Is it normal to NOT feel sadness after a breakup?

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  1. alistairjdarcy profile image59
    alistairjdarcyposted 6 years ago

    Just my opinion, of course, but the first issue here is the notion of what is 'normal'... How you react to any kind of change in your life only represents how that change impacts you. It sounds as though, even if it may not have been a conscious awareness, that the decision was the right one, and therefore there would be no reason to have to feel 'sad' just because it's what where told to feel. If you lost someone truly important to you, I bet you would feel sad.

  2. tamarawilhite profile image86
    tamarawilhiteposted 6 years ago

    If you've seen the breakup coming or were afraid of it and mourned the relationship a piece at a time, you may find the breakup a relief now that it has finally happened or feel little now because you've been grieving over it for weeks.

  3. Melllgeee profile image57
    Melllgeeeposted 6 years ago

    Coming from someone who has been in a relationship that just really wasn't going anywhere, breaking up and not feeling anything but almost relief, it is completely normal. Your heart knows when it just isn't right. Whether it was 3 months or 3 years, not feeling sadness is perfectly normal.

  4. profile image49
    KristinaMogyposted 6 years ago

    It is perfectly normal because after all you guys has been together for 3 months. It isn't that long of a relationship to feel sad over.

  5. Thomas Finney profile image70
    Thomas Finneyposted 6 years ago

    To me it depends. If you become very attached to someone and you break up your no doubt going to feel sadness, if you didn't get close perhaps you will feel little to none at all. There is also a chance where your body shuts down that feeling of sadness, maybe the feeling was to great it might overwhelm. There are a few reasons as to why someone might not feel sadness, a few times for me it was because I wasn't with the person long enough or that it was a bad break up.

  6. Becky Callahan profile image83
    Becky Callahanposted 6 years ago

    There truly is no "normal" reaction to a breakup; circumstances, personalities, and timing can all play a part in your feelings.

    If it was a toxic relationship, you may be feeling relief that it has finally come to some resolution, and while you may feel some unreasonable guilt, it is a perfectly normal reaction.

    In a relatively short relationship or one that you weren't very emotionally invested in, you may not have developed the depth of feelings to experience that expected "breakup sadness". That is also normal.

    Of course, there's also the possibility that you are emotionally numb or "in shock" and will experience some sadness or regret later. Even if you do, it does not necessarily mean that you made the wrong decision. The end of a  relationship, even a short one, is an ideal time to learn some valuable personal lessons. Reflect on the good and bad parts of your togetherness; think about ways you could improve as a partner and visualize what kind of partner you are looking for in the future.

  7. Jhun Dave de Leon profile image60
    Jhun Dave de Leonposted 6 years ago

    Acceptance is not about being happy but it's the end of a long search for peace. If you do your work, you come to this. It's when you can sit back and understand that was not meant to be. If you did the Relationship and Life Inventories in  the Standards and Compatibility inventory, you have learned so much about yourself and what you need to do in the future—who you need to BE in a relationship and who you need to LOOK FOR in a relationship. If you have learned to do the self-care which  recommends to balance the hard work of grief, you have learned to make yourself a priority in your life and insist that everyone else treat you with love, kindness and respect. That learning is priceless.

    Integration is when you can truly be glad for the presence of your ex  in your life. We all learn from partners—whether it's how to do something or a type of music or an author...we all pick up things that are valuable from someone else. 

    Integration is when you can appreciate those things without feeling pain or longing. When you are able to hold onto the positive things your former partner gave you without feeling hurt that they are gone, that is integration. You have INTEGRATED the good back into your life.

  8. DominiqueCM profile image63
    DominiqueCMposted 6 years ago

    Relief can be normal after a breakup. Especially a short one. I wouldn't think it's strange or anything.

  9. debbiewright123 profile image60
    debbiewright123posted 6 years ago

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  10. GoodnewsBassey profile image60
    GoodnewsBasseyposted 6 years ago

    You make a right decision by walking away, 3 month is still a fresh relationship

  11. yogaburnclub profile image79
    yogaburnclubposted 6 years ago

    This is expected since one invest a lot of time and money to make the relationship work.Therefore one is expected to be sad.Do not let the sadness take you forever move on after some time.

  12. realtalk247 profile image76
    realtalk247posted 6 years ago

    It's normal if you were long over that person.  It's normal if the relationship has taken a physical and mental toll on your wellbeing.  It's normal if you are ready to move onto bigger and better options.

  13. Modern Prometheus profile image60
    Modern Prometheusposted 6 years ago

    yes!  it shows that how fed up you were with the relationship and were not mentally and emotionally ready for the relationship.it also shows that you have not shared any sort of emotional intimacy with your partner.

  14. Perspycacious profile image62
    Perspycaciousposted 6 years ago

    It IS normal, since you are the one who ended it.  It could well be abnormal, if you had been the one trying to keep the relationship going.

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  16. RobinReenters profile image60
    RobinReentersposted 6 years ago

    In my personal feeling's a break up is a normal reaction to feel sadness or in another sense, if you weren't happy the break up makes you feel free-spirited to do the things you want to do not the things you did as a couple. Also sometimes its a sign of God to help you on a better path sadness to me has so many meanings in a spiritual sense.
    Your sadness can turn to.a big depression or it will show you to a stronger connection.To have a relationship is hard work like a puzzle to put the right pieces of love together to sustain. And we all get a broken heart but it mends somehow to restart a new.

  17. Helena Gracia profile image61
    Helena Graciaposted 6 years ago

    Yes. Maybe because of too much pain, you can't feel anything anymore.

  18. LMcGrath profile image61
    LMcGrathposted 6 years ago

    Yes, three months is long enough to realize this is not your forever person and have made peace with that. By the time the break up came whether by you or mutual feelings. You were mentally prepared to move on. Totally reasonable response why waste each others time and resources.

  19. Castlepaloma profile image74
    Castlepalomaposted 5 years ago

    Maybe love doses have conditions. My lover and I had our break up, over cocaine. She was a Coke queen when I met her. So I made one rule, do coke and our realationships is finished. She did not break that rule for 10 years. Then she broke that rule, I left her. Was a little dad yet no regrets, because I lost respect.

    Today I am in love again with another woman. With someone who is taking chemotherapy for her assumed brain cancer. Chemo is worst than cocaine to me. There is much better alternative methods. I will finish this realationships too, if she goes back on chemo. If she can't respect herself, how can I?

  20. dashingscorpio profile image82
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    Castlepaloma,

    The purpose of chemo is to save a life.
    The reason people use cocaine is to get high.
    I'm not sure how {anyone} could compare the two.
    No one "assumes" they have brain cancer.
    No one does chemotherapy for (fun and good times).

    You say "I am in love again" but if her cancer returns she better not use chemo or you're out of there. That doesn't sound like love at all.

    Unless you are a medical expert or oncologist you have no idea what works best to fight various cancers. Everyone would love to have a "natural cure".
    As of now there is no such "cure" that works for everyone.
    More often than not even those in remission experience another flare up.

    Eventually most people become sick and die. Others dies suddenly.
    Generally speaking the majority will do whatever it takes to prolong their life.
    Once YOU are in the "hot seat" I imagine your outlook will change.

    1. Castlepaloma profile image74
      Castlepalomaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I"m strongly committed and well reseached about chemo and been practicing holistic medicines with nutrition and cannabis for 15 years.

      Oncologist pulled liquid from her eye and found cancer. Yet, no cancer was found afterward in her entire body. After all the many more months of examinations... still nothing. She went for chemo, not for a good times, as they promised her a cure from nothing. Maybe she wanted to experience baldness and torture?

      Chemo success rate is 2% after 5 years and side effects are worst than the cancer. You want to compare chemo deaths to cocaine deaths?, no contest there. When cocaine is used wisely, natural cocaine works far better as a medicine in general than chemo. If you still want to confirm yourself that posion chemo or nuclear radiation works as the gold standard best. Then weapons of mass destruction in Iraq was not a lie....not.

      Meanwail Rick Simpson cannabis oil has a 70% success rate up to stage 5. Gerson system has a 100% success rate at stage 1 or 2 of cancer.  If someone does not respect themselves to save their own life. How can I respect them, as the love will die. I must respect and love myself first before I can give love. I would go to the end of the earth for this woman. Just don't ask me to jump off a cliff with her, like stupid sheep do. That is where self love and being your own best doctor in the world, comes first.

  21. Isivwe Muobo profile image69
    Isivwe Muoboposted 5 years ago

    If this is a one-time thing, then yes, it is perfectly okay to not feel sad after the breakup as you probably weren't so emotionally invested in the relationship.

    However, if it's something that happens often, then I would have it checked out as it could be a problem.

  22. profile image52
    Jackson2019posted 5 years ago

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