Why it is difficult to restrain to your partner only?

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  1. Aqeel Saeed profile image54
    Aqeel Saeedposted 9 years ago

    It has become a routine practice of developing relationship other than your partner. It is against the LOVE and called unfaithful. Can we call it thing a temptation, lust or what?

    1. Eaglekiwi profile image78
      Eaglekiwiposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      We?
      I call it cheating
      I think it begins in the head( the mind plays around with it) , then the head tells the feet where to walk and hellooooo....I dont know what happened, she just happened to be there and one thing lead to another and blah blah blah.
      I dont buy that crap
      Staying committed is a choice.
      Many married people choose to stay faithful and some choose not too.
      I agree with SP , why get married if you dont know what you want to committ too. You cheat everyone when you cant even stay true to yourself.

    2. Maddie Ruud profile image77
      Maddie Ruudposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I don't think it's "routine."  It may be more common than some people would like to admit, but I don't think it's any more common than it has been throughout human history.

      There are lots of reasons people cheat.  Biological urges, psychological problems, lack of communication or satisfaction (not necessarily sexual) in relationships, etc etc etc.

  2. Misha profile image69
    Mishaposted 9 years ago

    It is unfaithful if concealed, otherwise it is called open relationship smile

  3. SweetiePie profile image83
    SweetiePieposted 9 years ago

    I hate to sound like the anti-relationship kind of gal, but why do people even get married if they want to have more than one sexual partner?  With all the talk of divorce in the tabloids it really makes me think people need to slow down and think about why they are getting married first.  Also, I really wish they would leave Jon and Kate alone because some of the blogs about them are very vapid.

    1. Aqeel Saeed profile image54
      Aqeel Saeedposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      mariage is a promise of faithfulness between the spouses. this promise is now broking at a high ratio. once or two can be but majority should restrain. if people just try to accomodate, avoid, and ignore each others broken relationship can be developed.

  4. Colebabie profile image57
    Colebabieposted 9 years ago

    Initially they don't think that they will have or need another partner. I don't think people who get married want another sexual partner. Sometimes it ends up that way.

    I think people just need to work harder on their relationships than they do. It is possible to be in a committed relationship. If someone knows that they do not want to be monogamous there isn't anything wrong with opting for an open relationship.

  5. Misha profile image69
    Mishaposted 9 years ago

    Sweetie, as I understand it, marriage is NOT about sex, it is about living together and helping each other, also about bringing up kids smile

    1. Eaglekiwi profile image78
      Eaglekiwiposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Kinda hard to reproduce without it lol

      1. Maddie Ruud profile image77
        Maddie Ruudposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        It's easy to reproduce without marriage, but less so without sex wink

        1. Eaglekiwi profile image78
          Eaglekiwiposted 9 years agoin reply to this

          true lol ,but now I guess ya dont even need that (sex) smile

          1. Maddie Ruud profile image77
            Maddie Ruudposted 9 years agoin reply to this

            Only if you've got money.

      2. Misha profile image69
        Mishaposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        LOL I did not say marriage excludes sex, you know smile

  6. SweetiePie profile image83
    SweetiePieposted 9 years ago

    Today I was watching a show where this couple had only dated for four months and were already running down the aisle.  Yes it ends up differently after people get married sometimes, but it never hurts to wait things out a few years and see if you are compatible first.

    1. Colebabie profile image57
      Colebabieposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      It depends on where you are in your life and what you want out of marriage.

    2. TamCor profile image81
      TamCorposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      SweetiePie--I knew my ex for years before we got married...it lasted two...

      I knew Tom for two months--it's lasted almost 21 years now...

      Obviously all situations are different, but you can know someone for years and STILL not really know them...

      I don't pretend to know why so many cheat, though--that's a tough one.

  7. SweetiePie profile image83
    SweetiePieposted 9 years ago

    I still think four months is way too fast, but that is just me.

    1. lrohner profile image81
      lrohnerposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      When I was 25, I married a man after knowing/dating for just under 60 days.

      He's now my ex-hubby.

      Nuff said.

  8. Hal Licino profile image62
    Hal Licinoposted 9 years ago

    OP, I don't find it difficult to restrain to my partner. I use handcuffs, heavy rope and duct tape. smile

  9. Colebabie profile image57
    Colebabieposted 9 years ago

    Lap dances usually keep my boyfriend from "developing another relationship".

    1. Aqeel Saeed profile image54
      Aqeel Saeedposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      in our area hands being tied is also a kind of dance u better use it on him.

  10. profile image0
    sandra rinckposted 9 years ago

    I think it's more like, I have difficulties restraining myself from my partner. big_smile

  11. Misha profile image69
    Mishaposted 9 years ago

    You cracked me up Sandy smile

  12. kmackey32 profile image66
    kmackey32posted 9 years ago

    I call it, I have needs!! LOL

    1. Aqeel Saeed profile image54
      Aqeel Saeedposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      humans and animals are different in fulfilling desires and needs. human follow ethic, morality, society, and law but animals just what in the mind go for it. so that is why human is superiour from other creations.

  13. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image56
    VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 9 years ago

    Where is my message submitted just a few moments before?

  14. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image56
    VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 9 years ago

    Even comments like "I think I am pregnant..."   "I had an affair with a boy... shall I have a baby?" "I have an ear-lobe and..."  are being published in this HP. But some comments are deleted for unknown reasons... Is HP substandard?

  15. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image56
    VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 9 years ago

    Even comments like "I think I am pregnant..."   "I had an affair with a boy... shall I have a baby?" "I have an ear-lobe and..."  are being published in this HP. But some comments are deleted for unknown reasons... Is HP substandard?

  16. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA profile image56
    VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 9 years ago

    Even comments like "I think I am pregnant..."   "I had an affair with a boy... shall I have a baby?" "I have an ear-lobe and..."  are being published in this HP. But some comments are deleted for unknown reasons... Is HP substandard?

 
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