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How to overcome or move past a painful childhood?

  1. TnTgoodrich profile image66
    TnTgoodrichposted 6 years ago

    How to overcome or move past a painful childhood?

  2. rahul0324 profile image84
    rahul0324posted 6 years ago

    It is difficult but not impossible...there are a few steps to it... directive change of emotions, self-awareness and analysis... and corrective stance taking which is not easy to develop ... As a holder of experience in this field and one with broken childhood... I will make a hub about It

  3. peeples profile image94
    peeplesposted 6 years ago

    Get help and suck it up. I know that sounds harsh but that is the reality of it. I have already done hubs on surviving my childhood abuse. Different people deal different ways though.

    1. TnTgoodrich profile image66
      TnTgoodrichposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      sucking it up only leaves you with a bitter heart

    2. peeples profile image94
      peeplesposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Sucking it up may leave you bitter but it has made me a better person. Harping on it the rest of my life would make me bitter.

    3. TnTgoodrich profile image66
      TnTgoodrichposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      so true

  4. rahul0324 profile image84
    rahul0324posted 6 years ago

    Child Abuse is a menace all which flourishes all around the globe. As we talk, a child faces some kind of abuse. Unlucky children die of such scars. What about those who survive: Lucky or rather unluckier... How do we move past the pain? read more

  5. sandrabusby profile image84
    sandrabusbyposted 6 years ago

    We all have painful childhood memories to transform, some people have so many that it might seem like an impossible task.  My own painful childhood memories centered around my father's alcoholism and it's effects on our family.  I'm lucky, as painful memories go, those must fall somewhere in the middle.

    Nevertheless, in order to move past a painful childhood, it seems there are several things that  must happen.

    1.  To move past our pain, we must first acknowledge that it is there.  As long as we're in denial, we are stuck.

    2.  After admiting it, comes feeling it.  That is a long process, but slowly, slowly those memories can be restructured so that they fit into the total picture of our life story.

    3.  It helps to find someone who will listen without making judgments.  Patience is essential.

    4.  After we are well into those three steps, we can begin to build the life we want at which time it is helpful to understand how that process works, and then our energy goes into creating this new life.

    Good luck.  You are not alone.

  6. smzclark profile image59
    smzclarkposted 6 years ago

    A painful childhood can either be the making of a person or the breaking of a person; let it be the making of you.

    Learn from the pain. Don't forget it, don't be ashamed of it. Let it make you a better and more understanding person, rather than a bitter person.

    Make the most of your life now to make up for the pain you went through. I think that helping others who are going through what you went through helps.

    Don't feel sorry for yourself, but be glad that you are no longer suffering.

    1. TnTgoodrich profile image66
      TnTgoodrichposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Awesome answer

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    Dr Cilposted 6 years ago

    First of all, the hardest thing to do is forgive the person or persons who caused your painful childhood, then you can start to heal.  Seek counseling, and Ask God to help you.

  8. contentpundit profile image60
    contentpunditposted 6 years ago

    Painful situations are created by external circumstances in our life. As a grown up adult, you can stand against it and try to mitigate its impact.But what can you do if you experience pains in childhood when you were not mature enough to handle the situation.So just accept it as a plain vanilla destiny and thankful to god that those experience made you as a strong minded adult that you are now.

 
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