How do you tell someone you don't want to visit them because their children are

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   Readmikenowposted 8 years ago

   How do you tell someone you don't want to visit them because their children are horrible?
   
   My friend and his wife are nice, but not good at teaching their children.  Others have talked to them but they seem to be oblivious to what others see and experience in their home.

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   ChristinSposted 8 years ago

   I would maybe refrain from stating why and just come up with another excuse -- or perhaps invite them to go out with you to a place for a "child free" evening for grownups.  Something like that is nicer, it gives the hint and doesn't potentially cost you a friendship.  Or you could anonymously send them some books on child behavior and psychology

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      Austinstarposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I vote for sending them some easy to read books on child rearing!

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      Say Yes To Lifeposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I think this would be the best approach too. My brother's best friend was a policeman. He had to give up that position when his son caused the death of an elderly sales clerk while robbing a convenience store.

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   Stacie Lposted 8 years ago

   Role Modeling is a good method to subtly teach. Bring your children or family children and let them demonstrate good manners and behavior. Often children will listen or mimic other children.
   Are these parents young and inexperienced? How were they raised? The answers to these questions will give you more insight to their method of parenting.

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      Say Yes To Lifeposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Hopefully the kids aren't too horrible.  They might beat up the other kids!

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   chuckandus6posted 8 years ago

   parents can become very hostile when children are criticized and i would avoid getting involved.

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