Do you think it is wrong to discipline your child?

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   KevinTimothyposted 11 years ago

   Do you think it is wrong to discipline your child?
   
   Especially when the bible clearly endorses it in Proverbs 13:24

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   Dantex460posted 11 years ago

   Positive reinforcement is proven to work better. It is illegal to hit a child and cruel if that is what you meant, but it is not wrong to tell them off especially when it comes to there own safety.

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   Ellana317posted 11 years ago

   No, I don't think there's anything wrong with disciplining children.  If you don't discipline them they'll lack discipline and have an unrealistic view of what results come when we make bad decisions in life.  All in all, if you don't discipline them... the judicial system will.  Let us also remember that discipline is not always physical.

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      KevinTimothyposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      What happens when that child is ready to fight you?

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      Ellana317posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      As I said, discipline is NOT always physical... Sidenote:  If a child has respect for you they'll never even attempt such a thing.  I love and respect my mother and even as a child/teen that was unthinkable.

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   Care Bearposted 11 years ago

   I think discipline is necessary. That doesn't mean that you have to spank your children, but they need to know the difference between right and wrong and that there are undesirable consequences for bad behavior and good consequences for good behavior. Something like time-out for bad behavior (being sure that the child understands why), and praise and hugs for good behavior.

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   Veroniquebeeposted 11 years ago

   Well, as Ellana mentioned, discipline is not always physical.
   
   Yet...
   
   I had been quite a little horror when I was a child, and let me tell you that the few slaps I got from my parents taught me more manners and self-discipline than all kinds of "you are not supposed to do this, honey" speeches. Because seriously, parents speak, child looks at them and all the kid is thinking is "blablabla... you finished yet?"
   
   I'm not saying you are supposed to beat your child in a pulp. If the kid needs to be punished, the punishment must come swiftly (because punishing the kid for something they did week ago is, well, ilogical and useless) and must be also comparative to what did the kid do wrong. The kid brought an F from school? Alright, ban them from computer and revise with them. No need to slap them senselessly for that, as the only thing it will bring is scared child and more Fs on the way. They did something what they were nort supposed to do? Alright, immediately tell them they are going to be punished and explain clearly what they did and why it was wrong.
   
   And seriously, do not punish the kid for something you yourself are doing - double standards never work properly, as far as I know, and it will only undermine your authority.
   
   By the way, I'm not a parent myself, but I used to volunteer at chilndren summer camps as an instructor, so I know some things about "parenting", too.

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   yeagerinvestmentsposted 11 years ago

   No, there is nothing wrong with discipline. Unfortunately people have confused discipline with abuse which has led to our culture's nose turning up to parents that do discipline and created more problems for our children.

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   Faceless39posted 11 years ago

   Discipline is one thing.  Using violence or spanking is another.  If you wouldn't treat an adult that way, don't treat a kid that way. 
   
   There are ways to show discipline that don't involve fear and hatred, such as putting them in a special "time-out" chair when they're acting up.

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   duffsmomposted 11 years ago

   Discipline is necessary raise healthy, happy and well behaved children.  It is the style of discipline that can be the problem.  May people discipline children out of anger and that is counter productive.
   
   Discipline is not defined as hitting though.  The idea of causing a child pain in order to get them to behave in a certain way just seems really cruel to me.

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   lburmasterposted 11 years ago

   No, I don't think it's wrong at all. "Spare the rod, spoil the child."

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    moonfairyposted 11 years ago

    no. without discipline they won't know the difference between right and wrong.

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    rutheddavidposted 11 years ago

    discipline is a vital part of human growth. It teaches one the morals that he needs to follow basically guiding him on what is right and what is wrong. Parents are of course the primary individuals given the responsibility to provide discipline to their children. So no, it is not wrong to discipline one's child. It is simply a response that one has to consider in relation to the role that he or she is taking in relation to his child's development.
    
    True, the definition of discipline in Proverbs 13:24 lays out how parents should handle their God-given responsibility.
    
    Nevertheless, the process of disciplining a child is what matters most, as the outcome of such approach would depend on how the discipline has been given. Regarding this matter, I would like to share some of the written hubs that might be helpful and interesting regarding the issue of disciplining children:
    
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    Damodar Bashyalposted 11 years ago

    absolutely not! If i was not disciplined, I wouldn't have been where I am today.

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    dghbrhposted 11 years ago

    No, for me its important to teach them about discipline at younger age. Then it tends to become their habit which in turn becomes easy to make them responsible adults in due course of time.
    Good question.

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    Lyn Dianoposted 11 years ago

    Depends on the form of discipline.
    
    It is the parents/guardians' responsibility to discipline the child.
    One great teacher taught me that when your child is between 1-3 years old, parents should not spank them in whatever way. Simply telling them that he/she is wrong is enough. But when he/she reaches 5-13, this is the time that parents should chastise them in the most correct/appropriate way. This is the time that kids or teens start to be rebellious and act like crazy. And when he/she reaches 13 up, parents should start befriending him/her.
    
    This will allow a good parent-child relationship which will last for a lifetime.

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