Do you think stay at home moms are "lazy"?

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   brieliseposted 12 years ago

   Do you think stay at home moms are "lazy"?
   
   Watching Anderson right now, this is apparently a huge debate. If I have the financial means, I want to be home with the baby, and my boyfriend supports this decision. It's not because I don't want to work or think I shouldn't, I just want the opportunity to watch my child grow and be the person who teaches those early milestones.

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   travelgurrlposted 12 years ago

   Absolutely not, looking after your kids at home rather than some day care center doing it can have huge benefits. I wouldn't feel ashamed or lazy in the least.

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   gjfalconeposted 12 years ago

   The best investment you will ever make is your childrens upbringing and subsequent future, bar none. It lasts a lifetime. Two lifetimes actually, yours and theirs.

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   Madeposted 12 years ago

   It's a hard job to stay at home with kids. I have been there. Now I'm both working and studying. Sometimes I feel I miss out on my children's life. I would prefer to work about half time and spend the rest of the time with my kids.

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   journalofnurulposted 12 years ago

   no i think..thats i big job, when we have a son or daughter thats moment when we rturn, like or soul facing the exam, we have extra patience....we have to arrange the time...family, raising the chldreen, cook for our family...i say its not easy ...and it was not simple as we look:)

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   Author Karin K.Hposted 12 years ago

   WHAT??? are you crazy. I have no children BUT I watched my mother clean, cook, wahs clothes, homework, bathtime while my dad worked with 5 of us.. Not to say my dad didnt do his fair share because he did. If I even considered saying that she was lazy because she was a stay at home mammy I would think I was betraying her... I watch my sister do it with 4, and she is a brilliant mother and works more hours than doing a 9-5 job.. I say hats of to stay at home mammys

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   lburmasterposted 12 years ago

   No. They just forget how to be organized at all times typically. Their main goals as moms change. I think they forget the path they first attempted for and meant to be as a mother.
   For example, my mother realizes she should have worked from home, but she didn't. She keeps saying she should work from home, but she doesn't. Not lazy, just confused, lack of goals, and loss of organization.

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   xethonxqposted 12 years ago

   Absolutely not. I think that most stay at home moms are under-appreciated and hard working. They are the organizer, the planner, the doctor, the teacher, the domestic goddess, the coach, the chauffeur, the master chef, and the be all, end all of a family.
   
   I know I could never be a stay at home mom, but I'll tell you what...the women that can are amazing.

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   raquelpierposted 12 years ago

   I wrote a hub about this topic that might be of interest to you on this topic: Stay-at-home parents. Hope it helps!

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    duffsmomposted 12 years ago

    No, absolutely not.  Staying at home is so much more than staying at home.  Any person can do any job in a lazy fashion...but staying home with children, making them a loving and secure home is hard work and I would never see that as lazy.

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    Lady_Eposted 12 years ago

    No... I actually think they do more than people who go to work. Follow your heart and do what's best for your little Angel.

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    mikeq107posted 12 years ago

    Heck no!
    Its Harder to stay at home and raise Children, clean the house, cook meals, solve playroom disputes, quite frankly you are a Hotel manager 24/7 . Going to work is much easier,its just 9 to 5 and you get paid with benifits and vacation time and after 30 years you get a bloody clock some money a handshake and your kids are raised by a stranger and visiting hours are between 6 to 8 bed time..which is really no time and please dont give me that quality time argument...For a kid just knowing your around gives them amazing peace...No kid ever was heard to say I had a great quality time last night with my Mom....
    Not against working Moms in todays economy its getting harder to stay at home...but those that can should !!!!!
    
    great question!!!!!
    Mike :0)

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       scorpio1919posted 10 years agoin reply to this

       yes. i'm a mom, i work part time on wednesday and the rest of the days i work till 4 when my small children are out of school. i am a psychologist and i value my job very higly, not because of the carreer of the money, i don't make that much money, b

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    onegoodwomanposted 12 years ago

    No...........not because they are SAHM's.................
    
    let's face it, some people ARE lazy........
    
    but you can not be both lazy and effective!
    
    Parking your child in front of the TV or GameBoy, while you offer nothing, is quite frankly, lazy.
    
    Teaching and training your child, enjoying your child, measuring their growth, building their confidence...............no, not lazy.......these things are viable and valuable.
    
    
    
    If, I could turn back time, I would most certainly have spent more time at  home
    with my youngesters................
    
    Otherwise, we are " working" just to pay someone else to rear up our young.   We are selling our influence.   This is not a good thing.

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    Jackie Lynnleyposted 12 years ago

    Of course they aren't lazy just because they are a stay at home mom. Children should be so lucky to have mothers who put them first since they gave them birth and owe them something besides a few hours now and then. These mothers (with maybe a few exceptions) give their children a real family oriented childhood to remember, and they never have any doubt who their mother is.

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    Ian Dabasori Hetrposted 12 years ago

    No I dont think so. They are not just staying at home. They manage the household. Household management can be a labour intensive task if we aren't careful.

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    medicaljournalposted 12 years ago

    No -- My answer for this Question simply No!

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    THEHuG5posted 12 years ago

    Absolutely not. I've said this before taking care of children is no joke. It's just as much a job as going to the office every day. People need to give stay at home moms more respect for all that they do.

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    lorenmurciaposted 12 years ago

    Stay-at-home moms are definitely NOT lazy. In fact, they have one of the most tiring jobs in the world. Taking care of the children, the husband and the household chores requires more than 24 hours a day. But they certainly have the most fulfilling work because they can closely watch as their children grow. Not only that, they have more disciplined off-springs as evidenced by my students whose mothers stay at home.

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    cobrienposted 12 years ago

    More power to you! I am a big supporter of having a stay at home parent. Nobody can love and care for your children like you, except maybe Grandma.
      I am a stay at home Mom and I don't consider myself lazy. Because someone is in the house all day, there is more work, more dishes to do. The house and floors get messier more quickly. Baby has your attention,and devotion and that takes work. If you feel less productive than when you worked, sell Avon or write more hubs.
      Don't worry about what others think. You have made the best decision for yourself, your family, and your baby.

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    Ealairposted 12 years ago

    In my opinion stay at home moms are the best and most important teachers that the next generation can have.
    While you do need to make sure the litle one gets to have time with peers, stay at home moms know their chidlren better than any caretaker and while they may not have a degree in child psychology or elementary education, their kids can learn a lot of very important things from them.
    There is an age (that we all know well) where little ones imitate. This age sets the grounds for how they process situations. If mommy gets mad and yells, guess what the kid is going to do. If mommy lies and the child knows it, emulation will follow.
    They can imitate if they are at a caretakers house, but what i'm suggesting is it's more important for them to preserve the culture of their individual homes and grow and fit in there if mom and dad have the financial ability to have mom at home than to have them fit into the culture of a caretaker's home and then leave mom and dad baffled about why certain behaviors have begun to express themselves.
    I haven't even TOUCHED the amount of housework there is, I don't have to. Teaching your child by example, righting their wrongs and keeping them entertained is work enough to show a stay at home mom isn't lazy. If you'd like proof take a look at the cost of childcare, these workers stay in an environment and care for a child and the environment, they are paid stay at home moms. If it's not work, why do we pay them so much?

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    MartyCTposted 12 years ago

    definitely not, its a full time job, 24 hours, its hard work and I respect my mother SO much for what she has done for us as a house wife/mom.

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    Emily Sparksposted 12 years ago

    Of course not!  They are very busy cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, raising and teaching your kids, providing a home for their family, just to name a few.  Being a wife and a mother is the highest calling a lady can have.  It is God's will that women "be keepers at home" according to Titus 2:4-5.  Now I know sometimes it is absolutely necessary in some financial situations for the woman to help her husband out, but most women today choose to have a career over taking care of their family which they were created to do.  Women who go off and have career simply because theu want it, are in direct violation to God's Word.  The man was created to provide for his family while the women was to take care of her family by taking care of the home.  I think if you would ask most men, they would rather have a home cooked meal over something bought or boxed because their wife had no time to make anything after she got off work.  They would rather have a nice, well kept, clean home to come home to rather then a messy home because their wife was too tired after coming home from work to clean it.
    And what of your children?  Most women stick their children in day cares and public schools so they do not have the responsibilities to care for them through the day.  I think a child would rather have the love of their mother then the care of strangers.
    There is nothing else I want to be then a stay at home Mom.  This is what women were created to be, and I am more them willing to be what God wants me to be-a mother and a wife.

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    athena2011posted 12 years ago

    Funny to see this question as I watched that episode of Anderson last night ( I Tivo'd it) and got really offended that those ladies would use the word "lazy" in reference to stay at home moms. I definitely do not agree with that label at all.
    
    Some ladies have to have adult interaction to make them feel fulfilled, therefore prefer to work outside of the home. For others, sacrificing their career to be at home with their kids is enough fulfillment for them. They work their tails off as stay at home moms though, so lazy could never describe them in my eyes.

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    Jewelz1313posted 12 years ago

    I do not think stay at home moms are lazy. I think some people are lazy, but a mom has her hands full. When my kids were little I stayed at home some and sometimes I would work. If you have the choice, be with your kids when you can. I can tell you from experience how hard it is to work full time, keep house, take care of kids and still have a little time for yourself. I believe also that it depends on the type of mom you are too.
    If you are the type of mom who lets there kids run around unsupervised while you lay around watching TV or video games all day then "yes" you are lazy. But if you are engaged in rearing and educating your child then "No" you are not lazy.

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    jennjenn519posted 12 years ago

    Of course stay at home moms aren't lazy. Some people would debate we work harder than people who work outside the homes. We have a full time job of managing a household, and making sure everything from the kids to finances run smoothly.

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    EclecticFusionposted 12 years ago

    I was not blessed with children, and some days this really makes me sad, but I absolutely do not think stay at home moms are lazy. You and the child are both learning so much from each other, and the bonds that are being made are sure to be unbreakable. Even if someone says they think you are lazy, don't listen! You have an important job and that's loving that child with all your being! Good luck!

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    epateraposted 12 years ago

    I have been a stay at home mom/daycare provider for 11years.  Notice I put stay at home mom first - that is my first and most important role.  My job is to make sure our home runs smoothly so when my husband is home we can enjoy our family life.  It is one of the hardest, most frustrating jobs you can do - but one of the most rewarding.  I know I have raised kind, happy and healthy kids.  And my kids always know they have a safe place to land!

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    oldandwiseposted 12 years ago

    Absolutely not. A mom in a position to stay home with their children is a positive thing. No one would be better equipped to help with the early developement of a child then the stay at home mom.

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    teamelite21posted 12 years ago

    Absolutely not.  I mean, raising kids is not an easy job.  Taking care of them all day isn't either.  I would consider it a very hard job really.  Especially if you have several years in between the kids.  When me and my wife has kids I would prefer her to stay with them.  I think the kids really benefit from the attention and the one on one time when they need help.  For whatever reason.  Stay at home moms really have the best shot at molding their kids into respectful teens and adults.  If you can, I would def say do it.

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    ChaplinSpeaksposted 12 years ago

    Not sure that I even need to answer b/c you have a 100% "No" answer so far!  Wish I had seen Anderson.
    Don't go into this thinking you will be sitting home eating bon bons and watching soaps.  I worked full-time before kids and work much much harder as a sahm.  Babies don't sleep through the night, and neither will you for a while!  Those first three years are especially tough because the child relies on you for everything.  Even if you get an "easy" baby, you are always busy.  Make sure your partner knows what to expect as well.  My husband thought I would have plenty of time to keep the house sparkling and make gourmet meals.  That has never happened!  Being an at-home mom for your children and for yourself is the best experience in the world.

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    rlahaposted 12 years ago

    Stay at home moms- more power to you ladies! You have so much to do within the home and with your children that I think that is a JOB in itself! Lazy? NO WAY!
    
    My mom sacrificed her career to stay at home with me when I was little.  I really appreciate it now, as I understand how she struggled to stay home when all she wanted to do was go out there and practice medicine.  When I started going to school she started going back to work.  She is now at the age where she can retire if she wants to, but is still practicing part time.

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    Wayne K. WIlkinsposted 12 years ago

    I believe that these days, both partners should work. I know many moms that use their kids as an excuse to not get a job. They say the whole "I want to watch my child grow" story, and then, even when the kid goes to school, don't bother getting a job. My view is that it is out of laziness.
    
    Of course not everyone is the same. If circumstances allow it, by all means, don't work till your child is in school, and then only work inside of school hours.

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    Yaduvanshiposted 12 years ago

    Not at all they are doing a great service to humanity by taking care of the future generation to make them better humanbeings

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    susanm23bposted 12 years ago

    Before I became a stay at home mom, I was a teacher for 10+ years.  I have worked MUCH harder as a SAHM than I ever worked at any job I have ever had.  There are no paid holidays

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    Ciel Clarkposted 11 years ago

    I work part time, and consider those days almost as a vacation compared with the amount of concentration needed to be an attentive mom.    I'm not saying that I want to get away from my children, but (I think most stay at home parents would agree) it is not easy.  There is no break.  Talk about extreme multi-tasking!

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