Do you confront the person your partner is cheating with or is this a no no?

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   alexandriaruthkposted 11 years ago

   Do you confront the person your partner is cheating with or is this a no no?
   
   Most would say not to confront the other person, but in terms of knowing what is exactly going on if the partner is not talking about. I am just saying you end up hurting yourself more if you do it? Do you agree with me?

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   JThomp42posted 11 years ago

   I don't know if it is just my personality, but I would have to confront the person who had just "helped" turn my life upside down. For me, this would be a must. I try to strive to be a good Christian man, but I suppose everyone has their limits.

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   heatherleexposted 11 years ago

   Well, I would confront my partner, and if they lie to my face, then I might just ask for a second opinion from the one they are cheating on me with.  Although, I might not discuss the matter for very long... I'd most likely just pack my things and go!

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   jennshealthstoreposted 11 years ago

   I say that it depends. If the person they are cheating with is a person that you know and who is aware of the situation then yes, I may confront them. In reality fighting with them is not worth anything. It would not solve one thing. People need to remember that sometimes the person your significant other is cheating with knows that they are in a relationship but sometimes they do not. And it is not ONLY the other persons fault. Your significant other IS guilty also. So many times I see people fighting with the other person involved but yet forgive their BF/GF right away. It does not make sense to me because your partner is the one who is betraying you the most, breaking your trust and their word. If you could work it out that is great, but if the other party was aware that the person they are dating is already attached, your words of confrontation are not really going to matter to them, just going to add fuel to the fire.

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   I wouldn't see the point of confronting "the other person" unless it was someone I thought was my friend. Cheating is an automatic "deal breaker" for me. I have no interest in knowing the (why, where, and how)

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      paxwillposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I feel the same way.

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   paxwillposted 11 years ago

   If you know your partner is cheating but he/she isn't talking about it, you have have to think carefully about what a confrontation with the other person is going to achieve.  You can't have a healthy relationship with a person who cheats, lies, and refuses to communicate, so very likely you are going to break up.  Once you break up, do you really need to know more details?  All a confrontation will do is make you more firm in your decision to leave. I think you're right that knowing the details can make the hurt even worse.

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   NornsMercyposted 11 years ago

   I would confront neither. I would gather my things and leave -- without all the drama. We're not cavemen who grunt anymore. We're grown people who can speak words to express what's on our minds. A cheater cheats when they're too lazy to express feelings of boredom in a relationship, when they're too childish to control their sexual urges, and/or they're so full of themselves that they think they can have anyone they want. Why waste breath, reasoning and time on someone who didn't do the same? Cheating on someone is insulting, disrespectful and pathetic and I would advise any victim of a dishonest partner to get far, far away immediately.

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