Why is it so difficult to make permanent, positive changes in one's life? Is the

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   Oztinatoposted 10 years ago

   "Old habits die hard" is a truism.
   We are creatures of habit. Many books recommend replacing an old bad habit with a new good one as a way to change.
   Also, make sure you haven't got "friends" dragging you back to old bad habits.

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   aliamisbahposted 10 years ago

   yes it is possible if the positive thing is in your behavior too then its easy to come positive change in yours love one...

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   DeepThought258238posted 10 years ago

   Yes, making changes can be very difficult. The reason why is that we are all born imperfect and have the tendency to sin. The Apostle Paul under inspiration said it best in Romans 7:21-23 - "I find, then, this law in my case: When I wish to do what is right, what is bad is present with me. I really delight in law of God according to the man that I am within, but I see in my body another law warring against the law of my mind and leading me captive to sins law that is in my body." So don't feel bad if that is the way that you are feeling, we all go through this battle.
   
   You ask how can we make successful permanent changes? Well it starts with reading the bible believe it or not. Psalms 1:1-3 states:
   
   "Happy is the man who does not walk according to the advice of the wicked and does not stand on the path of sinners and does not sit in the seat of scoffers. But his delight is in the law of Jehovah (God's name) and he reads his law in an undertone day and night. He will be like a tree planted by streams of water, a tree that produces fruit in it's season, the foliage which does not wither, and everything he does will succeed."
   
   yes reading the bible daily and meditating on what you are reading will help you to make changes and keep them on a permanent basis. However bible reading is not enough, we have to do more than that. If you would like to know more reach out to me via my profile and send me an email.

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   LINDA JOSEPHposted 10 years ago

   I would like to give a simple answer to your question. There are changes in our behaviour, i.e, human beings , even animals have the tendancy to respond according to the situation.  This is what a human behaviour is and I would also like to say that , at many situations a bad change can lead to good,i.e,it may have best impact than a good change. Thats why we say,"All that happen is for good."

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   Soumya Mukherjeeposted 10 years ago

   Positive or negative attributes in one's life are relative. It depends on how you look at life. If you believe whatever you do or whatever happens to your life is ultimately good, then everything can seem to be positive. Change itself is a dynamic process and if  we believe in the law of nature then change cannot happen in the backward direction as time cannot flow backward so change always has a positive aspect and we just need to know that. If we become little less utilitarian in living life and can just let ourselves go with the flow of life, it can be very simple to cope with any change that life offers and sticking to one positive change can be child's play. Perhaps, what you consider negative may also appear positive!

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   AKChenoweth2014posted 10 years ago

   I believe in setting and accomplishing short term goals in order to achieve a long term one.  What I find is that the positive permanent effect then happens naturally and you almost condition yourself gradually to achieving this permanent transformation...

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   lone77starposted 10 years ago

   You can help yourself by practicing letting go of things and influences that deflect you from your goal. Let go of attachments to things.
   
   Alter your perception. If you want to stop smoking, get rid of all the paraphernalia that go with smoking. Think of eating the ashes and cigarette butts after you've finished smoking. If you also binge eat on ice cream, top your ice cream with cigarette ashes and butts. Things like this change your perception of the items you may crave.
   
   If drinking is a problem, then binge drink until you're puking sick. Keep a sober friend nearby to help keep you safe. Some have found such a technique a lifelong motivation to help them avoid drink.
   
   Stay away from people who try to derail your positive changes.
   
   The biggest help I've found so far, has been Kabbalah.
   
   Kabbalists are the ones who wrote the Bible (Pentateuch, at least). They wrote it in code. It's not physical stories, but symbols for spiritual forces and attitudes. By practicing receiving things, not for the benefit of yourself, but for the benefit of others and for God, you correct your selfishness to altruism. By tackling this inner attitude, you get to the heart of all difficulty and suffering. A taste of what this all means may be found in the short film at,
   
   http://perceivingreality.com
   
   Things persist because there is a lie attached to them.
   
   As Christ said, know the truth and the truth will set you free. The very powerful aid, here, is knowing that if something continues to persist, then you have not yet found the truth of it. Search with your heart. Desire to find the answers. God will give you His help, if you truly ask with a deep and profound need. This is the stuff of miracles.

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   Penny Gposted 10 years ago

   It takes much discipline,time and effort. Notes in obvious places are great for me. To let others know you are making changes in cooperates others support and even keeps them from making it more difficult if they are around you and choose not to make these changes.You must hold yourself accountable, and remember relapse is not unusual. Just restart right away.It is human nature to take the easy route. The other routes take hiking boots, and a well stocked back pack! I work in a Treatment Prison, where we prepare Men for their new lives upon release . These are part of the things we work on with them, and help them to be responsible for their success.

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   sukheshposted 10 years ago

   This is not only the question arised by you and everyone may have got this question once in their life time.The answer is as follows.
   philosophically nothing in the world is permanent neither you,nor me nor sun nor earth.How can you expect permanent positive changes in one's life?However it is possible to bring positive changes in one's life.But those changes will be there until he/she is dedicated to it.So start loving yourself or people as they are.Better not to expect any changes.Instead start motivating him/her/yourself to change which may be solution to your question

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    Crissyliteposted 10 years ago

    Some changes occur overnight. However, most take place over a period of time. We have to be patient with ourselves while still being persistent with our goals. It is also good to have people around you to help hold you accountable.
    
    Another thing to keep in mind is that we don't do anything on our own strength alone. I ask God to step in and help me change.

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       Penny Gposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       As a community we can be good brothers keepers, and help those through change. God will be right there!

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    BizGenGirlposted 10 years ago

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    Lara L Bayleyposted 10 years ago

    I believe we can make positive changes in our life, we have to overcome our fear, often fear of failure. Having a positive outlook on life, and making a decision, and stick to it, this will make you feel stronger, plus make you more of a confident person.

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    Chucktowngirlposted 10 years ago

    The main thing is to be focus. You must be seriously be willing to tune the outside world out for a moment, that means family and friends. You must seriously focus on yourself and what it is that you are trying to achieve, not just for the min but until you have successfully gotten to where you want to be. Once you are there you will be able to enjoy others. The key is not to be distracted.

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    ReneeDC1979posted 10 years ago

    I think it is difficult for us to make positive changes stick because many times they may start from something negative.  Say losing weight for instance.  We know we will be healthier in the long run, but what do we have to do to reach our goal?  We have to schedule time throughout our day and make a routine of exercising and eating different.  Then we still have the battle of seeing what "skinny" is in the media, on television and in our coworkers. We allow the world's views takeover our own views, so we end up giving up on the change before we get over the halfway mark.

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    dailytop10posted 10 years ago

    Dedication is really hard if you lack the right motivation. Don't motivate yourself on something that will fade in the course of time like your feelings toward someone. The best way is to do it for your own. In the end, regardless what might happen, you'll always be on the same body. Take care of yourself and God bless you.

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    Jynzlyposted 8 years ago

    Nothing is permanent in all living things. Movement is the nature of life and movement is not only physical but in all areas. Time factor, meaning the ticking of the clock moves from a second to minute to hours to days and so forth so is everything that goes with time, thoughts, feelings, people, environment, among others. An adult cannot anymore wear his/her shoes when he/she was one year old even if that shoes are still in good condition. It zeroes  down to the adage "nothing is permanent in life" or "change is the only thing that never change." When my 35 year old son dumped his wife who he married when he was 17 because she was pregnant, I asked him why. his simple answer was "Mama, the 17 year-old Reynan (my son's name) who married at that age is not the same person you are talking to now...he had no regrets marrying his ex-wife because it bore a beautiful daughter and two beautiful boy-gitl twins but he just cannot love his wife anymore to the point of staying with her as his wife. His needs changed, his philosophy changed, his outlook in life changed but his wife was unable to cope with such growth and development in my son's personality...he plainly had outgrown her in all aspects...Growth and development are factors of definite change; the environment and time that influence growth and development are sure balls to hit change and a lot more. It is just a fact of life; the rich and prosperous businessman gets bankrupt in a slight mistake in decision-making, love flies out the window when the stomach is empty, and many, many more...life is just a series of events and changes; therefore there is just no recommended formula to change nature...Movement is life and vice versa.

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