How do I convince my boyfriend/husband that one of his friendships is toxic to h

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   BizGenGirlposted 12 years ago

   How do I convince my boyfriend/husband that one of his friendships is toxic to him?
   
   My hubby has a "friend" whom he has known with since high school. They guy is cruel, negative, morbid, insulting and continually rips off my hubby. Yet my hubby can't seem to see how wrong this is, and even when he does see it, he doesn't want to do anything about it. So his "friend" continues to walk all over him.
   
   I don't want to be an overbearing partner and tell him who he can (or cant) hang out with. Nor do I want to be the person he complains to when his "friend" rips him off again. I'm tired of being the "bad gal" and this is starting to effect our relationship, anyone have any advice?

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   Lisa Mae DeMasiposted 12 years ago

   Can you get an objective opinion?  Someone else to talk to him about it?  If you haven't convinced him by now, you probably sound like a broken record to him.

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   Apostle Jackposted 12 years ago

   Sometimes you will have to let him see for himself.That way you won't get caught up in the mix.Life has a way of saying more than words to get one to see the light.

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   stricktlydatingposted 12 years ago

   You're right not to try to tell him who he can and can't be friends with.  You can only tell him how it hurts/frustrates you to see the way that friend treats him, just point it out and leave it at that.  He probably knows what he's like, afterall he's known him a very long time.  Also, if his friend insults your husband while you're around say something to him as it occurs,  but do it in a calm manner.

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   Sesshoumaru2stposted 12 years ago

   this question is not towards him.It's towards you. Is his friend toxic towards you.His friend can be a very good friend in his eyes.From high school they might have been this way and to him it's the normal process of what made them friend sin the first place.Maybe it's has always been a competition between them. If he isn't making a move towards you then i don't see the need to get jealous of your hubby.BTW do you want to bang his friend or something? why you have a problem with this dude? You hubby can take care of himself.You just make sure you're not the one taking in the venom.PEACE!!

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