, even if clad in a jump suit. As long as he is a rapist.

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        PurePakistaniposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        See skin desire grow.

        1. viryabo profile image87
          viryaboposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          See a rolling bottom and a mound of boobs in a jumpsuit, and desire may grow.

        2. earnestshub profile image89
          earnestshubposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          So you think the best way to deal with sexual urges is to deny them? Sex is sex, natural and good for everyone. Rapists are rapists, you can't dress to protect from rapists. You do not make the kids pay for some deviants.

          1. viryabo profile image87
            viryaboposted 8 years ago in reply to this

            You're right about that.

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              PurePakistaniposted 8 years ago in reply to this

              Sex good after marriage. Women skin desire grow men no control.

              1. earnestshub profile image89
                earnestshubposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                Rubbish, men have plenty of control, I don't like the idea of restrictions based on what someone who is mentally sick might do.

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                  PurePakistaniposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                  Hijab Burqa good. Woman safe.

                  1. Shil1978 profile image87
                    Shil1978posted 8 years ago in reply to this

                    Hijab/Burqa = suffocating/restrictive - why should I get into one? Why don't men wear Hijab/Burqa. Very clever to have only women wear it - but not the men!! Muslim men should wear the Hijab too!!!

                  2. viryabo profile image87
                    viryaboposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                    NONSENSE!!!

              2. Shil1978 profile image87
                Shil1978posted 8 years ago in reply to this

                Lol - what? Lol!!!

              3. viryabo profile image87
                viryaboposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                OMG yikes

    2. LondonGirl profile image90
      LondonGirlposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Given Pakistan's high rape rate, how do you figure that one out?

      1. Shil1978 profile image87
        Shil1978posted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Good question, but I doubt you'd get a reply. We seem to have a robot amongst us. Obviously, been brainwashed in some madrassa somewhere!!! Just mouthing off absurdities!!!

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          PurePakistaniposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          Madrassa learn Islam. Islam mean peace.

          1. earnestshub profile image89
            earnestshubposted 8 years ago in reply to this

            We have another extremist

        2. viryabo profile image87
          viryaboposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          Yeah. So whats new? Never knew there was a high rate of rape in Pakistan. Wierd!! and always covered up their women. What do i call that? HYPOCRITS

          1. profile image53
            PurePakistaniposted 8 years ago in reply to this

            America news wrong. Show Islam bad. 911 start by Bush attack Islam country. America kill Islam brothers. America want oil.

            1. viryabo profile image87
              viryaboposted 8 years ago in reply to this

              Please, identify yourself by writing some hubs. Or i'll throw up in your face, hijab or no hijab.

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                PurePakistaniposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                I learn English. Will write. lol

                1. Shil1978 profile image87
                  Shil1978posted 8 years ago in reply to this

                  Yes - please do learn and come back. You can utilize your energies better that way!!

      2. profile image53
        PurePakistaniposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        America news wrong. Show Islam bad. Start attack Islam country for money. 911 start by Bush to attack Islam. Now youtube proof.

  8. BristolBoy profile image78
    BristolBoyposted 8 years ago

    If you think wearing less clothes leads to loads of rapes you obviously have never been to the UK where many women wear not very much  (especially when drunk) and yet very rarely get raped!

  9. BristolBoy profile image78
    BristolBoyposted 8 years ago

    So does that mean Urdu Arabic is some sort of hybrid language?

    1. Shil1978 profile image87
      Shil1978posted 8 years ago in reply to this

      They are separate languages!!

  10. Uninvited Writer profile image81
    Uninvited Writerposted 8 years ago

    How did this turn into a discussion of Urdu? smile

    1. earnestshub profile image89
      earnestshubposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      PurePakistani wanted to vent his hate in his own language.

      1. viryabo profile image87
        viryaboposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        OMG i thought PP was a she!!
        Now i can really bare my fangs. I was being so 'polite cos i thought IT was a she.

  11. BristolBoy profile image78
    BristolBoyposted 8 years ago

    I thought that was the case until I was told I should learn Urdu Arabic!

  12. Sufidreamer profile image79
    Sufidreamerposted 8 years ago

    Looks like somebody trying too hard to appear ESL - broken English yet no spelling mistakes. Looks like yet another alter-ego - a native English speaker trying to convince us that they are not. neutral

    You are trying too hard, PurePakistani wink

    1. earnestshub profile image89
      earnestshubposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I noticed the stilt as well sufi, if he or she is putting on the narrow minded religionist cape, it fits like a glove, err coat.smile

      1. viryabo profile image87
        viryaboposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Err Hijab.....

        1. earnestshub profile image89
          earnestshubposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          Err... exactly!

    2. Uninvited Writer profile image81
      Uninvited Writerposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Spot on Sufi smile

    3. Misha profile image74
      Mishaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Ummm, interesting point Sufi. K, will watch smile

    4. Aya Katz profile image87
      Aya Katzposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Sufidreamer, this may be totally off topic, but my experience with ESL is that they spell better than native speakers, if they learned it as a written rather than a foreign language. Why? Because they memorize spelling without relation to phonetics. Meanwhile, native speakers of English with a poor education struggle with spelling.

      That's not to say this one isn't a fake, but I would look to the grammar and not the spelling for clues.

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        Leta Sposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Aya's right.  But often grammar and sense of these things is so internalized in a native English writer (and one who is verbally quite strong) that they have an innate sense of expression.

        My G-d.  What is the definition of an issues troll?  OK, maybe issues slut(?)  lol

  13. Shil1978 profile image87
    Shil1978posted 8 years ago

    Anyone think PP is in fact usmanali? Don't see usmanali around!

    1. Sufidreamer profile image79
      Sufidreamerposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Maybe, although there a couple of other folks who like to try the mind games in the forums. Could be any one of a few suspects wink

      1. Shil1978 profile image87
        Shil1978posted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Yeah, perhaps. Although, I did notice that usmanali stopped posting at or around the time this guy showed up. Well - perhaps just a coincidence!!

        1. earnestshub profile image89
          earnestshubposted 8 years ago in reply to this

          usmanali may have had to catch his chickens and paint then a different color to appease his god!

          1. Shil1978 profile image87
            Shil1978posted 8 years ago in reply to this

            Or maybe he's undertaken an expedition to find Freemasons and Zionists and of course monkeys!!

            1. earnestshub profile image89
              earnestshubposted 8 years ago in reply to this

              ...and paint them to appease his god? smile smile

    2. viryabo profile image87
      viryaboposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      You know something? You may be Dead-on-RIGHT. Got so much bashing here on forums, he decided to change his identity.

      1. Shil1978 profile image87
        Shil1978posted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Do they ban folks here at HubPages? Well, coz if they did ban Mr. Usman, that can explain the appearance of this PP guy smile

  14. Beth100 profile image84
    Beth100posted 8 years ago

    Wow, we've deviated from the short shirt topic!  lol tongue

    Freedom of choice, but each person should understand that a message is being sent out based on attire.

    1. viryabo profile image87
      viryaboposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      Okay then. i guess you're right. So folks, back to the topic. Well that is if PP lets it rest. If not, im back again at him/her!

    2. Misha profile image74
      Mishaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

      That I can agree to smile

  15. Misha profile image74
    Mishaposted 8 years ago

    LOL I still don't see how this is materially different from what our Pakistani friend is suggesting. smile

    1. Davinagirl3 profile image61
      Davinagirl3posted 8 years ago in reply to this

      I don't think my daughter should be covered from head to toe because I believe she'll be raped.  Evil men rape because they want to.  I want my daughter to respect her age.  When she is 18, she can walk the streets in a bikini.  An adult body is a dangerous thing for a young girl to have.  I remember being young and having a well developed body.  I am glad I had a good mother, or I might have gotten myself into situations I couldn't handle because of it.

      1. Misha profile image74
        Mishaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        You are missing the point. Our Pakistani friend believes most of the women body should be covered. Does not really matter what reasons he has, those reasons are relative to his local morals. You believe certain parts of the body should be covered, less then he believes, but still this is only quantitative difference not qualitative. And your reasons also are relative to your local morals.

        Does it give you an idea on how really relative and not absolute both believes are? smile

    2. SweetiePie profile image84
      SweetiePieposted 8 years ago

      To answer Miss M's question:

      Some of us are going to be girly girls to the hilt.  If that means you getting upset about people wearing skirts, then you really need to just look elsewhere.  I wore short skirts a few times in high school, but most of the time I wore slightly longer ones.

      1. Lisa HW profile image82
        Lisa HWposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Being "girly" and wearing a micro-mini skirt aren't necessarily the same thing.  A lot of teens today equate being feminine with being "slutty looking" (or if not "slutty looking", then at least revealing lots of skin).  There are lots of girly outfits that are feminine or cute or pretty but not trashy.  I'd like to see today's teens learn the difference.

        I don't think it kills any students to learn that there are some clothes for places like school or work and other clothes for parties or clubs.  Last February I went for coffee at Burger King, and in came a chunky teen girl with no coat, spaghetti straps, and the worst case of cleavage I've seen in Massachusetts Februaries.  smile  She just looked like an idiot who didn't know how to dress appropriately or else someone for whom showing the cleavage was so important she'd ignore the Winter temperatures (and the fact that it was Burger King on a Sunday afternoon).   smile  She would have looked a lot girlier in a pretty, feminine, sweater and maybe pretty scarf and hat.

    3. Misha profile image74
      Mishaposted 8 years ago

      LOL They grow sooooooooooooo fast. sad Enjoy it while it lasts, forget about battles smile

    4. Misha profile image74
      Mishaposted 8 years ago

      LOL My Goddess, always the voice of reason smile

    5. Inspirepub profile image81
      Inspirepubposted 8 years ago

      Why thank you, Mishenka ... smile

      Takes one to know one wink

      Jenny

    6. onthewriteside profile image60
      onthewritesideposted 8 years ago

      Here's an excerpt from my novel:

      Akmed al’Nassiri had donned a pair of faded blue jeans, black tennis shoes, and a gray gangsta’ style hoodie in an attempt to blend in to the crowd.  A pair of dark sunglasses rounded out his ensemble.  He hated this look.  He saw it every day on campus, and could never understand why anyone would want to present himself in such a fashion.  But America’s “young and dumb” gravitated toward the “plumber’s crack” look, or the blatant exposure of four or five inches of their $65 Zummerli boxer shorts beneath their sagging pants.  The look usually included a baseball cap worn sideways, atop their metal-pierced faces and tattooed necks.  When he saw people dressed liked this, he often expected to see their eyes crossed, tongues hanging out of their mouths, and their arms flailing about as they ran down the sidewalk babbling nonsense.  That would have made some sense to him.  Nothing says “I’m an idiot” louder or clearer, he thought.

      It's just what kids today are doing.  Apparently looking slutty, or looking like an idiot is very fashionable nowadays!  I'm more concerned about the more permanent fashion statements...the kinds you can't change out of or wash off.  What happens when they can't find a job because when they were 17, they thought it was cool to be a neo-Nazi and tattoo a swastika on their forehead?

    7. Davinagirl3 profile image61
      Davinagirl3posted 8 years ago

      I LOVE THIS.  I am usually the rational one.  I get to be the NUT in this thread.

      1. Misha profile image74
        Mishaposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        How bout a reasonable nut? big_smile

        1. Davinagirl3 profile image61
          Davinagirl3posted 8 years ago in reply to this

          Thank you for helping work through this.  You guys may be saving my daughter from a lot of grief.  I am hearing you all and taking it in.  Thank you for being rational and helping battle my FEAR.  Fear is all it is.

          1. ledefensetech profile image70
            ledefensetechposted 8 years ago in reply to this

            You might be worrying about the wrong thing.  If you can keep your kid talking to you while they're a teen, you've won half the battle.  It's hard because you know more of the answers than they do and you want them to succeed so badly, but if you force them to abide by your rules, you lose influence with them.  That's why you should only try to force rules on the important things, go to school, don't stay out past a certain time, etc.  Clothes is way down on the list.  She'll make stupid mistakes, just like you did.  Take pictures, they'll come in handy in the future. smile 

            The more you let them go their own way and advise them, the more trust you will build with them.  Let's face it teens and adults don't have much trust towards one another.  Parents want to give their kids the best chance possible with the fewest mistakes and teens are confused and trying to find themselves.  You won't do yourself or your teen any good by getting into fights with things she can circumvent.  Let her win a few of the not so important things and you'll find that when you're proven right, she'll be more apt to listen to you.

            I saw far too many parents at the facility I used to work at try to force kids to do stuff.  You can force, but it's pretty ineffective, you have to influence.  That's a whole different ball game.

            1. Davinagirl3 profile image61
              Davinagirl3posted 8 years ago in reply to this

              This is a very true statement.  It is so hard to try to prepare for, also.  I will have to work it out as I go along.  Communication is key, as in any relationship.  I am sure all will work out fine.  I will be here for her... when she needs me, and when she doesn't.

              1. ledefensetech profile image70
                ledefensetechposted 8 years ago in reply to this

                It's hard even working with the kids I worked with.  You get close to them, share their victories and defeats.  But you always have to be the adult and sometimes that means stepping aside and letting them get a taste of what it really is like out there and being there for them when they come back looking for answers. 

                Keep your kid talking to you and you'll head off most of their problems, no matter what they wear.  smile  Plus you'll get plenty of awesome pictures to show her prospective husbands when she brings them home to meet you.  Good times.  big_smile

    8. Misha profile image74
      Mishaposted 8 years ago

      Hey, you are always welcome. smile You are a fan to converse with, even when we disagree smile

      And yes, the more i live the more I see that most if not all cases of us shooting ourselves in the foot are caused by fear...

    9. lain profile image59
      lainposted 8 years ago

      > Should girls really be wearing extremely short skirts? Or should they opt for trousers?

      "No" to both smile There is nothing that they (or anyone else) *should* wear, there are only things they want to wear, and hopefully no one is keeping them from doing so.

    10. kmackey32 profile image79
      kmackey32posted 8 years ago

      No. I have a daughter in high school and I do not let her were revealing cloths. Kids are in school to learn.

    11. Misha profile image74
      Mishaposted 8 years ago

      May be reading the thread in its entirety will help you to re-assess your approach Kristie smile

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      Leta Sposted 8 years ago

      OK...my actual opinion on this is that scantily and 'tartily' dressed teenagers are so common that they are like part of the wall paper. They are everywhere...in line at the grocery store, freezing in the frozen food aisle, etc., etc.

      I also notice a significant number of them are overweight, and really think nothing of letting rolls hang out at the midriff, or excessive cleavage, or wearing very short shorts or minis. Maybe its just prevalent in AZ because of the climate. ?

      But I guess the effect it has on me is I don't even notice them, because they don't know how to dress.  I love clothes, and I always appreciate anybody with a unique style or someone who knows how to dress to enhance their attractiveness.  ...that common slutty thing just doesn't usually work that well, IMHO.

    13. Colebabie profile image59
      Colebabieposted 8 years ago

      I never had a uniform or even a dress code in school. I thought it was awesome. It let us be who we wanted and how we wanted to show ourselves to the world. Short skirt? Sure, why not? It's up to parents to decide what is appropriate for their daughters to wear. But not be too strict and letting their daughters explore their style. I live in Florida, everyone is in bathing suits and board shorts at my school smile

    14. Lisa HW profile image82
      Lisa HWposted 8 years ago

      It isn't Arizona.  Living in Massachusetts (where it's only hot for about four weeks a year), I've seen how ridiculous things have gotten. I may notice them because my own daughter is just recently grown up and/or because I came of age at the height of the Women's Movement.    I'm really proud of the way she dresses, because I started when she about four years old, trying to teach her good taste.  She's tiny and has a perfect, slim, build (so everything looks good on her).  She always dresses really fashionably but never at all trashy.  I always told her, "Half the population has female body parts.  Anyone can get people to look at them showing them off.  The real measure of how attractive you are is whether people look when you're not revealing body parts."   smile

      I always told my daughter that showing "body parts" is what women do when they don't have a pretty face, pretty hair, pretty legs, or anything else going for them.

      The other thing, though, is I think people need to know where to wear what.  If you're playing tennis it's one kind of clothes.  If you're going out to a club it's another.  If you're working at the office - yet another.  School - another.  When you have cleavage showing up at the supermarket and WalMart and court and Burger King it just looks kind of ridiculous.  For the most part, I think most of us don't notice most of the inappropriately dressed people any more because they're so common.  We notice the people who are dressed nicely and attractively.  smile

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      Leta Sposted 8 years ago

      Agreed, Lisa.  And I have never thought of myself as a prude at all, either...its simply a matter of good taste.  I mean, I believe we have all seen what we are talking about here and it truly is over the top.  They should all be invited to talk to Stacey & Clinton on What Not to Wear!

    16. Colebabie profile image59
      Colebabieposted 8 years ago

      It doesn't bother me so much. If they feel comfortable enough to go out in public, more power to 'em. They may not have money to buy new clothes when they change sizes. Or they never learned what fits their body type the best. Or they don't have someone to call them out on it. smile

      As far as younger girls wearing less clothes...When prostitots are at the movies my boyfriend just says "My daughter will never be able to leave the house like that". I understand. My sister will go to leave the house and my dad will go "where's the rest of the outfit?" It's funny as hell.

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        Leta Sposted 8 years ago in reply to this

        Well...you know I don't CARE, Cole.  Let them wear whatever they want.  But it does affect the way I view them.  Which is, I guess, I mostly don't notice them at all...or I guess if I was in a position where I had to evaluate, it would be in a somewhat negative light.

        I think lots of girls go through that thing when they're yanking up the skirts, rolling up the shorts, and tying up the shirts...at about 14 or so.  Then they figure out the sex stuff and their own positive identity a bit more and get over it.  I remember my trip to Florida at 14, wink

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      Colebabieposted 8 years ago

      I don't know any girls that tie up or roll up. It is just the actual clothes they buy. No modifying needed. As far as sex, most know about it well before 14. It is in an effort to fit in and look older that the amount of covering is lessened. Usually it is the shorter shirts or shorts, or middle area, cuz there isn't anything up top yet!

      I wear low cut tops, I like my boobs, and I feel comfortable. I don't wear short dresses or skirts because my thighs aren't my favorite body part.

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      Leta Sposted 8 years ago

      Well, we are talking a few years ago when I was 14, wink.  And yep, we used to roll those shorts up to our butt.  (My one sister still does! Which is funny.)  The thing was--parents would let you go out dressed one way--then you had to roll or tie things to make it revealing.  And maybe it was a Midwestern thing, too...it is probably a little more moderate there all the way around (not a bad thing).

      Here in Sedona of course, we have wealthy older ladies who like to show off their 'acquired' assets at events--I mean really show them off.  OMG.  I'm sorry...but it always makes for good people watching (and talking--and yep, event staff does comment).

      You can, of course, wear almost anything if you have good taste and know how to work it well.  I've always been a size 2-4, but I still tend to be a bit more modest (if a little 'sexy' in presentation, not actual show) than some--that's just how I feel comfortable.

     
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