What's one thing you miss about being single?

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   missa72542posted 11 years ago

   What's one thing you miss about being single?
   
   For those of you in a relationship, what's the one thing (or multiple things) that you miss about being single? I miss being able to listen to music while going to sleep. My boyfriend likes complete silence, I like music. But I don't play any so that I don't disturb him.

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   DreamerMegposted 11 years ago

   Not a "single" thing. Maybe it's been too long since I was single but I don't miss getting into a cold bed alone in the winter, or someone to share the household chores with. Sometimes I can't sleep at night, so I play relaxation tapes but I use headphones so it doesn't disturb my husband. The sound is turned down low so only I can hear them.

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   DaveysRecipeReadposted 11 years ago

   Good question. Freedom is the answer. Freedom to do whatever you feel like doing without regard to someone else's wants or needs. Sounds just terrible doesn't it? But self-indulgence can also be healthy and even necessary.

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      missa72542posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I understand this, but in a different view. My boyfriend wouldn't care, but I can't do my own thing anymore. Because I moved over 1,000 miles away so I could be with him. So all my family and friends are back home, & I don't know many people up h

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   belleartposted 11 years ago

   freedom.  Being able to go anywhere, do anything or make any decision on the spot! I cant say I want it back though, I love my partner too much and we so everything together,  Now we plan, and think ahead and although its not as impromptu as when I was single, the memories are definitely better.

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   cebutouristspotposted 11 years ago

   I miss living a care free life .  Now I have 2 kids to feed so I must work   When I was single I am only responsible to myself.
   
   I miss drinking with friends every night   Now I life a sober life .....

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   Deepak Chaturvediposted 11 years ago

   Reading,writing and ofcourse listen to the music but for the good company you can leave everything.

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   SkeetyDposted 11 years ago

   I miss the ability to do what I want at a moment's notice.  Spontaneity is no longer an option for me.  And I miss taking risks as well. When you are in a relationship with commitments, risks are serious not exciting anymore.

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   Trinity Mposted 11 years ago

   To be honest, the benefits and joys of being with my husband far outweigh the little things I might have missed. I realise that a lot of the things I did when I was single (like take 2 hour baths) were ‘fillers’ because I had nothing better to do with my time. Being in a relationship makes me set my priorities straight.
   
   But if I had to say one thing it would be lying in on Sunday mornings as my hubby is an early riser.

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      missa72542posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Lucky for me, my boyfriend likes to sleep in on his days off. So we both get to sleep late, heh. I think falling asleep with music is the only thing I miss. But I'm perfectly fine with giving it up. I'd wear headphones if they didn't bother my ears.

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   Probably the thing I miss the most is the excitement and anticipation of looking forward to either going to visit the person I'm dating or having her come to my place for the night or weekend. (There is a certain energy in the air that leads you to want to make the most of your time together). Whoever is hosting makes plans to ensure their time together will be special in some way.
   When you get married or live together no matter how much effort you put into it eventually that "magic" or "excitement" fades into relaxation or being "comfortable". I suppose it should come as no surprise that the more available something is the less (thrilling) or valuable it becomes. People get taken for granted in both small and large ways.
   Abundance of time together can lead to compliancy in relationships. The more time couples have together the less effort they tend put forth in trying to please or (surprise) one another. Overtime most couples fall into a (routine). Many of them find a high level of comfort/security in routine. While unpredictability can be exciting it can also be stressful for some trying to raise the bar time and time again to hold someone’s attention or impress them. I guess that is why they call it "settling down". :-)

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    GoodLadyposted 11 years ago

    I miss going to sleep when I want and waking up when I'm ready.  My partner doesn't need as much sleep as I do.  I love sleeping!  I go around feeling as though I'm sleep deprived most of the time.
    Otherwise, we make it happen OK - and now we are both stay- at- homers that takes a lot of compromising.

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    jaredbangerterposted 11 years ago

    Nothing, cause I am single and I love it.  Some day people will wake up and realize relationships aren't necessary at all for a happy fulfilled life.  In fact, I'm personally happier single with freedom than chained to some needy girl.

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       missa72542posted 11 years agoin reply to this

       You might think relationships aren't necessary, and maybe they aren't for you.
       But I am happier than I ever have been in my life with my boyfriend, even more than when I was single. I wouldn't trade it back for anything.

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       LauraGTposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Maybe you just need to find a not needy girl!    Seriously, I can respect someone's decision to be single, but I would caution against ruling out relationships because of a few bad apples!

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       jaredbangerterposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       lol :p i'm not blaming the girls i've been with.  i'm sure they would have been great in relationships with other guys.  it's just me.  i'm just not cut out to be a boyfriend.

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       missa72542posted 11 years agoin reply to this

       And some guys arent lol. I know a few who are happier not in a relationship.

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       cebutouristspotposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Being single has his pro's and con's and so does being in a relationship.
       
       Its a choice that everyone have to do.  If in your situation the pro's and con's of being single outweight the pro's and con's of being in a relationship then go for it.

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    marwan asmarposted 11 years ago

    Nothing much, in fact not a single thing, being a single does not suit me or my temperament.

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    Electro-Denizenposted 11 years ago

    Lying  sideways in a bed! Sprawling in all directions is no longer possible.

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       missa72542posted 11 years agoin reply to this

       lol I get this one, for sure.

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    LauraGTposted 11 years ago

    I'm really having a hard time with this one!  I think perhaps it's because I was unhappily single for long enough (met my husband at 31), that I very much appreciate all that being in a relationship brings. I think my husband and I have always supported each others' desires to do things. I don't think either of us feels like we've "lost our freedom" or our ability to be spontaneous.  We still do fun stuff when we want to, just usually together, by choice!  Now, having kids, on the other hand...

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       missa72542posted 11 years agoin reply to this

       The kids thing is tricky. But atleast me and my boyfriend agree that we don't want kids. If it happens, it happens but we aren't trying. We like our non-parent hobbies and activities too much lol.

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       LauraGTposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Ha!  I absolutely adore my kids, but they certainly impact your ability to be spontaneous or really to do anything "for yourself" (besides enjoying your children, of course!)

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    austinhealyposted 11 years ago

    Whether your music is stored on your computer or you use CDs or MP3 downloads, you could use headphones. There are some real good quality ones and maybe that would be the solution. As for what one misses about being single, in my case it would be not to be able sometimes to do what I want, when I want, which is just about what you're mentioning too. I insist on sometimes, because if I felt that way all the time, I should not be in a relationship. On the other hand, I wouldn't like to be with somebody who likes the same music, the same books, the same movies, the same food, etc. One of the most interesting parts of a relationship, in my opinion, is to discover someone who thinks differently, and does and likes different things. There is nothing more boring to me than a couple wearing the same christmas sweater, just in case somebody wouldn't notice they are a couple...

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       missa72542posted 11 years agoin reply to this

       I've tried different kind of headphones, but they just dont work for me. Every kind I've tried has hurt my ears & just gives me a headache. I use to just let my music from my laptop play. Its not something I mind giving up for him, I just miss it

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       Globetrekkermelposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Hahaha! I like the wearing the Same sweater part. I don'T Miss being single .i like  living double ,ha ha ha with
       particular  benefits.who says nobody can have the best Of bOth worlds. carpe diem and catch it while you can.

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    assimilatedposted 11 years ago

    I don't miss anything about being single.
    
    I'm glad to have learned more about me after getting into a long relationship with my partner.
    
    In fact I don't believe that there should be any differences before and after committing to your partner.
    
    Referring to your example: Why don't you sleep in different rooms if you want to listen to music?

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       missa72542posted 11 years agoin reply to this

       No, I couldn't imagine not sleeping with my boyfriend. The comfort and enjoyment I feel being in his arms is way better than the mild joy I get from listening to music. Music is no where near that important to me.

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       assimilatedposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       :-)
       
       I'm glad you say that and enjoy your relationship!

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       missa72542posted 11 years agoin reply to this

       I love him very much, lol. I miss listening to music at night, yeah. But I have no problem giving it up (Or a lot of other things for that matter) if it means being with him.

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