As you grew up, what was the ONE thing your parent(s)/guardian stressed the most?
My father always stressed the importance of paying attention to my actions, which ultimately showed others my character.
My mother always stressed the importance of having/paying the utmost respect to the most important aspect of life- Women, Power, Money and Elderly.
What did your parent(s)/guardian stress to you?
My mother always stress on being good and not doing anything I may live to regret. My other family members always stress on respecting others, especially the elderly. My aunt whom I spent my preteen years with always encourage me to learn all I can, she was always sending me off to read the paper or some book or magazine, study or explore.
It was a tie between the importance of honesty and the importance of virtue and finally, the value of education. Three so equally stressed it was impossible to know which they valued the most highly.
My mom stressed that the most important thing in life is knowing and having a relationship with God, putting Him first in my life and living by the Bible.
My dad, who agreed with my mom, also encouarged me to be a hard worker and help others when possible.
I love them both!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My mother was very strict about cleanliness. She was a stickler about keeping things organized and tidy. Hence, I cannot leave things messy - sometimes it is a blessing, and sometimes it is a curse!
My Dad taught me the need to work hard and not to rely on others for my needs. Because of that, I am very independent and self reliant. Besides trying to keep a clean organized home, I have been working for money since I was 16, and always keep extra on hand in case of emergencies.
Education was the stated goal of all goals in my family. Academic achievement demonstrated perserverance, intelligence, commitment and character. It also gave me marketable skills and pedigree. (Maybe me being able to get a job was their hidden agenda...)
As an aside, we learned love, decency, and similar interpersonal traits from glowing example.
From both biological parents, I learned never to judge others because I never knew what their lives were like when they weren't around us - in conjunction to be kind to everyone.
From my stepfather, I learned to always live within my means and to be grateful to be able to meet all my needs.
Well, to me my mother stressed the importance of not judging others, to be less judgmental. Or, in other words, to be less critical. My step-father stressed responsibility.
To my sister, my mother stressed cleanliness (her room was ALWAYS a mess!!) and I'm guessing my step-father influenced my sister in spending a lot of time away from home.
As a combined effort, I'd say my parents stressed racial equality and inner strength - although I'd have to say my mom was stronger than my dad.
This is a great question, Cagsil, and I am enjoying reading all the responses.
It seems as if it were so long ago, but I can remember that my father mainly stressed being smart, but not necessarily in a book way (although he did love when we got good grades). Mostly, he didn't want his kids to do dumb things like being racist or taking drugs. He always talked about people who did that stuff as being stupid, rather than simply lecturing us not to do it without giving a reason.
My mom never gave me much advice. However, she did quietly demonstrate her opinions rather than loudly voicing them. She was "just" a stay-at-home mom, but she was always quietly volunteering at my school library. She also taught literacy to adults and volunteered her time to help out the political candidates and causes she believed in. I remember my little neighborhood playmate overhearing her making campaign phone calls and asking me "what is your mother talking about?"
The one thing my parents instilled in me was to always have respect for my elders. I came from a very respectful family so that wasnt hard they made my youth enjoyable and even when things got stressful they handled it with ease, I had parents who told it like it was so when i got to the age that i moved and left the house i wouldnt be in for a culture shock and for that I want to give my mom and stepdad a standing ovation because they gave me a lot of useful tips that came in handy that i still use today
My mom always stressed kindness and compassion for others - people AND animals. She also stressed wearing clean undies in case I got into an accident. Mom also taught me to value art and classical music.
My dad stressed honesty, hard work, and gun safety. lol (He was a gun dealer and collector.) Dad loved poetry, which he often shared with me.
My father's frequent one: "Don't be worrying about what OTHER people do. You worry about what YOU do."
My mother's: "You have a good head. Think for yourself, and don't be listening to other people."
My parents always stressed total honesty, no matter how difficult it was. Our punishment was always more severe, if we failed to own up and speak the truth.
Once in a while though being totally honest backfired, especially if the truth ended up hurting someone's feelings.
I had no parental stress.
My martial arts instructor taught me, Stand your ground, stand alone, and die with your boots on!
To Cagsil, my father stressed the paramount importance of education. He believed the more education the better. He wanted me to obtain a Ph.D. but I elected to only obtain a Bachelor's Degree. He was quite disappointed regarding this. He wanted me to have the opportunities he did not have. He stressed the importance of family planning and small families and to have a practical career!
Both of my parents stressed and always told me to stay true to myself, and to never be afraid to show who I really am. No matter how strange or crazy that might be. They told me to never fear possibility, and to never be afraid of putting myself out there.
I valued these lessons, and stay true to them today.
They taught me a very important lesson: never care what others think of you, be who are, do what you love, and follow your heart!
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