Do you think it is disrespectful for your spouse to admire another's beauty whil

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   peeplesposted 12 years ago

   Do you think it is disrespectful for your spouse to admire another's beauty while with you?
   
   Do you think it is natural? Do you do it with them? Do you get mad if they do? Do you encourage it?

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   tobusinessposted 12 years ago

   No,  if he is not too obvious about it. He can certainly work up an appetite, as long as he comes home to eat.
   there is nothing wrong with admiring beauty, but drooling, however is something quite different

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   nihar2posted 12 years ago

   It depends upon your partner's way of expressing complements, sometimes that is made with an intention to hurt the partner,,then its real bad, otherwise generally it does not at all disrespectful now a days.

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   ChristinSposted 12 years ago

   I think is very dependent on the situation.  If your partner is ogling other women or something then yes that's disrespectful, however if your partner acknowledges a woman as being beautiful I say "so what"? All people have eyes and we all notice other people and it's natural to notice if someone is attractive.  My partner and I are very comfortable together and very happy so if he mentions someone's beauty it doesn't bother me because its usually done casually and not like comparing me to her that kind of thing.  It's natural, as long as it's not done in a disrespectful or hurtful manner I see no problems with it.

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   nightwork4posted 12 years ago

   to admire beauty is natural and perfectly acceptable. if my wife sees a guy that she thinks is really attractive, i would find it strange for her not to say so. if she started acting flirtatious or was staring , it would be a different story. there is a big difference between admiring and being rude in my eyes.

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   LucidDreamsposted 12 years ago

   As long as he comes home to eat! Holy@#$%&.........I have to agree though and I am a man!

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   YvetteParkerposted 12 years ago

   Admiring another's beauty in which respect: inwardly, openly, lustfully, etc.?  I don't think it's disrespectful to admire things and people that you consider beautiful. I think we all take notice of and admire beautiful things. What makes it disrespectful is when a spouse is gawking with lust in his/her heart towards someone other than their spouse. How I would respond depends on the level of admiration being displayed; and no, I would certainly not encourage it.

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   christinekvposted 12 years ago

   I think it is natural to notice other physically attractive people (unless one is pre pubescent, blind, or dead!).  Men in particular are very visual, and in modern culture, it seems to be a rarity to find women who are coy, aloof or nonchalant about such things. 
   
   My husband is not obvious if he finds another attractive and in almost 18 years together, I think there have been a handful of times he has made any comments indicating he finds another pretty. I on the other hand don't find the need to hide and am pretty outspoken. I don't often make comments - someones looks and physique really have to make me go "WOW."  My husband does not seem to mind.
   
   Whether or not it's disrespectful I think depends on a couple things....one, being how the other persons beauty is admired. If a man (or woman) admires another they find attractive in a way which suggests they are "lusting" after that person, then of course it's disrespectful. If both people are confident (in contrast to insecure) and one of the two who make up the couple, points out they could not help but notice an attractive person, it shouldn't be a big deal.  Yet if someone has insecurity issues to overcome, then it would be wise to refrain from making comments or even the temptation to be obvious in noticing anothers beauty since to do otherwise would be disrespectful.
   
   Some do attempt to be objective about such things and even if we are objective and conclude although we may be ok with it, we have to understand others may not be. Respect does include taking anothers feelings or reactions into consideration.

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   thisiknowposted 12 years ago

   My husband is very good at making me feel like I am the only person in the room. I love how special he makes me feel. I also like the fact that he tries to not look at other women in my presence. It is so cute how he becomes a robot and tries really hard to not look at the insanely hot woman who walked into the room. When he slips up And looks, I laugh at him and roll my eyes. He does the same when I slip up. We have discussed the topic ‘looking at other people’ and we have both agreed to ogle and comment only when the other person isn’t around, but if one of us gets ‘caught’ it’s not a big deal. We both know that everyone looks, and we are both okay with it. We also both respect the other enough to not do it in front of the other.

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    SantaCruzposted 12 years ago

    I think it's more disrespectful for a date to act as if he didn't notice other women at all. That insults me because it suggests that I'm stupid ;-). But notice the other in moderation, please...

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    Mary Stuartposted 12 years ago

    Golly sakes. I remember my Exie ogling over other women constantly. It was not the best way to conjure up those warm fuzzies and pitter pat of heart. I know that pretty people walk around and a person would have to be blind to not notice. Ogling and panting and slobbering over the beauties is not wise.

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    Darknlovely3436posted 12 years ago

    I guess you heard me yelling at my spouse this afternoon, he wasn't only admiring he was staring and drooling.. so yes it it disrespectful ..
    he made me feel like i am losing my touch..

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    jpcmcposted 12 years ago

    I don't think that admiring another's beauty while you're with your spouse is disrespectful.  However, if it is lustful, then that's another matter.  My wife and i openly share what we consider beautiful.  I do not get mad, rather, I get to learn more about my wife that way.  As for encouraging, i just don't disallow it.  My wife is free to speak her mind and admire who she wants to admire.  Moreover, I'm blessed with such an understanding and level headed wife.  In the end, we are secured with our relationship.

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    Jennifer Bartposted 11 years ago

    No I don't think it is disrespectful for me I know I am not the only women my man is going to be attracted to and I think it is unfair to your partner to not allow him to admire the beauty of others. I am confident in what me and my partner have and I don't see other pretty women as a threat to me.

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    Edward J. Palumboposted 10 years ago

    I really think this depends on how (or why) it's expressed. My wife and I have been married 31 years and I'm well aware there are handsome men in the world, as she's aware there are attractive women. That's an observation, not a preference. My wife and I have more than enough respect for each other not to stare elsewhere when we're dining out, or to leer or comment inappropriately. My wife is the most beautiful part of my life. With the understanding there are other lovely women in the world, I would never give my wife reason to feel threatened.

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