How do *you* fight loneliness?
- Beth37posted 11 years ago
0And more often than not... it doesn't... it is a Human Condition, as useful as poor advice!
- Do not hurt *anybody*, confess *your* sins, admit *your* mistakes - and watch what is happening around *you* - express yourself on the web - will keep you smiling and at the top of the world.
It is really only a state of mind.. and not a good one, as it really relates to how one feels about themselves... Check yourself out... if your self esteem is lower than it should be, counter it with a bit more of something that you like about yourself..
Don't allow yourself to get down about things (no matter what) - You need to be Up and at your best if you are going to tackle a problem... even if YOU are the problem.
This is one incredible world.. when you genuinely appreciate that fact.. you don't have time to feel lonely.. but, in saying that, everyone at sometime does feel alone... when you enjoy your own company, no matter what you are doing... you will find that you inspire others and being 'lonely' may actually become more of a wish than a concern!
The #1 thing to ensure you create and maintain a positive mind and outlook is:
'Never, never listen to or take in the words of those who are more negative than yourself!'
Think about that... and you will see what I mean + you will start noticing the influence that negative people have on you, because they endorse negative thoughts you have... Misery loves Misery!
Good Luck... I hope you don't consider this post to be a sermon.. there is no mention of religion in it at all, other the reference to religiously motivating yourself to feel and live positively!
- Kathryn LJposted 11 years ago0
Having lots of hobbies you really enjoy helps and as others have said, pets if you can have them, are great companions, plus they don't judge! I've had a few times in my life when I was in a situation where I was lonely. I found doing volunteer work and generally helping others really helped. I think you've hit the nail on the head, loneliness is a state of mind. You can be surrounded by people and be lonely. You need to be comfy 'inside'. The trick is to find out what works for you, life's too short to spend it being unhappy.
Loneliness is difficult - something everyone experiences at some point. In the end though it is as you said, a 'state of mind'. Being lonely is a false sense of isolation caused by a wide number of factors that make one feel alienated from people and the world. Many of the suggestions here focus on distracting oneself from the feeling. Personally I would go to the root. If you practice meditation (and I'm talking on a basic scientific psychological not spiritual level) you develop naturally certain faculties of mind for instance compassion and empathy. Now while at first it may seem these mental states are about others - they are actually to do with how you see yourself in relation to others. It lessens perceptual barriers between you and the outside world and feelings of isolation naturally go by the wayside. Anyhoo - that's my ten pennies worth
- Sarra Garrettposted 11 years ago0
What does that mean?
To keep your threads 'engaging' is usually a good idea and good protocol to reply to all the posters who have taken the time to think about your subject, post and contribute to its longevity... if you don't do so as the OP, or just answer your friends, then people consider it rude and/or a waste of time making the effort to support your subjects.
I guess that's when Siberia comes into the equation?
I don't appreciate being ignored.. do you?
However, it is one practice that is becoming a 'fun' thing to do others.That takes the cake then... when the site is full of bugs... seems priorities are rather subjective also!
The thread title states: 'How do you fight loneliness?
Down here in the South that more than intimates individual opinions are being sought!
No need to feel defensive because I'm being direct and you maybe haven't taken the point made.. my accent is often too hard for US hubbers to appreciate.. but down here, we say it as it is and don't really pussyfoot around the facts... And appreciate it when that is reciprocal.. It costs nothing to be polite, we believe if people just choose to ignore ya.. then they're the one with the problem... the act says far more about them than it does the person being ignored! But I also appreciate that lots of people online have little or no ability to lighten up and laugh at themselves if they act like a wally!
As the OP... you're right... it's not all about you... But when you ask for opinions and people give them... I believe in most parts of the States that I've been to (40 odd states).. a reply to the individual contributing to one's thread is still regarded as polite... I could be wrong, maybe it's changed since I was last there?
I actually thought my original post was worthy of a little more respect, as it contained some pretty solid, tried and true advice... but clearly it wasn't...Straight away - we are completely poles apart! As a writer, I am always amused by how poorly people consider the art of communication.... We are a generation apart here... and you don't want to hear my opinion... Factually - I am correct and even though you stated otherwise, you placed no value on the words given to you! As a writer, you should if you expect to be something beyond average, completely understand the point I have made here... If you don't then you don't appreciate your reader, as all readers require the writer, to provide a solid and engaging base of communication that is built on the respect of the reader... not the writer! Understand Y/N... probably N..
Perhaps that's because of the 2 different age groups involved here!
The term 'moving on' to me and my age group is a really inappropriate way of communicating with those older than you... because those terms were in MY days in Sales Management used ONLY as a way of handling a difficult objection or person - arrogantly!
Your age group use it most frivolously, as if it is the buzziest term that can be used... however, when it is attached to, or used in association with an apology, it effectively removes the genuineness of "I'm Sorry" by turning it into "I'm Not Really Sorry... Phew!" Understand Y/N/Irrelevant ?
Perhaps... 'moving on' as a defensive escape of a difficult subject was used perfectly by you, but in the ART of communication... finger-painting is as effective when talking to someone from a different culture! I'll let you off.... if you don't take offense to what I've said... then you've actually learned a little about improving your writing and communication skills...
Enjoy your New Year
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