What are the psychological characteristics that make a person a pessimist, hater, soul destroyer,
naysayer, or otherwise negative? There are people who proverbially rain on everyone's parade. If a person believes h/she can do something & be successful at it, these people will tell them that they can't or that their dreams are too fantastical, even unrealistic. They are more fond of stating the chances of failure whether than success. One can say that such people are highly toxic.
Generally, negative people are just that; they see themselves in a negative light. Occurring at different levels, negativity can range from disappointment in one's self to self-loathing.
These feelings are then projected outward onto others.
These negative people suffer from the "Gloomy Gus" syndrome. They seem afraid to smile for fear their faces will crack and fall off. These are the same folks that walk around with a "turtle mouth" expression. I avoid them like the plague. I actually had a woman tell me once that I thought everything was a joke because I laughed and smiled all the time. My quick retort was that I would rather laugh than cry. Needless to say, this woman is still miserable, on her second marriage and we have never spoken again. She was the ultimate, "Debbie Downer" and apparently still is.
I think most people are inherently lazy and being negative is a lot easier than being positive. Negative habits are easier and this habit transfers into other aspects of life, mainly being projected onto others because misery loves company. Why work hard to improve yourself when you can just bring people down to your level? Have you noticed that negative news is more popular than positive news? Why do you think that is?
Positive attitude means positive habits, which means working harder to make yourself a better person; being the best you that you can be. I recently asked that question if you would like to see it.
See Bill Murray's take on it: https://soundcloud.com/vulturedotcom/bi … ill-murray
Bitterness towards society because they feel excluded from all the good things life has offered others. Most likely had a horrible childhood with unsupportive parents, wasn't accepted by kids in school, can't recall ever winning anything and only keeps track of all their failures and disappointments. Being unable to forgive keeps them from moving on. They insist upon remembering to avoid hope.
They remember perceived hurtful words by others who can't recall any of it. You'd have to show them photos to prove they ever smiled.
However the #1 trait negative people have is FEAR.
They're afraid to get their hopes up. They can't believe anything good is lasting so they're always waiting for "the other shoe to drop".
They believe "Expectations Lead To Disappointment ". If they don't (expect) good things then they'll never be disappointed again.
"All men are no good", "All women are gold diggers", "Once a cheater always a cheater", "No good deed goes unpunished"....etc These are all statements one uses to keep them from getting their hopes up. They want to avoid all pain.
Being negative/cynical is a form of "self defense" for them from whatever life offers up. Hope and positive expectations are scary.
Exactly. I also would like to add the following: low self-esteem and that word envy. They have a fear of those who they feel will outsucceed them so they mentally sabotage the former by prognosticating how they won't succeed in their endeavors.
Yes they are envious "dream killers" who quench their thirst with Haterade.
They always have to be the one with a negative comment about anyone is who is riding high at the time. They believe their role in life is to pull everyone down a peg.
Exactly, they are really kill joys. If a person has an idea, they will tell him/her that the idea won't come to fruition. These people exist in a proverbial gray world between lower purgatory and hell.
Negative people are toxic, not only to others but to themselves. There many reasons why some people are negative. They include having a fearful mindset, being envious, feeling hopeless & low self-esteem. read more
The psychological characteristics that would cause someone to become a Pessimist are most likely quite different for say.. "Soul Destroyer"?
by David Stillwell 6 years ago
Inspired by the question is your glass half empty or half full and irked by many attitudes in general, the question or whether or not negative people (people who see the worst or can not promote anything nice to say) attract negative attention?
by Victoria Lynn 5 years ago
What is the best way to deal with constant negativity?Whether at home, in relationships, at work?
by alexandriaruthk 5 years ago
How do you deal with people who are very negative?Do you try to just ignore them or weave them into your smiling world?
by Grace Marguerite Williams 11 months ago
Were your parents positive or negative people? Were they encouraging/nurturing or were they critical/soul devouring?
by fosginger 6 years ago
Why is it when you are striving to be a better person.....There is always that one person, that one evil gnome that isn't quite after your favorite hi-cuts but after your soul. To ban this normal looking yet disgusting creature away, suggestions?
by Cleanclover 20 months ago
How can one stay positive and happy around negative people?All tips, suggestions and advice are welcome. Thank you.
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