Is grounding your teen when they're failing school wrong?

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   Sapphireidposted 14 years ago

   Is grounding your teen when they're failing school wrong?
   
   Grades are as so: algebra-F; chemistry-F; french-F....yada, yada! Tutoring at school isn't working. Does the parent need to keep the teen at home and school them (Tutor)?

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   aallard23posted 14 years ago

   I'm no mother of teenager but If it was my son I would ground them and find out why they are not interested in school to begin with. These teens think everything is easy so they don't care about their education.

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   ii3rittlesposted 14 years ago

   I don't have a kid, I'm only 23! But I remember when I was doing bad in school. It was because I wasn't getting good sleep and not paying attention. I was stressed at home and when I went to school I didn't care. It's not that I wasn't learning, I just didn't care to do good. I also got teased which didn't help either! I was the quiet and shy girl that hated getting up in front of class so I would opt out of any work that had to do with that. It got better when I got older and started caring. I got a few A's some B's and a few C's. The only thing I remember flunking in High School was Gym or PH class. I didn't like undressing in front of other girls so I simply didn't. Haha

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   Lovesloveposted 14 years ago

   I feel its wrong to ground a teenager or any child for  bad school work.The thing to do is find out the reason why the work is so bad and why they are obtaining such bad grades.The reason could be an underlying thing that they are worried about ,something that is happning in their lives that they are afraid to talk about.Sit them down and ask them to explain why they are not doing well at school,make an appointment with the teacher to discuss the problem.
   In my opinion grounding does not work in any situation, what happened to talking ,discussing and reasoning ?

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   Stacie Lposted 14 years ago

   Grounding a teen is an individual choice and also depends on the teen. If they are trying but still struggling then they may need extra help such as a private tutor to catch them up in school. You may also need to home-school if they are getting in trouble at school.
   Counseling may also be an option if failing is new experience and see if they are having emotional difficulties.
   I think the school teachers and counselor would have made attempts to contact the parent before now.
   Working together for a solution is the best approach.
   Good luck.

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   1morningposted 14 years ago

   I don't know if it is "wrong", but I don't think it is very helpful either.  The teen is obviously saying something, the trick is to figure out what.  Homeschooling is appropriate for some families, but if the parents aren't going to follow through, or aren't able to understand what their child is telling them through bad grades, it probably won't out.  Can the child talk to a counselor or someone they can trust to help them get it all worked out?  That would be the best thing to do.
   
   It sounds like bad grades may be one of the few things the kid has control over.

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   onegoodwomanposted 14 years ago

   YOU are the parent of this teen!  Do what you deem necessary or effective.  I am not ( nor is anyone else) accountable for your teen.

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   lovelife08posted 14 years ago

   It's only wrong if they're doing the absolute best they can.  If they are just slacking and being lazy, then yes, grounding is appropriate.

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   ahagenposted 14 years ago

   My answer would be that it is neither right or wrong. Simply grounding will probably not help improve grades. Instead, maybe parents should shift time away from gaming, social media, text messaging, other things that teens might be grounded from and set expectations for the child's studying. I had this happen with my step son who is very smart. He had to spend his time organizing himself, studing, reading, instead of playing call of duty and texting his friends. We had to do some things at school as well in order for things to improve, thus why I don't think simply grounding will help.

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