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What do you do to calm yourself when your toddler has a meltdown?

  1. ThePracticalMommy profile image98
    ThePracticalMommyposted 7 years ago

    What do you do to calm yourself when your toddler has a meltdown?

    My son is hitting the tantrum stage of toddlerhood, which can drive any mother crazy. I simply leave him in a safe area of the house and play some music until he calms down. What do you do?

  2. rkhyclak profile image60
    rkhyclakposted 7 years ago

    Pretty much the same. Walk away. No sense in "fighting" with them as it just adds to the tantrum!

  3. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 7 years ago

    i agree with both of you.  As long as the toddler is in a safe place, walk away and keep your ear on the situation because 1) he may be genuinely angry and overwhelmed with emotions, but having an audience adds to it. 2) it is definitely best for you to be able to step away and get a breath before dealing with it. 

    If in public, never ignore it, because ignoring it is tantamount to approving it.  However inconvenient, remove the child to the car or wherever you can.

  4. chanroth profile image74
    chanrothposted 7 years ago

    I don't have children, but I have a younger sister, niece and nephew. When they have a meltdown, I would pull them to the side and leave them in a safe area. Sometime I would pull out a movie that would attract them and they would just calm and start watching the movie. Always pay good attention to them and watch every of their move. When my sister was a toddler, she drives me nuts when my parent not home. I went to the kitchen to get some apple juice for her and when i turn my back she was climbing the stair. This could be very dangerous because toddler would do anything to drive you crazy and they think its fun.

  5. Artist-For-Hire profile image68
    Artist-For-Hireposted 7 years ago

    Did I see your name in my hub? Or the forum?

    There are going to be moments like this (possibly everyday) coming in the foreseeable future, sorry to be the bearer of bad news. You're on the right track - you leave him in a safe environment until you both calm down. There are times when I actually go and lock myself in the toilet because I know they can't follow!
    And there are things that would have made me pull my hair out if my first child had done it - now I actually find myself reaching for the camera! You need a sense of humor, you need to be objective. You know..the whole lose the battle, win the war concept.

    There's a lot to be said for diffusing the problem before it escalates - distraction, removing the source of stress or removing yourselves from that environment. Just set a good example and be engaging with your son and you'll be great. Good luck!!

  6. chald profile image57
    chaldposted 7 years ago

    I do much the same remove myself from the child, ignore the behavior. However my husband does exactly the same as our toddler is doing, ofen they will stop their behviour  and laugh, that is when my husband stops and says well that is what you look like so stop and use your words!!

  7. ryancurtis profile image61
    ryancurtisposted 7 years ago

    Assign a naughty area for him to have his tantrum. As you say it's a safe place, then we walk away.
    We have a calendar in our kitchen which shows the entire month.
    When our son is good  (in our eyes)  he places a star on that day. When he gets enough over that month he is rewarded with something he likes. When he has a tantrum he goes to the naughty area which is well in view of his calendar.

    There was this old guy whw one day saw me truly stressing out when my son was having a tantrum from hell. He looked at and said, " Don't worry things will get better but then they become teenagers".

  8. profile image48
    footprintzposted 7 years ago

    Ask them to help me understand and listen