Poem: Lost Without You

1. 91

   Pamela99posted 2 years ago

   Take time to read Brenda's poem about the loss of a loved one, particularly when you are hospitalized.
   
   https://hubpages.com/literature/Poem-Lost-Without-You

   replyreport
   1. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for sharing this one.

      replyreport
   2. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Pamela...
      It is hard facing health issues without Ron.   
      I think that part will always be the hardest.
      
      Things like going to the fair without him are difficult, but I can face those with precious memories.

      replyreport
2. 91

   Pamela99posted 2 years ago

   Your poem that talks about the longing for your loved one, Brenda. When you are hospitalized and don't know what is causing your medical problems, that is scary. I  know that was such a difficult time foe you, and I hate it. Life can be so cruel sometimes. I wish you a healthier future Brenda. I like your very touching poem

   replyreport
   1. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Pamela...
      It's difficult when you've been accustomed to having someone there.
      
      Those bittersweet memories are there...the longing is there...but you know you must face this one alone.
      
      Others try ...but nothing can fill this void.
      
      Glad you liked it.

      replyreport
3. 59

   RozlinMohsinposted 2 years ago

   A heartfelt, touching poem, Brenda. I can understand, it's very difficult to pass the hard times without our loved ones. We are so attached to them that we can't even imagine life without them. Take care of yourself, dear. Almighty will surely help you move on ease.
   
   Thank you, Pamela for sharing Brenda's poem.

   replyreport
   1. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Rozlin...
      It's not an easy road...we were always there to help one another when health issues arised.
      
      God is with me.  I am not alone.
      
      It's just different.
      
      Thanks for reading.

      replyreport
   2. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I was so involved with being there for him...that I never stopped to realize that I would truly be alone to deal with my own health issues.
      
      A fact we all must face.  It happens.

      replyreport
   3. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Rozlin...
      No matter what happens...I do sense his presence.
      
      It's not the same as one sitting right there beside you, but it is something.

      replyreport
4. 75

   Misbah786posted 2 years ago

   Such a moving and heartbreaking poem. Dear Bredz, I know that whatever I say will not be enough to alleviate your pain, but please know that I understand your situation. Please don't be depressed or believe there is no one to ensure you that you are safe.
   You are protected. God is still there and will always be. He blessed you with Ron's love in this life, and He took Ron away from you in this life. Ron has passed away, but his love and memories will live on to comfort you. Isn't that a super miracle of God?
   
   You met him on earth, were separated on earth, but never forget that a glorious reunion is waiting for you in the hereafter. There would be no earthly woes or grief, only eternal love, and bliss. Ron's soul would never want to see you upset. So, smile for him and for us, because we all love you. Take care. Sending you healing hugs
   
   Thank you very much for sharing Brenda's hub, Pamela.
   Blessings and Love as always!

   replyreport
   1. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Misbah
      I'm okay.
      
      It's just those feelings came pouring over me while riding in the ambulance to hospital.
      
      It is a miracle that we have memories.   I hope there never comes a time when i forget them.
      
      But it's part of life.  We might all experience this sadness at some point, but luckily Ron didn't have too.
      
      I just miss it, but there will be lots of moments i miss and i will be sad...but i will make a new way..a new path to follow.
      
      Hugs for such lovely thoughts
      Bredz

      replyreport
      1. 75

         Misbah786posted 2 years agoin reply to this

         Hugs!

         replyreport
   2. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Misbah.
      Thank you so much for your kindness.
      Each day will forever hold memories in my heart, but thee days are getting better.
      I am home...just where I'm meant to be.
      
      Bredz

      replyreport
   3. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Hey gal...
      That wheel just keeps spinning.
      
      Ron's brother passed away today.  Confusion lingers in my heart.

      replyreport
   4. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      The reunion will no doubt happen when it is time, but the heartbreak of wanting someone to hold your hand exists here on earth.
      
      That's the hard path...going it alone.
      
      Everything else one can tackle.

      replyreport
5. 85

   Jodahposted 2 years ago

   Such a heartfelt poem Brenda. You describe your feelings perfectly, and what it must be like for many others who have to deal with illness alone. It must be difficult not having Ron by your side holding your hand.
   I have never even been in an ambulance would you believe? Touch wood. Anyway, it was a wonderful poem, and the songs you included were perfect.
   Thank you, Pamela, for sharing.

   replyreport
   1. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      John...
      Make sure you knock 3 time on Real Wood....i grew up with those superstitions.
      
      I really don't want you to know what it's like...but ambulances are there to help.
      
      Just can you trust the other driver's out there.
      
      I wrote this one from the heart.
      
      I'm certain there are others who feel this way.  Many have shared their lives together for many years...it must be do hard.
      
      Glad you enjoyed this write.

      replyreport
   2. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I pray you never need an ambulance.
      
      I'm certain others experience these same feelings.
      
      I have a habit of feeling things deeply. 
      I guess that's the writer inside of me.
      
      We feel & see things so much more.

      replyreport
6. 89

   ChitrangadaSharanposted 2 years ago

   Hi Brenda!
   It’s a heartfelt poem, and I am sure you must be feeling lighter after expressing your feelings in this poem. It’s quite natural to miss your loved ones, who took care of you in stressful times. It’s their love and the precious moments you have spent together, that act as strength to pull you through the difficult times.
   Nice pictures of both of you. Wish you all the best. Stay positive and strong.
   Thank you for sharing.
   Thank you Pamela for highlighting Brenda’s poem.

   replyreport
   1. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Chitrangada...
      I suppose it is his strength that still helps pull me through.
      
      I just never imagined what it would be like facing health issues without him.
      
      I knew who couldn't stay, but selfishly I wish he were still here.

      replyreport
7. 93

   AliciaCposted 2 years ago

   You’ve created a very moving poem, Brenda. It’s hard when we are separated from the ones that we love, even if the separation is temporary. It sounds like you had a lovely relationship with Ron.

   replyreport
   1. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Linda.
      When it came to being there for one another...we had one another's back.
      Our love shined through so strong.
      No one could deny our love...strangers often commented on how it was refreshing to see a couple so in love. 
      We were like teenagers walking hand in hand Christmas shopping.
      
      But no doubt, we had an ongoing uphill battle.  There were moments when we didn't think love was quite enough.
      
      I'm glad we managed to put that part behind us & spend quality time together before he passed.
      
      I will always remember the love he deeply showed each time I was ill. 
      We depended so much on one another.
      Our love was so deep that it cut us like a knife...we couldn't survive without the other.
      
      I guess that's why those memories came flooding back.

      replyreport
   2. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Linda...
      It's difficult when you are used to having that shoulder to help you through a crisis, but even more so when you want to celebrate good news...like my grant.
      Then....there's no one you want to celebrate the news with....
      I hope he heard me when I told him the great news...but I missed that hug.

      replyreport
8. 82

   surovi99posted 2 years ago

   I am touched by your poem, Brenda. I realize how your loved one, Ron was by your side in difficult times. I know it's hard without him. But as you said before, you will take it one day at a time and live moment to moment. We all feel for you and cheer for you as you get along with life every single day, trying to smile through good and not so good times ahead.
   
   Thanks Pamela for sharing her poetry.

   replyreport
   1. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Rosina
      Thank you.
      
      Yes.  One day at a time. 
      I guess times will be a bit difficult as I face moments like these without him here to push me forward.
      His eyes showed so much fear...afraid of losing me, but his words and embraces changed my fear into hope.
      He always gave me the strength to fight harder.
      
      No doubt I miss him, but I will make it through to another day.
      I'm glad this poem touches others.

      replyreport
9. 81

   PurvisBobbi44posted 2 years ago

   Brenda,
   
   Yes, the tears came as I can relate to your heartfelt emotions. There are no meds to erase the pain of a great loss in one's life, nor does time.  Almost six years have passed, and I wake to the pain every single morning.
   
   However, I am a positive person and so when I feel myself starting to have a pity party--I do something to help others. And that works for me.
   
   Love to you Brenda, and all your many friends on and off HubPages---we have your back.
   
   XOXOXO,
   Bobbi Purvis

   replyreport
   1. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Bobbi..
      Thanks for being honest.
      
      So many people tell me it will get better, but I think of him each morning.
      While in the hospital...I really wanted him by my side.  I guess we grow accustomed to things in our life, but I know God is with me...so I'm not alone.
      It's just not the same.  Nothing ever will be.
      My feet must walk a new path.
      
      My heart however, will keep those memories tucked away.
      
      Sorry you know this heartbreak.   But I do think it helps to keep those moments alive. 
      When someone passes...it doesn't erase him from your life...Nor Should It.

      replyreport
   2. 81

      Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Bobbi...
      I hope you are having a great fourth of July.
      
      It's difficult, but I suppose we learn to do different things & make new memories.
      
      July 4th was always a great time.
      We took our very first vacation over this holiday.
      
      The memories of each year... touch my heart.
      
      So this day is special in more ways than one.

      replyreport
10. 84

    Peggy Wposted 2 years ago

    Thanks Pamela for sharing Brenda's heartfelt poem.  Facing life without Ron must be so hard.  My heart goes out to you.  At some point we all lose special loved ones.  May your memories of Ron keep you warm at night and help you get through each day.  Hugs and love to you.

    replyreport
    1. 81

       Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

       Peggy
       Thank you.
       
       His memory does help.
       There are times when I can tell the kitty-cats miss him too.
       
       But his memory surrounds us.
       My favorite room is our family room which he remodeled himself.
       It's mostly wood tones.
       
       

       replyreport
11. 82

    Treshtyposted 2 years ago

    Memories makes us feel they are near.  He is always with you Ms Brenda
    And he wants you to be strong just like always. (wink)
    
    I can feel Your words to the bone
    I love you and sending hugs!!!!!
    I want to give you a puppy but you are so far.

    replyreport
    1. 81

       Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

       Awe Chrish..
       Thanks, but I don't know if my kitty-cats would like a puppy.
       
       They run when the neighbors dog barks.
       
       I got the wink though.  Definitely got to keep being strong.
       
       Thank you
       Brenda

       replyreport
12. 81

    PurvisBobbi44posted 2 years ago

    Brenda,
    
    My Internet in Never-Neverland keeps bleeping off. I will say this fast--loved your poems and happiness are waiting for your heart to open up to a new beginning---and I can also say this to myself--but I do not listen to me.
    
    Have a great weekend---get out of the house and join the world---if only I took my own advice.
    
    Your Hub Friend,
    
    Bobbi Purvis

    replyreport
    1. 81

       Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years agoin reply to this

       Thanks so much Bobbi...
       We seldom take our own advice.
       
       I've actually enjoyed most of this weekend at home & it's been nice.

       replyreport
13. 81

    Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years ago

    I found myself lost and alone...not a medical emergency..but a heartbreak.
    It's been 8 months....
    Each time I think I'm I'm close to moving on....
    I realize I'm no where close.

    replyreport
14. 81

    Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years ago

    Val...
    This one i know you will relate too

    replyreport